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I love my best friend and im not sure she feels the same, how do i convince her im the right guy for her?

Asked by wallop123 (2points) July 30th, 2008

i give her signs that i like her and she returns them and flirts but then if i try to take it further she backs off. i know she doesnt like me the way i like her, but how do i convince her im the right guy for her?

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marinelife's avatar

You don’t. You can’t convince someone else to feel something they do not.

Perhaps you should be less available? Maybe not hang out around her. Maybe look at other women as possibles. The benefits of this are two-fold. One, there is a remote chance she might miss you if you give her time and space to, and realize she does care for you. Two, you might actually find you can move on, which is what you really need to do.

Hanging around loving her when she does not return your feelings is wallowing in pain. By the way, you are sure she does not return your feelings; you just don’t want to face that.

flameboi's avatar

You don’t need to, just let her know what you feel, she will take her decision… Don’t nor flirt, be frontal, say it, clean and clear, play your cards and face the outcome :)

fabulous's avatar

totally agree with flameboi we have answered these type of questions so many times you should just go ahead and say it
yeah you don’t know how the other person feels and yeah they might say no to you but what do you have to lose just say it straight don’t beat around the bush. Then again you never know you could be very suprised by there answer.

Good luck hope it all works out for you

MrMeltedCrayon's avatar

I know how you feel man. I’ve been in this position before; recently, in fact.

Tell her how you feel. Don’t dance around the issue. The longer you put it off, the longer you’ll be in that miserable state of not knowing. Sure, it might seem like it’s better then being rejected, but I can tell you from personal experience that’s not true. Get it out of the way and, if need be, move on. It might not seem like it, but there are plenty of equally wonderful fish in the sea and you’re never gonna catch one if you don’t get your fishin’ pole out and go to the beach.

Poser's avatar

Sounds like she already knows how you feel. The ball’s completely in her court now. Your job now, as Marina said, is to do nothing. If she doesn’t feel the same way, there is nothing you can do.

Let me repeat that: There is nothing you can do to make her want to be with you.

I’m not trying to be harsh. Just trying to save you some pain—and face.

strawberryxcupcake's avatar

Marina is right! you cant convince someone to feel like you want. but perhabs you can wait, and show her that you really love her, but be careful, and not too brash! that could be the end! the best thing is to do nothing… if she dont love you, you do what you want, it will not change her feelings.

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