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Do you think this is a stupid idea or do you think I'll get closure?

Asked by Sope (1points) May 2nd, 2012

Before I do it I need your opinion:
I was thinking of e-mailing the guy I used to like’s ex-girlfriend from a few years back (I don’t know here she doesn’t know me) asking her why they broke up for example if he cheated, or if it was his fault.
I have no idea if this is a good guy or not and I’m so confused and just want closure and I’m hoping what ever she says will give it to me.. what do you think?

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bewailknot's avatar

I don’t think it is a good idea. The ex of a guy you “used to like?” If he cheated on you, and he cheated on her will it make you feel better to know he was a dog then and still is? When people break up each person has their own perception of what happened, and maybe neither one is true. Will it make you feel better if she says he was a great guy and it was all her fault, as unlikely as that is. I just don’t see how this will do something good for you.

chyna's avatar

I think it would be a mistake to contact her. What good could possibly come from it. She has moved on. Whether he cheated or was a jerk or whatever, what does it matter? If you guys have broken up, you just need to accept it and move on for your own reasons.

Sope's avatar

Thank you I read your reply and I think you are right

gailcalled's avatar

Imagine that you are the ex-girlfriend of the guy you used to like and you get an mail from @Sope.

What would be your reaction and what, if anything, would you be inclined to write back? To what end?

Put it to rest. LIve in the present and not in the past (if you are young, a few years ago is a long time.)

Salem88's avatar

@That would creep me out. What if the ex is mentally unstable? What if they’ve never seen each other since breakup? This is one can of worms I would not open. Too many people could get hurt. Be kind. it’s a sin to kill a mockingbird

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