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How do you deal with people who constantly yell instead of talk in a rational voice?

Asked by hotgirl67 (517points) January 8th, 2011

Ever notice how some people have to yell they can’t never just talk in a rational voice? Frankly its getting on my nerves and I don’t want to have to yell back.

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Dutchess_III's avatar

Can’t you go away from them? Also, do you have a specific example?

iamthemob's avatar

I like to keep asking them questions. Eventually, they get tired of it themselves.

chyna's avatar

If I’m able to, I get away from them. If it’s a family member I would just say “stop yelling, I can hear you”. Or “Use your inside voice, you don’t need to yell.”

Axemusica's avatar

You lay them out & then when they get up from their nap you talk about how things could have gone if they weren’t acting like a little child.

poisonedantidote's avatar

My tipical line goes something like this:

“Are you totally incapable of acting like an adult? your only defense to contention seems to be to raise your voice. Why are you shouting? are you trying to intimidate me by insinuating that you may get violent? do I look like a fucking ape to you? I don’t have the time or effort to deal with your primitive little struggle for dominance, either talk to me properly or shut up”

There is really only one person I interact with on a regular basis that yells over anything, so this little quote of mine is really tailored to this person. But the basic idea is to shame the shouter in to acting in a civilized way.

Marchofthefox's avatar

I deal with that every day because of my Mom. If you cannot get away, bite your tongue because some people are not in the right state of mind and certainly do not have manners! But if you can, only talk to them when absolutely necessary and be kind so they don’t have another reason to be so disrespectful or drag on the conversation.

Mikewlf337's avatar

I ignore them if they are family. I won’t tolerate it from a stranger.

Tennis5tar's avatar

Stay very calm, eerily calm. If that fails then I get sarcastic.

stardust's avatar

It’s completely irrational. I think the best thing is to let them know you’re not going to stand there and take their anger on board and that you’ll talk to them when they’re feeling calm enough to behave in an adult manner. If they carry on, walk away.
If you have to have contact with this person, I’d keep doing this until they start to learn shouting doesn’t work.

takaboom's avatar

How do I deal?
I don’t. I stay away.

But if it is inevitable, I simply ask what is their problem. “Why are you speaking so loud? Do you find this necessary? I don’t. Nobody’s deaf, we can hear you.” <—- something along those lines mostly. If I’m in a screw you mode, I will just say, you need to shut the fuck up (they’re being rude so who cares)

Lightlyseared's avatar

“I’m sorry. I didn’t quite catch that. Could you speak a little louder?”

hotgirl67's avatar

Thanks. All of these might actually work the next time this person goes on a tirade.

jettski's avatar

my husband just yells when he talks to you and gets even louder when you don’t answer him, I just cant stand it when he does that now that I’m getting older I cant stand to be around him at all.

jellybean1's avatar

The older I get I can not stand to listen to him yelling its every day. I’m just wondering if his dad was this way because if you asked him a question he goes off he cant answer you in a nice way he has to yell in your face or throw stuff. what do you do when this happens day after day after day.

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