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How can a shy girl get the attention of a boy she likes?

Asked by weakheart (9points) October 17th, 2009

Hey I’m Jazmine and there’s this boy that I really like and we are quite good friends but its hard for us to meet up! I really need help with dropping the hints…any ideas? I’m quite far behind on dating so I need to understand what to say and how do i know if he likes me back. I mean, he’s shy and so am I so we never know what to say kinda thing.how do I let him know I like him ?

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Sarcasm's avatar

Instead of dropping hints, just tell him you’re attracted to him.

jackm's avatar

Tell him you like him.

weakheart's avatar

i Forgot to mention that im new to dating. . .how do i say “i like you” to him? i dont understand…

derekfnord's avatar

You just did it. :-) It’s always risky to rely on hints to guys. We often miss them. Just tell him, “Hey, I’m attracted to you as more than just a friend. Are you interested too?”

jackm's avatar

You just say it.

It seems hard, but do it.

Brenna_o's avatar

Just tell him you really like him. If your to shy to tell him in person then write him a note. It sounds kind of childish advice, but for alot of people its hard to confront people in person and a note is something simple and you can confess your feelings on neutral ground. If he likes you back he’ll be exstatic if not he’ll write back and say no. What have you got to loose?

dpworkin's avatar

Most people get some parchment, some indigo, some gold leaf, some ochre, azurite, etc. and illuminate a document that plights their troth. It should only take you a few months, unless you tan your own parchment.

holden's avatar

Just ask him “do you want to go out?” if he outright says no, then it wasn’t meant to be and you can be glad you didn’t waste your time chasing a boy who’s not interested in you. The worst thing that can happen is your feelings might be hurt for a little while but you’ll move on.
Alternatively, if you continue to rely on subtle hint-dropping to get your point across, you may never get anywhere and you’ll only succeed in annoying him and disappointing yourself.

janbb's avatar

I agree with @holden. I think if you’re very shy, it is awfully hard to tell someone you like them flat-out. I would just ask, “Do you want to hang out sometime?” and if he has any brains, he’ll get the message.

Judi's avatar

If you’re looking for subtle hints (these are old school but, I’m old and I think they still work.)
Smile when you see him and make eye contact
Listen to him and respond to what he says. Let him know that you really care about what he has to say.
Ask questions that allow him to talk about himself. Ask follow up questions when he reveals things about himself.
Touch his hand or his shoulder when opportunity arises.
Touch your hair.
These things seem silly and simple, but they are “flirting signals,” and are non verbal ways that we communicate interest. Some people do it naturally and sub consciously.
Many moons ago, when I was in Jr High, My first love told me that he knew I liked him when we were in the library an he bent down to find a book and I bent down to help him. Sounds weird, but that little thing I did naturally communicated something to him.
I wish I could find a better word than “flirt,” that’s the only word I can think of for the natural “courtship dance,” we humans do. It comes really easy for some, and others have a tougher time. I did these things sub consciously when I was interested in a guy. Now that I’m an old married woman and have had many years to observe, I have noticed the specific behaviors that made me a “successful flirt,” back in the day.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Start with smiling at him, and saying that you’re really glad to see him, when you do see him. Tell him you’ve been thinking about him, and how nice you think he is. Everyone likes to hear people say nice, sincere things about them. Be genuine.

weakheart's avatar

Thank you all your responses have been amazing and helpful and i promise ill try some out ^^ but dont stop posting i like to hear all the advice i can get

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