How easily do you fall in love?

I don`t think you can really “predict” when you will be falling in love. Often it depends very much on your own mental and emotional condition. If you`re not open to falling in love, you won`t, no matter how inclined the stars are.

Yes I agree with you, I have been in love twice. My last relationship lasted 6 years and I never loved him.

I’ve fallen in love twice in my life….. once when I was young, in University, & again more recently. I seem to fall very quickly. With the more recent occasion, I had just started a new job, I had seen, out of the corner of my eye, a very attractive blonde woman in the next office. I sort-of engineered going to lunch at the same time, & it was like I’d had a ton of bricks dropped on my head….. in a good way. I pretty much knew immediately.
I cant really explain why this happened as it slightly contradicts my view of the world… I cant imagine falling for someone slowly.

I have a hard enough time with attraction. I might have been in love with a guy I used to work with or just a really hard crush. I hope it happens someday.

For me it was easy as I met the right girl who made it real easy to love her. But to do so was far and few between…that was the hardest part.

I think im in love, but its with someone out of my reach. so i guess i eill never no for sure. :(

97% of the time, butter wouldn’t melt in my mouth. But the other 3% of the time, it’s a doozy, I daresay! For it to be love for me, there has to be that point where everything meets: I like the guy’s looks, I like his personality, I’m not tongue-tied around him, he’s not taken and he likes me, too. This has only happened once. And it wasn’t any of my boyfriends. The guy and I didn’t get together because by the time a deeper relationship could have happened, he was offered a job with the State Department and I was still at uni. :(

At least from what I understand, today he is happily married with kids, so good for him. :)

Other guys I wanted to get to know very much, but never got to know past a barely audible greeting or two and running away from them as quickly as possible. I was too frightened that I was below their league. I never even gave those guys a chance to get to know me; I made the judgement for them. That’s controlling and that’s wrong. Don’t do that! If you find you want to honestly know someone better and they you, there’s none of that “league” BS. Just be open and yourself.

Anyway that’s my “PSA of Love” for today.

Well being a single guy at my stage in life I tend to fall in love every time I venture to the supermarket ( almost every day ) being quite fickle I tend to get flustered a lot & need to sit down, well what do you expect when the affections we all need are sometimes slow in coming (pardon the expression :-/)

Still waiting for those bricks to fall on my head as @JeffVader put it ;-)

First time I fell in love was under the Eiffel Tower in Paris. Sort of cheesy I know, but true, it was love at first sight. I just never saw her again, though I looked. We were both from the states, and she lived in a town close to me. Like a fool, I didnt get her number. Second time and last I totally fell, and I know why they say “fall in love” because it was like falling, from a ten storey building. When you don’t think you can and then realize you did as it’s ending for good, that hurts. I don’t know if I will ever fall in love again, guess I am careful now.

When I was young, falling in love was easy.
As you lose relationships, it is like your heart being scarred, and it is harder to fall in love.
It took about 7 months for me to feel the love I had for the woman who was to be my wife.

It’s easy if you’re open to the pain.

What makes us fall in love so easy? What makes us take years to fall in love?
Trust and wanting to.

I have never fallen in love… it’s easy for me to like a person. But I cant say I will fall in love with them.

@filmfann Sweet answer, thank you.

I think that “love” is a misnomer that we throw around too easily. I know that when I was younger I thought I was in love a few times but the feeling faded and I came to realize that I did not know love. I have loved two men in my life, my husband was not one of them. I’m not with either man today, though I’d give anything for circumstances to permit me to be with the one.
I believe that it is possible for me to love another man, truly, but I’m not shopping. It happened quickly with the second man, I was completely overwhelmed in a matter of days.
I can’t explain the why anymore than I can explain any other force of nature.

So easy that I avoid it.

@ChazMaz That’s what I used to do, but got fed up of having sex with men I weren’t attracted to.

Well, then don’t have sex.

Have all te sex you want, just dont let him fuck with your head.

@slick44 I’ll tell you what….... I soooo misread what you wrote!

@JeffVader… whatever do you mean? I should have said pun intended

@slick44 No, it’s all me….. I read your post too quickly…. where you wrote “dont let him fuck with your head” I saw “dont let him fuck your head”

@JeffVader… oh i see lol. Ya i guess thats pretty funny.

Every time I see a short skirt coupled with a decent chasis.

@Sophief: Have you thought of getting another hobby besides picking the scabs off of love and its ancillary behaviors? You seem truly obsessed. I worry about you and I hope you don’t read this as being unkind.

For me, it’s easy to fall in love. I find there to be many wonderful women in the world. But it’s not always healthy for me to fall in love. I can use it as a kind of drug to make me feel better.

That comes from self-esteem issues. The thing that makes me feel best about myself is when someone is in love with me. This is not something that makes my wife happy. So, my frustrated urges to find someone who will reaffirm that I’m lovable tend to make me a little more nasty to my wife, which is bad. Very bad.

In the long run, I have to figure out how to feel good about myself without getting a new woman, no matter how wonderful she is, to confirm it. The problem is that, while there is a rush from falling in love, it doesn’t really fix my problem. I don’t think anyone can fix this problem for me.

I think a lot of people use love this way. If you are insecure, what can make you feel better than to know someone is batshit over you? Of course, it’s got a built in time bomb attached, because when things break apart—and they often do when a relationship is built on desperation—the pain of loss is so much deeper. I could tell you about that, but that’s too depressing.

I’m sure there are other reasons why people fall in love easily. I’ll bet there are other reasons why I have done that so many times in my life. But low self-esteem is the one that seems most obvious to me.

Too easily.

I’ve not done it yet. But perhaps because I’m young.

Drop of a hat

I think quick attraction comes easy with me but falling in a lasting love takes time. Although I was instantly attracted to my partner when I met her, and I felt strong feelings of fondness toward her I think after getting to know her, both our likes and dislikes, I can truly say that I love her like no other.

With things? Easily.
With books? About 20 pages in.
With people? Never have (yet).

In the classical sense, falling in Love, don’t happen more than once. I love only one girl, apparently its quite intense.

I get attracted to others, but won’t say its love as i know. If at all someone has taken more of my attention then it will be because she posses certain features of my girl.

Not very but when I do then it’s an all in deal. People always ask what superpower we wished we had, well I wish mine was to be able to make myself fall out of love quickly when it looks like I getting shafted.

So incredibly quickly. The deeper in love I am though, the less able I am to recognize it. It took me a years to realize I had been deeply in love with a girl that I had stopped speaking to. I cried for a while :/. But when it is a shallow love, I realize very quickly and end up confessing to them while caught up in the moment, and then dumping them very soon after because my feelings had faded. Its freaking confusing. And then there are some people that I can’t even tell or remember if I am or was in love with them, but for now lets just say I have fallen in love twice.

It depended on my age. As a teen-ager I fell in hormones every day.

All depends on the heart of the person.

I can’t, I gave my heart to the ocean by performing a Viking Voodoo fusion ritual, involving Jack Daniel’s and phosphorescent waves at 4:00 o’clock in the morning. Then I married a tree.