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Is your best friend a lot like you, or more like a case of opposites attracting?

Asked by Kardamom (33336points) February 6th, 2019 from iPhone

My best friend and I have so many similarities, and common interests, and similar tastes in things, that it seems like we could be twins.

We are 10 years apart in age, and we don’t look anything alike, but we often show up to events, whether it’s just lunch, or a show, dressed almost identically, even though we didn’t discuss what we were going to wear.

We don’t live in the same city, so we don’t see each other very often, although we are in daily contact.

We like the same foods, have the same political leanings, have the same hobbies, have a lot of mutual friends, and have a similar sense of humor.

The other day, we were texting back and forth, I don’t even recall the subject, but I was replying to something she said, and I could see that she was typing something at the same time. We typed the same paragraph almost word for word. I don’t recall that ever having happened with anyone else.

One difference between us is that she is good at math, and I am not.

Some friendships, and romantic relationships, work because the people have a lot of things in common. Other friendships, and relationships, seem to work because the people in them have strengths and weaknesses, and differences in temperment, and interests of all different kinds, which complement each other’s needs.

Are you and your best friend (other than your spouse) more similar, or more complementary?

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KNOWITALL's avatar

Similar. She loves wearing black, I love wearing black. Neither take any crap from anyone (mostly due to crappy childhoods), kind of alpha females. We both are more inward searching than outward, for validation.

But she has kids, I don’t. Her husband travels a lot so she’s lonely, mine’s home every night.

And I don’t think either of us would use the phrase ‘best friends’ unless you forced it.

filmfann's avatar

I have two very dear friends I will reference.
One has very similar views. The other does not.
One is very competitive, but trying not to be. The other isn’t, as am I.
The thing we all have in common is long marriages, faith, and common roots.

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