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Should I quit my job?

Asked by amazingme (1850points) August 16th, 2011

Okay first off, I hate my job. I work as a waitress at two different locations (owned by the same people) and I’ve only been working there a month. When the owner hired me, I told her that I am going to be starting school on the 22nd of August and that I would need to cut my hours. Little did I know however, is that they have maybe five other people (between both locations) and I am the only one that switches between both places.
Well, the big problem is, is that my boss and the cooks (who pretty much work as the manager) have a problem with telling you if you did something wrong! I have to find out from my friend (who works there too) that I do all these things wrong, instead of telling me! Also, the cooks a liar and very misleading. He looks at the register (Mind you, I am new and was not properly trained) and just mentions that someone needs to go to the bank, takes the money and goes to the bank. I here then from my friend, that he “Asked me three times to go to the bank” and that I didn’t go. But that is only grazing the surface. I closed the place last night and forgot to get the trash out of the restroom and I hear from my friend that my boss saw that and now has a ‘list’ of things that she wants to talk to me about…
She is also apparently mad at how much I slashed my hours because of school…which is something I told her about before she hired me. I really don’t need this job (I have another) but I just like having the extra money.

So do you guys think that it would be a just decision to quit me job? Thanks.

Well…I’m off to work now… /:

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21 Answers

XOIIO's avatar

Do you really want to? Then do it.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Meh, if you can afford to quit, then quit.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

If you have a reasonable expectation of finding something to replace it with, then yes, quit.

Lightlyseared's avatar

Life’s too short.

syz's avatar

The alternative would be to go to the owners and tell them that you’re concerned that lackluster management, unclear responsibilities, and inadequate training are affecting your ability to do a good job. Since you care about doing a good job, you’d like a written job description and a written chain of command so you know who to go to with problems or questions. Hand them a politely worded letter expressing your concerns and reiterating your request for documentation. Then, if you ever have a reference check performed during a job application, you can document that the failure wasn’t on your part (assuming that it doesn’t work out).

cletrans2col's avatar

@syz It sounds like these are people that would not appreciate an underling telling them that they suck. Stick to this part @amazingme- you’d like a written job description and a written chain of command so you know who to go to with problems or questions. Hand them a politely worded letter expressing your concerns and reiterating your request for documentation and I think you’ll be ok.

marinelife's avatar

I would quit. You can look into employment through school.

How are you supposed to know if they use passive-agressive communication techniques?

josie's avatar

Why would you punish yourself by staying.

syz's avatar

@cletrans2col Yeah, I figured it was overkill at that level, but coming from an HR point of view, it’s never too early to learn how to protect your professional reputation.

KateTheGreat's avatar

Sounds like the restaurant I work at. I deal with it. You’re there to get money. If you need that money, deal with it for now and search for another job. If you don’t need the money, quit. Best wishes, I know exactly how you feel.

Rarebear's avatar

Unless you can afford to be unemployed, keep the job.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Since you don’t need this job then tell your boss when s/he has “that talk with you” what you’ve told us. There is no harm in expressing your frustration with others not being direct with you so that you can head off doing more wrong before it becomes a point of complaint to mgt.

Hold your ground about your school hours. It’s the place of business to do as much for themselves as possible and that means pushing employees to work more.

Cruiser's avatar

No….I think it is your chance to stand your ground and show the boss and cooks they have a serious communication problem and that you are more than willing and wanting to make things work better. Poor managers are just that because no one has had the balls to tell them so.

Hibernate's avatar

Since you already considered quiting you should do it. If it doesn’t work out well you can go back.

chyna's avatar

Life is too short to be stressed out this early in your life over a job that is not going to be your career choice. I’d quit.

amazingme's avatar

Thanks for the advice! My boss however is the type to think a letter would be an attack against her. She probably is using some passive aggressive tactics, she seems the type. I’m gonna quit thursday when I go in. I’m here now and I hate it! Lol

mrrich724's avatar

Sounds like a poorly run place.

Listen, you have 100 years on this planet (if you are LUCKY). If you’re about 20, you’re already 20% done with what you have. . . do you really want to spend any more time than absolutely necessary dealing with this shit?!


Get out.

Enjoy your life, and work toward something that will add personal value to the few years you have on this earth.

sliceswiththings's avatar

Honey, we are in completely the same boat. I’m thinking of quitting my waitressing job as well, but mostly because my co-workers resent me for taking the weekend off for my grandma’s 85th birthday and show nothing but animosity towards me. I have been going back and forth all week, and I think that I should stay. Here are my reasons, and maybe they will help you:

1. I want a good recommendation from them/experience. Waitressing jobs are so useful, and if you can get your boss to say that you worked hard and fixed your mistakes and stuff, that’s good. Also you’ll develop the skills to get another waitressing job you like later on!

2. In my case, not yours, I feel bad leaving before Labor Day because we’re understaffed and it’s crazy in August.

3. “This is why we work.” I was talking to my mom the other day about all the great things in life that can only be achieved through working and making money (specifically family vacation in a cabin on the shore). I remind myself of all the stuff I want to do, and that I need money, so I try to use these images of good things to tune out my bitchy co-workers and put on a smile.

I know there are few worse feelings that hearing that you’ve been criticized behind your back. That’s a feeling that makes your stomach turn and tears well. I recommend accepting the “list” of things with a cheerful attitude and proving to your boss that you kick ass.

But if you’re really miserable, quit, so I can live vicariously through you since I really can’t!

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I would quit if I was fairly certain of getting some other job. Working under such circumstances would add too much stress to my life.

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