Once you catch someone in a lie, do you think they own up to all of the details behind the lie?

Cheating and lying, while similar, are two different things. Cheating could involve avoiding any mention of what’s going on. Depending on the nature of the lie, I think most people skim the truth, and tell only the parts that are the highlights of the truth.

I suspect that for some people, since they lied in the first place, it wouldn’t be in their own best interests to reveal all of the sordid details since it will only lead them deeper into trouble at that point. I realize that is kind of a cynical view of the whole thing but there is probably truth to it.

On the other hand, if someone is caught in a lie, imagine how much better it would feel to just reveal everything at that point and get it off your shoulders and not have to stress and feel guilty about it any more. Just come clean, take what’s coming to you and be done with it. That would make sense to me.

And when all is said and done, even though it is cliche, Honesty is always the best policy.

@Bluefreedom Exactly. People know I am the honesty person, so when I ask for details behind a lie, I expect all of them. Otherwise, I will just have to go looking for the details on my own… and i always find them. i am one sneaky person. When I find them, discover they only gave me a few details, I will be more angry than if they had just told the complete truth.

If you found out because they themselves didn’t tell you, no, not generally. If they admitted it on their own, I think people would generally be far more willing to admit all of the truth. I think that’s the case because by admitting it in the first place, it generally means some part of them feels badly about it. If you had to sneak around to find out about it, they were probably more than happy to keep it from you, and to do so as long as possible.

Probably not. If they lied in the first place they are wanting to hide something. I doubt they are going to fess up to all the nasty details.

Falsus en unum, falsus en omnibus.

I say NO! If there cheating and lying about it in the first place, then what’s the chances of any honesty at all out of that person?

Since they’re lying in the first place, probably not.

In my opinion they continue to lie and skim the truth usually.

if the lie is not going to change the world as we know it, not really, maybe the whole mess was just a moment of bad judgement…

From personal experience, they tell the minimum amount of information and hope you believe them enough to let it go.

I had a boyfriend cheat on me once. I forgave him, but I kept finding out more details from other people as time went on. I would ask him about it every time and say, “is that the entire truth this time?” and he always said yes. I know he did it because he thought I would never stay with him if I knew everything, but the level of distrust that came out of dragging it out was much more damaging to our relationship, my self-esteem and my respect for him.

I believe most people get skim on the details, they’ll admit the big oopses and hope that’s enough for them not to feel like shite so badly and for you to feel they’ve suffered enough feeling like shite.

question what do u do when a crazy relationship of ups and downs and never thought in a million years that my girl would would cheat on me and i just got the news of my life from some one that could never lie because he is so close to her but she will lie and get mad because she got cought what do i do now that love the girl but even though my whole relationship is a lie for 5 years….....