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Did you attend your 10th or 20th grad reunion?

Asked by tranquilsea (17238 points ) July 22nd, 2010

I have my 20th reunion coming up in September and I’ve decided not to go. I just barely knew most of the people I went to school with and those that I did know better I’m happy not knowing now.

How about you? Did you go? Did you have a good time? Were you happy you went?

Conversely, if you didn’t go, why not? Are you content with your decision?

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BoBo1946's avatar

Attend the 10th, and have not been back since. My decisions was based on conflicits due too usually a golf tourn., and did not go. I need to go to the next one. Was going to the last one, but got too hot working in the yard and stayed on the recliner all weekend.

Certainly can understand why you are not going. Barely knew the people in your class. That would be no fun. Think i would forget about it.

Ron_C's avatar

I was quite happy to get away from high school and have never went to a class reunion. I moved away from the city when I was 18 and only returned to visit my Dad and other relatives.

That’s fine with me. It has no been 46 years since I graduated and have never had the least desire to go back to my old school. My wife went to the same school and she isn’t interested in reliving the experience either. During high school my wife and I had many interests outside of the school (including each other). I think high school may have been the high point in many of my classmates lives, but not for us.

Frankly, we were not in the popular cliques, now, we are (ffankly) too good to associate to socialize with most of our former classmates.

aprilsimnel's avatar

No, I didn’t go to my 20th. I didn’t see the point in going. I went to two different high schools; one for grades 9 and 10, another for grades 11 and 12. Hardly anyone knew me at the first school and at the second school, my friends were either in the class ahead of or behind me.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I went to my 5 year.My how people aged! giggles;)

BoBo1946's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille you ain’t seen nothing yet. My high school flame…one of the beauties etc etc…she had aged something unreal. me, look the same! loll

Likeradar's avatar

I didn’t go to my 10 year. My reason for not going is that I didn’t much like most of those people then, and I keep in touch with the people I care about. And through the magic of Facebook, I know who looks good, who is now in porn, who’s on their third divorce, who went from being a cokehead cheerleader to being a missionary, etc.

I regret it just a little. I’ve changed a lot and think I’m different in many ways since high school, and it would have been interesting to see what people are up to and like on a more personal level.

Cruiser's avatar

I had and still have no desire to see a bunch of spoiled primadonnas ever again. I graduated early just to get the hell out of that school.

aprilsimnel's avatar

@Likeradar – There’s a guy who was a year ahead of me in high school who was known for basically being the ”Zonker Harris” of his class. Blond with a perma-lizard tan, always smoking a doobie, kind of a male airhead, etc. etc. Now? Ultra-right-wing Christian and apparent Quiverfull adherent (he’s got a bunch of kids). It’s amazing how people can change.

Jude's avatar

I didn’t. But, through Facebook, I get to see everyone. I actually wanted to go, but, I was sick with the plague. I’m more so bummed that I didn’t get to go to my elementary school reunion (it was on the same weekend). We were a pretty tight-knit group.

Man, people have aged quite a bit.

Austinlad's avatar

I was never close to anyone in highschool, but I talked myself in going to me 20th (this is very long time ago). Okay, so there I was, 38, single, looking lean and mean, wearing a very cool outfit, feeling VERY confident. From across the room I spot a woman who had been Miss Popular and upon whom I’d had a huge crush. Of course, for the entire three years of highschool she had ignored me, always looking through me as if I were invisible. So now I stride across the room, tap her on the shoulder and when she turns I say, “Hello Sharon. You look fantastic! ” (someting I never would have said in highschool.) She glances at my name badge and then looks right through me as if I’m invisible, mumbles a lame thank you, and turns back to the person she was talking to. Some things never change. That was my last reunion.

Rufus_T_Firefly's avatar

I didn’t go to any of my reunions, except for the five-year reunion and all that did was make me a hundred bucks poorer and reminded me of why I disliked the ‘jock’ mentality to begin with.

Flowergurl's avatar

I’ve never attended any of my reunions. My small graduating class of 80 people was ruled by the cheerleader clique and the jocks. That group was absolutely terrible in their behavior toward the average kids in our class. They constantly made fun of how you dressed, where you lived, or even what type of job your parents might of had at the time. I heard through the grapevine that most of the reunions were only attended by that group and checked out one of their albums on classmates, and sure enough they were all together at the reunion with only two non-clique classmates in attendance. Needless to say, the two non-clique people looked miserable!

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Haven’t gone to 10th, 20th or 30th, nor do I plan on going to the 40th in 2012. I had nothing in common with them and we didn’t get along then. No reason to believe anything has changed.

jazmina88's avatar

went to 20 and 30 last year.

forget about it. Those kids have not grown up. Snotty brats still now.

downtide's avatar

I went to the 10, and felt totally out of place, hated every minute of it, went home early and will never go again.

tranquilsea's avatar

I suspected that many people had no-so-great experiences by knowing how my high school years panned out. I once heard a guy explain that if he ever heard a girl say she loved high school he immediately knew what kind of girl she was.

That group, the one that likes to call themselves popular when in reality they are the antithesis of that, made everyone’s life hell. I stayed away from them but my frenemies were constantly trying to make a go into the group. It took me a few years after I graduated to cut those ties but I did and felt great about doing so. The only thing we had in common was our location.

I’ve connected with the people I did like in high school that I had lost contact with. Thinking about going and reliving those hellish years is not my idea of a good time.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I went to both. Got voted “sexiest gramma” at my 20th. Didn’t go to my 30th, though. I had a nice time.

tranquilsea's avatar

@Dutchess_III I’m glad to hear someone had a good time!

Dutchess_III's avatar

@tranquilsea I did! In HS you’re so worried about who is popular and who isn’t, but after 10 or 20 years, it really shouldn’t matter any more, and it didn’t. It was interesting to see where people were after 10 or 20 years.

YARNLADY's avatar

No, and my 50th high school reunion is coming up next year and I won’t attend that one either. There were over 1000 people in my high school graduating class and not a single one of them was my friend.

All my friends were in our church youth group, and I spent most of my time working with church activities, rather than school.

Luffle's avatar

I have no plans to go to my 10th reunion. Facebook provides enough to satisfy my curiosity about how my former classmates are, but in general, I wouldn’t force myself to go to an event to see people who weren’t important enough for me to keep in touch with.

Someone who had a positive experience in high school might be more inclined to go.

Jeruba's avatar

I didn’t. I thought about it for a few seconds and then thought, “I didn’t really enjoy being among those folks in the first place. Why would I travel 3000 miles or even just ten to be with them now?”

When the group photo came out, the only people I even recognized were all the jocks and cheerleaders and “popular” kids I never had anything in common with anyway.

A few years ago I planned a mini-reunion for just the few I wanted to see. It had been 40 years, but we all knew each other right away. We had a great time.

downtide's avatar

@Jeruba I like the idea of a mini-reunion. At the age of 60 my mum got back in touch with her school best friend, after not seeing her for about 40 years, and now they’re best friends all over again.

Jeruba's avatar

@downtide, there were eight of us, two from the West Coast, five from the Eastern Seaboard from north to south, and one from Israel. We’d never all done anything together before, but subgroups of us had. When we all hugged each other good-bye, I laughed at how surprised my 16-year-old self would have been to imagine myself ever hugging those particular male classmates. No massive organized all-class event could have been as much fun as our small afternoon and evening were.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

For my 30th college reunion, Meg sent them a cardboard cutout of me in desert cammies, field glasses hanging around my neck like Rommel; I was in the ‘Stan’ at the time.I never heard how that was recieved, but I ROFL when she told me.

reijinni's avatar

I sort of went to my 10th at a park. Didn’t go to the one in the evening due to scheduling and monetary reasons. My 20th hasn’t occurred yet.

downtide's avatar

I went to my 10th and hated every momen of it as much as I hated being at school in the first place. I stayed an hour and left, and when my invite for the 20th arrived I tossed it in the bin.

If I got one for the 30th (in 4 years time) I’d go, just for the amusement of seeing all their faces when they see that girl they knew is now a bloke. That would be priceless.

tranquilsea's avatar

Awesome @downtide! You should completely do it.

YARNLADY's avatar

No, not even my 50th. I did not enjoy my high school, and had zero friends.

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