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(NSFW) Are there any women out there that really like butch lesbians?

Asked by spykenij (1827points) October 13th, 2011

Just curious to see how many people are really attracted to masculine lesbians with a deep sea of emotions. For example, people who are transgendered, but unwilling to go through surgery or hormone treatment, living as lesbians. It is fairly common for me to see people all over girly lesbians, but not so much all over masculine lesbians. I’ll admit it, this butch buck is drawn to both; however, femininity is one thing I do not understand much. What say you and please, be as detailed as you’d like?

Side note: I do not try to label that which is not labeled. I know there are people on here who hate gender roles, but all I know is – I like to treat women gently. When I do treat a woman my way, I am where chivalry went. I love to open the car door, other doors, help with getting a coat on, giving her my coat, kissing her hands (or entire body), protecting her with my life, warming her up when she’s cold, buying dinner as much as she’ll let me, carrying the heavy stuff… Not saying masculine is superior, it’s just who I am.

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ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Sometimes. From a purely physical standpoint, it depends on how attractive the person is, period.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

I like the people I like… I don’t have a strict preference really for styles or types although I prefer men if a soul mate whatever that means is of another sex it wouldn’t matter. I do like certain things, but it’s not a prerequisite to a real person that has the qualities I enjoy in another person or a mate.

If we clicked spiritually and she made me laugh and what not… Looks come second.

LezboPirate's avatar

My last girlfriend was butch. And she was hot. She was just..too much of a man, I guess it is. She HAD to pay for everything. Even when I had the money, and she was broke. She would make me give her the money so that it would look like she was the one paying. Annoying. But I think that was just her. I’m sure not all Butches are like that.

My girlfriend now, she looks rather butch. But she’s really not. She’s such a girl sometimes. I like it, because I do enjoy the butch look, but I also enjoy being able to do things for her (like opening doors and paying for dinner), and I like that we like to do some of the same things (shopping and whatever other girly crap we get into).

tinyfaery's avatar

I love me a soft butch.

fizzbanger's avatar

My girlfriend from high school (she herself is feminine) married a transgendered (non-surgical) FTM. She also likes girly girls, though.

syz's avatar

I see a lot more butch lesbians them femmes in my area. But for me, it depends less on the looks, more on the person.

downtide's avatar

I get read as a butch lesbian most of the time, even though I’m FTM not lesbian. I do find masculine women quite hot but I would worry if she was a lesbian, would she be seeing me as male or female? FTMs and lesbians together are treading on a quicksand.

spykenij's avatar

I have to agree, it does depend on the person. Someone who is hot from across the room can get ugly real quick if she’s a nasty person on the inside.

Jude's avatar

Butch does nothing for me.

Mantralantis's avatar

Um, yeah. As far as I see it…its at a rate of epidemic proportions. :^P

Berserker's avatar

I know four lesbians in my area, three of them are butch. Not a big fan of the look, but I do find it interesting in a way. One of them I work with, and she could actually pass off for a man if you use just a bit of imagination. It also helps that she has really small breasts.
Physically it isn’t my style, but she’s attractive in other ways. ^^

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Butch or soft, doesn’t really matter. If a woman is attractive, she’s attractive. I’ve seen some pretty butch lesbians that some people refer to as “bull dikes”, but they’re still pretty. =0)

Soupy's avatar

I know a few “butch” women, lesbian and straight, who I would readily bonk. For me it’s not about a person’s gender, or if they display masculine or feminine traits. It’s more about the attractiveness of the individual.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I don’t tend to be turned on by butch but I love women that are feminine whilst still looking like they could beat the shit out of me. My favourite lady crush is the British actress, Julie Graham who, whilst feminine looking, has a number of tattoos and used to work on the doors at nightclubs. She comes across as having a no bull shit, no frills, strong personality and, I believe, that she has claimed in the past to be bi-sexual (although she is maried with kids now).

Girls that are so girly they come across as shallow don’t do much for me at all.

Edit: I forgot to mention, my best friend is a butch lesbian and because of this people often miss how beautiful she is. They see the short (sometimes shaved) hair, a tattoo of a naked woman (with chaps and a gun if you’re interested!) and typically male clothes and miss how pretty her face is. I often point this out to people and then they take a proper look and see it too. People are surprised at how pretty she is when they look a little deeper.

spykenij's avatar

Girls with short hair are my thing. I don’t know what it is about short hair, all I know is that I REALLY like it. Something about the back of a girl’s head…maybe I’m just weird. It’s the 1st thing I see. With crushes, it can be the difference between if I am attracted or not.

@Leanne1986 – I completely hear you about the the girly, catty, shallow girls.

Shippy's avatar

I am bisexual, and when attracted to a female I like butch females. I once had a girl friend, who wore cowboy boots, leather jackets and owned a stud farm. She was swoon material to me. I have never been attracted to the girlie girls.

Jude's avatar

” love women that are feminine whilst still looking like they could beat the shit out of me”

I resemble that remark.

Jude's avatar

How do you feel about a feminine looking woman with tomboyish mannerisms?

I look all girl, yet I hate girly stuff. And, I’m no “girl” in the sheets.

spykenij's avatar

It’s been a while since I’ve been on, but I love soft butches. I’m butch, but I am drawn to butches too. I like feminine girls too, but there’s a line. It should only take so long to get ready. I should not want to put a bullet in my brain if asked to find a pair of your shoes (because you have too damn many). Foo-foo shit really isn’t cute to me, like pink crap, bows and shit like that.

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