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Jude's avatar

Could you be in love with someone whom you are not attracted to? Is it possible?

Asked by Jude (32134points) April 11th, 2011

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Hardly sounds fun that way… ;)

blueiiznh's avatar

Yeah, but what will your libido think?

yankeetooter's avatar

So, why are you in love with them? Is there something else that causes the attraction? It has to be something…

math_nerd's avatar

I love my mom and I refuse to take a bubble bath with her again.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I think the attraction grows with the love.

chyna's avatar

I have found that people get more attractive the more I get to know them and their personalities. So someone I would not initially be attracted to has turned out to be very attractive because of my feelings for them.

yankeetooter's avatar

I’m almost never initially attracted to someone based on their looks. (There may be one or two features I notice, such as eyes or smile). What usually attracts me to someone is who they are, what type of person they are…If I fall in love with the inner person, physical attraction always follows after…

TexasDude's avatar

I’ve been in love with someone (yes, in a romantic way) who I don’t really think of sexually if that counts and/or makes any sense.

filmfann's avatar

Yes. Bob Dylan says so. Source at 4:10

KateTheGreat's avatar

With true love, you can almost overcome anything. I’ve been in love with someone who wasn’t very attractive, but their personality outshone everything. That was the best relationship I was ever in. And plus, if they’re not attractive, that can be a plus. Lust before love turns a relationship to dust.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Sure, I’ve been there. Someone who is outstanding in ways aside from your usual physical attraction can almost seem like they’ve been rolled in crack dust once the two of you bond.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

A roommate was in love with a female friend of ours, despite being a homosexual male.

Sunny2's avatar

I found my husband attractive because of his personality, his character, his kindness, and all the things we had in common. He wasn’t unattractive physically, he just didn’t have physical traits I usually admired. As I fell in love with him, he became attractive to me physically. Worked for me. The reasons I married him are still valid today. We’re beginning our 50th year together.

Cupcake's avatar

I don’t really think so. I think as you love someone, you become attracted to various aspects of them (spiritually, emotionally, physically, personality, intellect, etc.)... or vice versa.

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