Why is he so confusing?

You can’t fix him.. I hate to say it, but it sounds like you married a dud.

And you are staying with him because?

He is venting all lifes frustrations on you. This is a form of abuse You need to stand up for yourself despite his yelling or it will just continue to get worse.

Get counselling and if he becomes dangerous get out and do not go back.

If you have health insurance look at the back of your card. Most have mental health coverage and they will help you.

Drama king. I don’t know the cure, but I feel for you. Could he be bi-polar?

1) Go on holiday with your girlfriends for a week and leave him in the middle of dirty dishes and laundry.

2) When you dress up for going out and at the last second he says that he doesn’t want to go anymore just say ‘That’s no problem honey, since I already dressed up I’ll found someone else to go out with, have a nice evening at home, see you later.’

Leave him boiling over his weird and un-motivated reactions.

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does he drink? it sounds like behavior of an alcoholic.

I am wondering why you tolerate such behavior. i used to go out with someone like that and i left him because that behavior gets tiring after a while.

you deserve better.

Counseling- If he joins with you it’s a plus, but do it for yourself. Do not condone the behavior or accomodate it out of fear. If you are truly afraid physically leave immediately and employ help. If it’s just argument talk it out with a professional objective third party. Also he may be establishing distance for another reason- he may want out of the relationship. he may feel guilty for adultery or there might be a chemical depression.
Good Luck.

It sounds like he is trying to manipulate and control you. I don’t know why or what his issues are. Just remember – this is about him, not you. It is not your fault he behaves like this.

This sounds like big trouble to me. Constantly picking fights, erratic behavior, blaming you for things. Since you married him, I presume you must love him. So, I would get to a marriage counselor.

You don’t mention having children, which, from what you are describing in this short note, would be a good thing. As much as I believe in working things out, without children, you have more flexibility. You really need to stand up and be strong, get help, don’t let him intimidate you.

Good luck.

Your husband is being manipulative and (in my opinion) abusive.
I would also question if alcohol is a factor.
You can not change him. You can, however, change how you react to his behavior.
Get some counseling.

I want to add one more thing to the conversation.

If you let him treat you like a doormat he will.
Furthermore if he sees you as a doormat long enough you will bore him.
If you continue to accept his treatment he will very likely leave you for someone who interests him more.

Ironic isn’t it?

I don’t know how someone could be that butthurt. Jealousy, insecure, resentment? It could be anything. I would just ignore him until he realizes he shouldn’t be taking me for granted.if all else fails you know what u gotta do.