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How do I tell my mom about a bad grade?

Asked by rentluva5256 (555 points ) May 29th, 2010

I have a C in one of my classes, and that means I won’t be on the honor roll this semester. But, that also means I won’t get an academic letter, which is very important to my mom. She’s going to find out sooner or later, but I don’t know if I should wait until report cards come out and she finds out herself, or if I should tell her myself. And if so, how?

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marinelife's avatar

Just sit her down and say, “Mom, I am afraid that you are going to be disappointed in me.” (In your own words.) Then just tell her. If you are rededicating yourself to doing better next semester, tell her that too.

Remember, she loves you. And not just for your grades.

janbb's avatar

“Mom, I know you’ll be disappointed but I want to tell you I am getting a C in one of my classes.” She loves you for you, not your grades, and she will deal with it. Nobody but nobody is perfect.

janbb's avatar

Zheesh @marinelife, why don’t we just flip a coin as to who answers the question? Do you want a Coke or a latte next weekend?

marinelife's avatar

@janbb See your private comments!

ragingloli's avatar

Yeah, just tell her out right. She will not kill you for getting a C (I hope).
As my former headmaster used to say a 4 (equals a D) is a positive grade.
D is pass. passing is good and good is B.

zenele's avatar

Mom, sit down. I’m pregnant and have aids. I need you to love me and support me anyway. When she picks herself off the floor, tell her you’re just kidding – it’s just a C on your report card.

john65pennington's avatar

I came home one time in junior high school and wondered the same thing. i had received a C in math and i knew what was coming. in order save my mother from having to go pickup our “family paddle”, i had it and my report card waiting for her on the kitchen table. she came in from the mailbox and i prepared for the worst. i knew i was about to “meet our family paddle, again”. i was not a bad son, but math was just not high on my priority list in school. as i prepared for the worst, my mother looked at my grade and said, “you can do better. at least, you received an A in conduct and thats most important”. i will never forget that day. my rearend was prepared for a “tuneup” by my mother, but it never happened. my next report card had a B+ in math and that made everybody happy.

zenele's avatar

@And that’s how @john65pennington grew up to be a policeman.

;-)

john65pennington's avatar

Zenele, it happened sorta that way.

zenele's avatar

@john65pennington Me too, buddy, me too.

ragingloli's avatar

my parents did not give a fly’s shit about my grades

Nullo's avatar

@marinelife‘s answer is applicable to quandaries of responsibility that extend beyond grades. In the Real World, ‘fessing up early both looks good and sometimes allows you to get your side of the story in first.

ParaParaYukiko's avatar

I understand your anxiety about telling your mom about your bad grade. I don’t know the details of your relationship with your mom as far as grades go, but for some families they are a very big deal. Let me just tell you, it’s much better to tell your mom in person than have her find out by reading your report card. That way she will know you are brave enough to own up to your mistakes instead of ignoring them.

I was always a good student, but I did have a couple of hard semesters in high school and college where I did quite badly. My parents were a bit disappointed but they were more concerned with my personal wellbeing than a letter on a piece of paper. Really, one C and one semester off honor roll will not make a huge difference in the scheme of things. If you’re in high school, you can still get into a good college or university. And individual grades mean even less after you get your bachelor’s degree.

Just take a deep breath and tell her up front about it. She may be upset at first, but she will realize (it may take some time) that one C is not the end of the world.

bolwerk's avatar

Probably best to come up with an explanation (a good one) as to why happened, and be ready with how you plan to fix the problem next.

Don’t get too hung up on grades though. There are more important things in life, like learning!

talljasperman's avatar

I would love to have a C… It means you finally found something challenging…. I made it to an University with a C- average…mind you it was a religious university full of mixed nuts…but It was an university none the less.

perspicacious's avatar

Just take a deep breath and say it.

rentluva5256's avatar

Thank you to all! I just told my mom and she did NOT bite my head off. I told her I would try much much harder next time. And, she forgave me. So, thank you sooooo much!! :D

Nullo's avatar

@rentluva5256 Glad we could help!

perspicacious's avatar

She didn’t need to forgive you. You did nothing to harm her. Making poor grades only harms you. I’m glad she didn’t go into orbit though.

worldshaker's avatar

I got a E in science and when i got the report i burnt it whith a lighter

Luffle's avatar

You should just tell her. She might be upset but she will be more upset if she finds out on her own. If it isn’t too late, she’ll probably try to help you find a way to raise your grade like find you a tutor.

Hannibalfan's avatar

Oh, NO! Don’t wait until the report card comes out! It’s best to warn her first before she finds out herself. Believe me, I know exactly where you are, and if you wait, oh! It’s going to bad. Just start easy: “Hey, Mom, I was in school today and I checked my grades, and I thought it’d be best for you to find out from me rather than a piece of paper…” Tell her all that you’ve done to try your best: that should take some of the heat off you.

Austinlad's avatar

Straight out, now—it’s the best way. Remember that scene in “Juno” when she has to tell her parents about her situation. They were a bit disappointed, but they quickly got over that and jumped in to help her. Bet it’ll be the same for you.

gorgeousgal3's avatar

Your mom will love you even with a disappointing grade as long as you are still giving your best effort.Did you have all A’s before or were you like me who would always try my hardest to get all A’s but would end up with A’s , B’s ,and C’s?

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