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Which is worse for you, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

Asked by blueiiznh (16683points) October 17th, 2011

Which is worse for you, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

Please share some examples of how you have dealt with either of them to help ease the feelings or bridge the gap.

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marinelife's avatar

Letters always help when someone moves away (or email or cards or phone calls).

As to losing a good friend who lives near you still, that is very painful. The reminder each time you go into their neighborhood or by their house.

erichw1504's avatar

Losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you, because there’s always Facebook.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Losing touch with the one who lives close. Most of my friends live back in my homestate so I accept most of our interaction is via email/text and facebook but the few friends I have where I live now, it kills me if I don’t get to see them at least once a month. We live 1½ hours apart which isn’t that big a deal until I factor in not having the same days off to be able to meet up.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’d say the former. If I lost touch with the one that live nearby, there is a reason. If a good friend I currently have moves away, that’s a loss.

Hibernate's avatar

When they move away. Because if I lose touch with close friends I can always get in touch.

Male's avatar

Definitely losing tough with a friend that lives nearby, because I would see this friend pretty often (assuming this friend lives close enough, and that there’s no possibility of getting back together), and every time I see this person, I’d be reminded of the past we once had. If the friend moved away, I’d feel unhappy about the relationship, but at least it ended on good terms. It’s similar to breaking up. It’s like ending it mutually versus a nasty breakup, at least in my perspective.

chyna's avatar

I think it is worse when a good friend moves away. Stay in touch by texting. :-)

AshLeigh's avatar

My best friend moved away…
I think that’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through.
When I lose touch with someone, they’re just a phone call away. “Hey, it’s been a while. What’re you doing this weekend?” then that’s all. You see them again.
But when Nick moved I knew nothing could ever be the same again. And it hasn’t been.
I never stop missing him. And a phone call won’t fix that.


Losing a friend who lives near me. I have no control over a good friend who moves away. That’s his/her decision. But at least I can try to contact the good friend who lives nearby and ask him/her “Why the hell haven’t you called me?!!” LOL.

Jeruba's avatar

Having the friend move away has been hard for me. It takes me a long while to feel close to someone. Within a period of two years, three people with whom I’d developed a very strong attachment and feeling of trust moved out of the area, and one actually out of the country. They were irreplaceable, and I have felt a little bereft ever since.

Even harder was when I moved away. I lost all my close nonfamily contacts then except the man for whom I moved. It took years to form new ones. Mail and occasional visits just did not make up the difference.

Only once have I really lost a friend who was close by. It’s a mystery that remains unexplained.

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