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audiomind5's avatar

Do you have friends that act really gay but they say they aren't?

Asked by audiomind5 (30points) May 4th, 2008 from iPhone

what can you do about people like these.

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babygalll's avatar

Accept them for who they are.

wildflower's avatar

Just let them act whichever way they want…..let them know you’re OK with whatever way they may want to behave.

They may be so-called metrosexual or just have a way about them that some perceive as gay.

peedub's avatar

Sure. I don’t see any big deal. One of my friends does it on purpose to get a rise out of some people. I think it’s funny.
I also know guys who are simply more effeminate than others that may or may not be gay. To me, it doesn’t really matter. It’s nothing I would ever bring it up the person.

Upward's avatar

Sure, I know many guys like this. Just because they act gay mean they are. There are plenty of “straight” acting gays as well. They may be confused or straight as they come but ether way let them be who they are.

oddrax's avatar

hahaha yes I do, everybody thinks he is gay but he isn’t

Riser's avatar

it doesnt matter. Why is it your concern, out of curiosity?

TheHaight's avatar

yes, but who cares??? Does it really matter?

jrpowell's avatar

You have a couple of options.

1. You can stop hanging out with them.
2. You can try to change them and they will stop hanging out with you.
3. You could be a friend and accept them for who they are.

delirium's avatar

Yeah. I’m dating him.

scamp's avatar

Why do you think you have to do anything? if you are truly a friend, you would accept them for who they are, not who you think they should be.

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gailcalled's avatar

Agree with all the sensible answers above.

@Upward: when you wrote “Just because they act gay mean they are,” did you mean that? Or perhaps “Just because they act gay doesn’t mean that they are”?

@audio: would you like your friends to try to change you?

—and it’s “friends who” and not “that.” ” ‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”

8lightminutesaway's avatar

Think of it this way. If you didn’t know what gay people acted like, and you didn’t know what “acting normal” was like, what would you do to this person? you wouldn’t know the difference and you wouldn’t do anything at all. But since you know what a gay person is supposed to act like, and you don’t want them to be gay, you’re trying to change them, yes?

richmarshall's avatar

Act really gay?? By this you mean they are having ‘more’ than friendship relationships with those of the same sex?

benjamin6's avatar

no, but my friends do.

Riser's avatar

CCRHHS: Freaks? I am disappointed, I would at least hope you would have the sensitivity to properly define your intolerance with the classic: fag, queer, pillow biter or the oldie, but goody, cock sucker.

Next time you want to give your opinion, at least define your reasons in such a way that is worthy of discussion. By definition I could call you a “freak” for assuming that someone who is different from you is a “freak.” It’s far too general and open to interpretation and manipulation.

Better luck next time,


atr408's avatar

yup some of my friends do it to be funny just like peedub says

dayeshere's avatar

@Riser- Don’t let CCRHHS get to you. It sounds like he has some pent up sexual aggression he’s too afraid to deal with. Besides ignorance by choice is just sad :(

Riser's avatar

@dayeshere: It might seem like I am “annoyed” but, in reality, I am having fun and yes, ignorance by choice is the most depressing existence of all.

TheHaight's avatar

riser, you’re awesome ;D

Babo's avatar

Why are you asking this? Do you really feel the need to do something? Like help them somehow? Or do they just bother you?

gailcalled's avatar

@audio: perhaps your life would be richer and have more meaning if you paid attention in English classes.

audiomind5's avatar

its not that I don’t accept him. I think its funny too at times. But sometimes he goes overboard with it and he even admits it. But I mean sometimes its just plain uncomfortable. I don’t know. I appreciate your thoughts.

wildflower's avatar

Maybe the ‘uncomfortable’ part is what he finds the most amuzing?

8lightminutesaway's avatar

aaah, I think I understand what you’re saying now. If he makes you uncomfortable sometimes, just tell him and be nice about it.

Bsilver's avatar

How exactly are you defining “acting gay”?
I don’t understand why every classification of human personality, sexuality, etc. has to have definable characteristics, be it personality traits or physical characteristics.
What is your definition of gay that your friend is acting in?

And then I’ll ask the same question as everyone else, why do you care?

berocky1's avatar

hit on him. DUH!

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