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What's up with the mixed signals?

Asked by dopeguru (1917points) March 3rd, 2016

I like this boy, he is 19. I’m older… He gives me mixed signals. He blocked me one day, after he thought I did something I hadn’t, he invited me over, then invited me over again, then ignored me when I replied. What’s up with all the mixed signals? This is more of a rant than a question. But I’d like to ask—- why would you invite someone over twice in a day and then ignore them? He did it again last week. If you don’t want to see me, do not invite me over.

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Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Because he is an insecure idiot? Why would you bother with this complicated, indecisive fool. He’s a game player. Some people love drama and making things hard. Relationships should not be difficult. Walk away. Find a man who doesn’t want to play with your mind. There are lots of them out there.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

You did something he didn’t like, so he blocked you. So childish! If he wasn’t insecure, he’d speak to you about whatever it was he thought you did. The guy is a fool. A more important question is why are you even bothering with him?

dopeguru's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit Well he spoke and then blocked, kinda. Then invited me over… We had intense chemistry so I kinda want him :/

chyna's avatar

Honestly @dopeguru,you and your lifestyle concerns me. You have so many guys in and out of your life. Maybe you need to see a counselor to know why you see so many guys.

dopeguru's avatar

@chyna Literally not many compared to the mass in the city I live in. I only connected with 2 people in 4 years. And I was a virgin till I was 22.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Really, is this what you want in your life? Look back over your history. You seem to go for this ridiculous type of man. Don’t waste your time with such a person. Let him mess up someone else’s day.

dopeguru's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit True. I thought he was different. :/

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

No. Really, please take this advice, as soon as someone starts playing these types of games see a big, big red flag and walk the other way. What he’s doing is trying to keep you on a string. If you keep reacting and showing you’re willing to put up with it, this will only get worse.

I am not joking, relationships – good relationships – should not be this hard. You should not have to second-guess whether a boy likes you or loves you, wants to be with you. Decent MEN, as opposed to the silly, childish, needy little boys you are attracted to, are very easy to be with. Stop going out with boys. Go out with men.

dopeguru's avatar

What do you mean he is trying to keep me on a string? @Earthbound_Misfit

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Read your question.

He blocked me.
He invited me over.
He ignored me.
He invited me over.

And what did you do? You’re here asking what’s going on? He’s messing with your head! He’s got you on a piece of elastic, never mind a piece of string. Cut the elastic band. Personally, I hope it smacks him in the face.

chyna's avatar

@dopeguru Really? Then maybe you need to go back and read all of your questions and see how many guys you have told us you have been with.

dopeguru's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit Is he doing this consciously??
Wanna hear something that might give away his personality? Before we ever met up, he invited me over and he didn’t open the door two times. This happened twice. Maybe he has anxiety issues? I don’t get it.

dopeguru's avatar

@chyna I know, I’ve been dating the same guy for a year now we just broke up recently. I tried to be with other people when we’d break up, so thats why it may seem like its a lot of guys. I don’t sleep around though, maybe like 6 people in my entire life.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Who cares whether it’s conscious or not. That’s who he is, that’s what he’s doing. You don’t need it.

Oh my god! Why did you go to see him twice? If someone invited me over and didn’t open the door, they wouldn’t EVER see me again. Why do you do this to yourself?

You know why they can get away with this? It’s because you don’t have any self-esteem. If you want a man to treat you with respect, you have to treat yourself with respect. He isn’t. He’s treating you like shit. Inviting you over and not opening the door! Blocking you! Please stop accepting this sort of behaviour.

I believe you’re seeing a counsellor. Print this thread off and take it to the counsellor for you to discuss. Stop accepting this sort of rubbish from boys (I used the word boys deliberately).

dopeguru's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit He is like… Really hot. Like…. Hottest guy I’ve probably ever seen. That’s why.
I thought I’d only hook up with him so I didn’t care if he had a shit personality or not since I just broke up with my ex and all.

But if it was a man I was interested in dating I definitely shouldn’t put up with this. Thank you

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Oh dear…

I have to go now!

dopeguru's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit Haha… You sound like my best friend. He is 45 and so sick of me! Hahaha!

chyna's avatar

I’m not sure who you are lying to, us or yourself, but you don’t want help, you want to brag. I’m out.

dopeguru's avatar

I got help!

Jak's avatar

Because you allow it.

jca's avatar

@dopeguru: I almost feel like you are toying with us, the way you write and the things that you say, because it’s not realistic.

Now you’re saying you’ve only been with a few guys in two years but you’ve been on here repeatedly asking about guys and how they treated you. @chyna is right.

You said you want this guy because he’s hot. Can’t you find a hot guy who treats you nicely? Or find a guy who treats you nicely despite not being hot? What good is hotness if the guy is an asshole?

Kardamom's avatar

And she can’t figure out why her cat ran away : (

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