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Do you like break-up songs?

Asked by bookish1 (13110points) July 16th, 2012

What do you think of break-up songs? Do you have a favorite one you wanna share with us? Do you listen to them only when you’re going through a break-up?

I listen to them both when I’m going through a break-up and when I’m going through nothing in particular, mostly to remind me that I can get through that crap when it happens again.

Along with Cake’s fabulous cover of I Will Survive (CRANK UP THE BASS!), some of my other favorites include Rest Stop and You Won’t Be Mine by Matchbox Twenty, Sever by 311, Jaded by The Crystal Method, Drain You by Nirvana, and Para Noir by Marilyn Manson (if I’m feeling full of rancor!)

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whitenoise's avatar

By pure coincidence, about three weeks ago, I refound one of those songs that I was listening to, when I was my early twenties.

It was a song by ‘everything but the girl’.

It made me realize how wonderful that time was in which my world would collapse over losing a girl that – in retrospect – was far from my ideal, to begin with. In a way it was great to be able to feel so much over so little.

The song I find incredibly over the top, from my current viewpoint and it makes me wonder why I liked it then, but here’s the lyrics:


Now and then
Do you wash your hands of me again?
Wish me anywhere but home
Drunk and on the end of your phone

From time to time
Do you guess what’s really on my mind?
Guess that How you keeping now?
Means Where are you sleeping now

But of course it’s not polite
To ask you where you spent last night
And if I did you might reply
That I have no right
And anyway I’m fine
Glad that you’re no longer mine
If I should tell a lie
I’ll cross my heart and hope to die

You’d be appalled
If you knew what I was doing
When you called
Yes, I can see I’m blundering
Always end up wondering

Will it ever be alright
To ask you where you spent last night
And can it be polite
The way we never write,
Of course I don’t have the time,
And anyway I’m fine
If I should tell a lie
I’ll cross my hear and hope to die

I hope we never die

lillycoyote's avatar

No, I don’t like “break up” songs; they make it too easy for you to wallow in your own misery but I will admit that I listened to this one, Todd Rundgren’s Parallel LInes quite a bit after a bad break up, but that song is more about people who didn’t really have a chance of ending up together than it is about breaking up and that was the case with this particular relationship. And I was the one that couldn’t reach any higher…can’t get any closer, can’t get any more far… and very soon, we, I particularly, had to face the facts that some things never come together…

augustlan's avatar

I like the empowering ones, like You Oughta’ Know by Alanis Morissette, All My Life by the Foo Fighters, and, as you said, the Cake version of I Will Survive. All My Life featured prominently during my divorce, and I still love them all.

this_velvet_glove's avatar

I like them and listen to them each time someone breaks my heart (which happens very often).

30 Seconds to Mars – The Kill
AFI – Prelude 12/21
Alice Cooper – Hell Is Living Without You
My Chemical Romance – I Don’t Love You
Red Hot Chili Peppers – Meet Me At The Corner
3 Doors Down – Here Without You
Puressence – Don’t Know Any Better
Seether (feat. Amy Lee) – Broken

marinelife's avatar

Here is one that I came across recently that really struck me as great. A Little Bit Stronger originally sung by Sara Evans as a country strong, but this version is by rocker Jordis Unga.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I love Gotye’s “Somebody I used to know” – it’s very fitting for this one person in my life.

linguaphile's avatar

Another Alanis one—Not the Doctor totally empowering! It got me through two breakups. I also like A Bad Goodbye

Kokoro's avatar

Nothing Better by the Postal Service is a true favorite.

Tell me am I right to think that there could be nothing better
than making you my bride and slowly growing old together?

Don’t you feed me lines about some idealistic future.
Your heart won’t heal right if you keep tearing out the sutures

linguaphile's avatar

I’m not sure it’d be considered a breakup song, but I also love Landslide

Michael_Huntington's avatar

I’m pretty sure Joy Division has a few. I guess you can interpret this as a break up song:
Love will tear us apart

keobooks's avatar

I think Bob Dylan’s “Don’t Think Twice, it’s Alright” has some great lines in it for surviving a breakup. My favorite:

I wouldn’t say you treated me unkind
You coulda done better but I don’t mind
You just kinda wasted my precious time
But don’t think twice it’s alright.

Mexicanamerican's avatar

This song only reminds me of one break up. It’s Fuck it(I don’t want you back) by Eamon.

downtide's avatar

The ultimate breakup song has to be this one: Fifty ways to leave your lover And it’s not miserable at all.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I always like Nazareth, Love Hurts. See if this works.
The hair is an added bonus.

Kardamom's avatar

I don’t like them, because it keeps you feeling sad. Keeps you down in the dumps. I’m already feeling crappy if I had a breakup, I don’t need music to make it continue, or make it worse.

flutherother's avatar

You can really feel the anger in Alanis Morissette’s lyrics:

“You Oughta Know”

I want you to know, that I’m happy for you
I wish nothing but the best for you both
An older version of me
Is she perverted like me
Would she go down on you in a theatre
Does she speak eloquently
And would she have your baby
I’m sure she’d make a really excellent mother

‘cause the love that you gave that we made wasn’t able
To make it enough for you to be open wide, no
And every time you speak her name
Does she know how you told me you’d hold me
Until you died, till you died
But you’re still alive.

AshLeigh's avatar

Like We Used To by A Rocket To The Moon.
September by Daughtry.
Naive Orleans by Anberlin.

SavoirFaire's avatar

For the maudlin period right after a breakup:

Better than Ezra – “Porcelain”
Counting Crows – “Mercury”

For the irreverent period when you’re getting over it:

Ben Folds Five – “Song for the Dumped”
Ben Folds Five – “Julianne”

snapdragon24's avatar

“its a heartache, nothing but a heartachhheee, hits you when its toooo late, hits you when your downnnnn!” a sad song that actually makes me happy!

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