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What do you like to be adressed by?

Asked by MrMontpetit (1843points) September 28th, 2008

Do you find it rude when your daughter/sons friends call you by your 1st name? Would you rather them call you Mr./Mrs. .... or…..‘s Mom/Dad?

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whatthefluther's avatar

You can call me anything you like…at least that means I’m still alive.

whatthefluther's avatar

I specifically enjoy responding to my initials: wtf

Magnus's avatar

Call me anything.

marinelife's avatar

I dislike the informality of today to some extent.

I would want my children’s friends to call me Ms. X, unless I gave permission for something else.

I really hate it when a clerk in a store calls me by my first name.

That said, if I met a random young person on equal footing, I would want them to use my first name if I was using theirs.

deaddolly's avatar

I’m not a Mrs. I’d rather they call me by my first name. some call me Mom, which is flattering.

gimmedat's avatar

I always introduce my children to adults using the Mr., Ms., Mrs. I prefer my kids to use those titles. I prefer being called Mrs. Gimmedat by my kids’ friends unless or until I ask to be addressed by my first name. One title I really hate is the whole preschool title like Miss Stacy (using the person’s first name like that, annoying!).

deaddolly's avatar

footnote: I’ve taught my daughter to use mr/mrs or whichever the person prefers. Some ppl take offense to kids using first names; I’ve never felt that way.

sccrowell's avatar

Actually, if they call me Mrs. Crowell, I will ask them to call me by my first name. That fine with me!

cookieman's avatar

Most of my students (college age) call me Mr. Xxx. I prefer this.

I wish my daughters friends would at least initially refer to me using Mr. – but very few parents seem to teach this anymore. In fact, I’ve had a couple of parents become annoyed when I had my daughter refer to them as Mr. Or Mrs.

gailcalled's avatar

When a young chit at a doctor’s office calls me by my first name, I don’t like it. The Quakers have a good solution; they call everyone initially by first name, last name. Hi, Ben Finkel or, in a letter, Dear Ben Finkel.

aanuszek1's avatar

I’m fine with Your Royal Highness

gailcalled's avatar

@aan; Sorry, that’s taken, by a cat who allows his owner on fluther from time to time. (Milo had to settle for Your Holiness.)

wundayatta's avatar

I don’t like being called Mr. It seems so distant. Wierdly, everyone thinks I’m a PhD, so I’ve been called Dr. for years, even though I’m not entitled. I used to try to correct people, but it got to be extremely tiring, and I just let it go, now. I wish I were a Dr. It feels good hearing that.

Darwin's avatar

You can call me anything you’d like, just don’t call me late for dinner. :-)

babiturtle36's avatar

When I have children they will be taught to use Mr/Mrs/Ms. It’s polite I think. Also, I am a preschool teacher and the kids call me Ms Jessica. Some schools use their last names instead, but I really don’t mind.

augustlan's avatar

My best friend’s daughter calls me “Aunt Lisa”, and my children do the same for my best friend. Most of my daughter’s friends incorrectly call me Mrs. “my daughter’s last name”, which is not the same as my last name. I never make an issue out of it. When I’ve developed a rapport with older children, I have given permission to call me by my first name.

googlybear's avatar

I always enjoyed the concept of kids being on an equal level (something I enjoyed from To Kill A Mockingbird) so pretty much everyone calls me by the name my parents gave to me, GOD (I mean Scott).

Salty's avatar

I think that children should be taught to say Mr and Mrs. as that shows respect.
There is very little respect now a days, and that is one of the reasons there is so much trouble with the younger generation.
If the person they are addressing prefers to be called by a first name that is there choice, but that is how I feel about it. I was taught to use Mr and Mrs. and I still do even though I am in my 50’s. Its all about respect for the other person.

SpatzieLover's avatar

I prefer kids call me by my first name, however I am STRICT when it comes to my son’s ettiquette and expect him to begin with Ms./Miss/Mrs./Mr….however I am finding (as he’s just 3) that most adults over 50 prefer the first name thing and most adults in the 20’s-40’s range INSIST on Ms.Nancy or Mr & Mrs. So & least that’s the case for our area of Southeastern WI

No matter what they prefer, he rarely needs to be prompted for a ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ and is great at making conversation with adults.

googlybear's avatar

Salty – As the question was asked, I prefer to be addressed by my own personal name. In terms of what I would expect from my children…I would expect them to address someone as Sir or Madam (Ma’am) until they are comfortable with the person with whom they are talking and know how they would like to be addressed. It is actually impolite to address someone as Mrs. unless you know there marital status, Ms. would be the preferred greeting.

googlybear's avatar

whoops…please substitute their for there :-)

sccrowell's avatar

@googlybear, I agree whole heartedly with you. Both my daughters ages 25 and 29 have always address adults, Mr or Mrs So and So, or Sir, Madam or Ma’am, if they did not know them or their last name.

MacBean's avatar

Huh. I can’t recall ever addressing any of my friends’ parents by anything other than “mom” or “dad” or their first names. Even most of my teachers tended to get nicknames instead of being called “Mr.” or “Mrs.” anything.

acebamboo77's avatar

I find most women, even though it is a sign of respect, do not like being called ma’am. I personally could care less. Call me Steve! It doesn’t really make a difference.

St.George's avatar

When I lived in France every interaction with strangers in shops etc. was “Bonjour madame/monsieur.” I loved the politeness and effort people took to make sure to greet people in this way. I try to carry over that politeness living here in the U.S. I address strangers as ma’am and sir, particularly those who are older than me. I like it when people call me ma’am, even though I look about 30.

EmpressPixie's avatar

I’m old enough that my mom has officially switched from Mrs. Pixie to “Call me FirstName.” It’s kind of strange and oddly horrifying. I don’t know what I want them to call her anymore though.

When we were kids she was Mrs. Pixie or EP’s Mom.

robmandu's avatar

I can call you Betty and Betty, when you call me, you can call me Al.

sorry, couldn’t resist

Nimis's avatar

I don’t like people that I don’t know that well calling me by my nickname(s).
As for titles, I don’t really care.

Skippy's avatar

OH MY You’ve hit a place is really for me, has changed in the world. I was taught to address my elders as Mr, Ms, Miss, Mrs.
I still (at 51) address my mothers friends as Mrs. BUT many of our friends kids address us by first name, and are not corrected. My sons, 18 & 14 always call Mr or Mrs, daycare was Miss firstname. Several of our really good friends are addressed by the kids as aunt & uncle.
Anymore, I’m just happy they aren’t calling me “the b*&ch on the corner

scamp's avatar

Nobody can pronounce my last name, so I just go by my first.

Ha ha @rob!!

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Darwin's avatar

I was taught to use Mr., Mrs., and Miss with folks that were older than me (ie. my parents friends) but it was disconcerting to be asked to call one of my mom’s friends Babs. Her full name was Barbara Bush (yes, that one, the mother of Dubya).

archondigital's avatar

“god” would be nice… I use it when ordering coffee in starbucks…
you’d hear them yelling “White Chocolate Mocha Grande for God?”

peter29's avatar

I prefer to be called “Mr. [Surname]” – especially by children and young ladies. I have done since I was 13 and I’m now nearly 30.

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