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Mama_Cakes's avatar

Why is that people who are obviously overweight and/or unattractive poke fun at others who are, as well?

Asked by Mama_Cakes (9822points) February 20th, 2013

I saw this over on Facebook. A woman making mean comments on photos of overweight/unattractive woman, when they themselves are overweight and no beauty.

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Dr_Lawrence's avatar

People often object most to what they abhor about themselves. If only they had more insight into how they felt about themselves and decided what they whated to do about those feelings.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I would guess if you’re insecure it might tempt you to try to cut down others to make yourself feel better. It sucks, because you’re hurting others for your own shortcomings.

El_Cadejo's avatar

You got it dead on in your tags. Insecurities.

wundayatta's avatar

It’s Facebook. What do you expect? You could hardly call that civilization. Facebook gives a platform for the scum of the earth to show off. Now there’s a place that needs moderation!

DrBill's avatar

It is called disassociation, by making fun of, or insulting a group, you separate yourself from the group, even if the separation is only in your own self image .

livelaughlove21's avatar

Misery loves company?

Make yourself feel better about you at other people’s expense.

JLeslie's avatar

If that other person looks worse then the person commenting must not be that bad. I agree insecurities is sometimes the reason.

I also think some people, I kind of see it run in families, tend to comment on others in general. My family tends to comment if someone is gorgeous and also if someone has gained a lot of weight. If they have always been heavy they would likely not say anything. My husband’s family comments on how fat people are, and especially if their clothes are too tight, or worse if the person has skin showing and you can see the rolls of fat their classic line is, “do they even look at themselves?” My family would never say that. His family rarely comments on how beautiful someone is.

None of these people would do it on facebook! Except the positive things like telling a friend they look fabulous.

Shippy's avatar

Perhaps the media ploy continues to make women think that if they are a certain body type they are not attractive. And we perpetuate it with comments like misery loves company. Who said all overweight people are miserable? Also who says that they are insecure?

I agree with @wundayatta statement. FB is privy and stage to the scum of the earth

noodle_poodle's avatar

well it would be weird to assume ugly people find other ugly people attractive, they dont…because they are ugly. That said the whole us and them divide is all in the mind anyway and is more case of perspective than a reality. Most peoples perception of themselves will be vastly different to who they are in the eyes of another i reckon.

Mama_Cakes's avatar

I think that DrBill nailed it.

Jaye73's avatar

How else are they meant to feel good about themselves? People generally hate in others what they dislike about themselves, putting down others is a reflection of this & a really lousy attempt at making themselves feel better in front of others, also another way to draw attention away from themselves.. Paranoid, low self asteem & a lack of conpassion I would say.
People should realise that true happyness comes not from achieving the ideal weight, or driving the dream car, or having loads of money. It is not something that ANYONE can ACHIEVE but is simply a way of life. It comes from your own actions. Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve happyness for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can. Then & only then will can you be truely happy & free from judgement of others & able to see the beauty in everything.

PurpleMinded's avatar

Just as people who are afraid of their sexuality can become homophobic, fat people are so eager to deny themselves that they attack what they fear is themselves.

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