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Do you get along with your older brother?

Asked by babygalll (2748points) April 5th, 2008

My older brother and I used to get along so well until he got married. We used to talk all the time and do things together. We always did favors for each more than him. Now we barely talk. Doesn’t even call to say hi or see how I am doing. I still do a lot for him and his wife and I NEVER even get a thank you out of either of them. Any suggestions?

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bluemukaki's avatar

Well my brother and I used to fight all the time but then we got older and it was just stupid to argue. He went to university so we don’t have any way of fighting!

People just need to stop for a while and talk. Tell him that he’s being an ass (you can get away with it because you’re his family), if you used to get along so well he’ll realise what he’s doing to your relationship.

rking1487's avatar

It sounds like he might be unhappy with his marriage and that’s why he has treated you differently. Most of the time when we have something going poorly in our life, like a marriage, the people closest to you will feel the effects. I would hang in there and be supportive and see if there is anything he wants to talk about.

shared3's avatar

Yeah, but he’s not married. I think you should just try harder and visit him more. People are always busier when they are in a relationship. Maybe the new marriage is just tough, give him some time.

annaott22's avatar

I have an older brother only by 2 years but we have never I mean never gotten along he still blames me for getting him in trouble when I was 3 I’m 22 almost 23 now I’ve tried being friendly to him but he won’t listen its like I’m an only child because I never see or speak to my brother so no I don’t get along with mine

babygalll's avatar

It’s frustrating, because everyone will go over my parents to have dinner and my brother and his wife will talk to everyone except me! It’s just very annoying, because I have done so much for them and now I am treated like nothing. As if I am not even there. I usually leave the room and do my own thing.

shared3's avatar

Make sure you haven’t done anything to piss them off then…maybe you unwittingly made enemies out of them?

babygalll's avatar

Haven’t done anything. I am constantly doing things for them and never getting a simple Thank You. In this case, the tables should be turned.

scamp's avatar

Have you talked to him about this? Does he know how you feel? Maybe he’s so wrapped up in his new life he doesn’t even realize you feel this way.

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