I am shy what should I do to change that?

Put yourself in slightly uncomfortable situations regularly. Over time, they will be easy situations, and you will be moving on to what would be very uncomfortable at this point.

It sounds like you have plenty of confidence in yourself when it has to do with something you know- such as giving a talk or presentations, but when it comes to individual relationships, you lack confidence. Am I right or way off?

I am not sure about how you get some, I am sort of the same way. If you find anything that works, let me know :)

It doesn’t sound like you have a big problem. Certainly, it doesn’t sound like anything clinical. It sounds to me as though you just need some practice.

When you sit down to have an intimate, or even friendly, conversation with someone, think of them as a huge audience that’s cheering and applauding. Shift your eyes from feature to feature, never allowing yourself to be frightened by the whole face, till you get your groove on. Then you can try flicking your glance over to the whole face till that feels safe too. Soon you’ll be looking deep into people’s eyes and making THEM nervous.

practice the opposite.

Go up to someone in a public place and say hi. I’ll wait until after high school to try this out because then most people will be at a mature enough age that they won’t be of such horrible douchebaggedness™.

Encourage yourself to meet more people. go to community centers, etc. because the more comfortable you feel around people, then better you’ll become socially in the long run

GO STREAKING IN WALMART ..IT MIGHT HELP YOU GET OVER BEING SHY

Say hi to someone new everyday. It can be a random walking down the street or a sales associate, just as long as it’s a stranger.
Just say “hi”, if you want to start a conversation, great; if they start it, even better.

Those who suggest putting yourself out there in uncomfortable social situations are correct. Speaking from experience here it does get easier.

I broke out of my shell at 20 by forcing myself to take a job that required me to interact in a “social” way repeatedly every day. In my case it was to enter car sales…. A baptismby fire so to speak.

Any kind of job that requires you to interact socially would work. I don’t mean an order taker or something that use a script, something you need to think on your feet.

A new job might be drastic of course so here’s a few ideas:

Say hi to people when you are standing in line or pass by them.

Talk to people who are working. They ate paid to be nice to you. No rejection or feeling foolish. Comment on their job “wow you guys seem slammed today is it usually this busy?”. Go from there.. It can be something super simple that will get a conversation going, take their side in the convo and see their reaction light up.

The main thing is just to start trying. If your ok with bars or nightclubs it’s a great place to start. Since you have no real expectation other then meeting people and being friendly you’ll find butterflies disappear fast.

Hi what’s your name? I’m Anthony. What are you up to tonight/anything exciting going on/I’m new around here maybe you can help me out, what is there around here to do for fun.. What do you do… Etc.

Join a group that meets regularly to discuss some topic in which you are interested. That will give you many opportunities to talk with others. You will find that despite your anxieties, nothing bad will happen. This kind of experience will help reduce your social anxieties and it will increase youe confidence.

nah…streaking is what you need to do ,, go to a baseball game ..and run out on the field naked…that will break the ice