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stevenb's avatar

Do many women actually like it when their s/o touches their breasts?

Asked by stevenb (3826points) October 18th, 2008 from iPhone

I am curious how many women actually enjoy it when their s/o touches their breasts. Does it just bug you, or do you enjoy it? I always hear women saying that it bugs them, but it seems like every guy likes it. Do you “take one for the team” and let your s/o have his/her fun? It seems like every semi sexy story I have ever seen makes it seem as if women get as much enjoyment out of that as they do sex. Urban myth? Just a male perspective? I don’t mean to be rude or dirty, I just wondered. Thanks.

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generalspecific's avatar

in my opinion, absolutely. if they do it the right way and things are getting steamy.. yes, it feels totally amazing. for sure.

wildflower's avatar

Depends on the touch…

AstroChuck's avatar

I don’t know if they do but I know that I do.

El_Cadejo's avatar

You gotta caress dude :P

ckinyc's avatar

what is s/o?

danny's avatar

significant other

SuperMouse's avatar

John Powell and Wildflower hit it right on the head, when the touch is a loving caress it is enjoyable, when it is rushed and feels selfish* it is not enjoyable in the least. When I was nursing I didn’t let anyone except the baby anywhere near my breasts.

*I’m not sure if “selfish” was the right word choice there, but I think it gets the point across. The only other word that came to my mind was “depraved” and that sounded much too harsh.

beccalynnx's avatar

i personally love it. but mainly that’s because i know my so likes it. and i like to see him enjoy himself.

laureth's avatar

It depends. If I’m in the mood, and the touch is just right, it’s awesome. There are times when it just doesn’t do it for me, though, and I think that’s just a message from the psyche that everything’s going too fast. If we slow down and start over, it gets better!

fireside's avatar

So, squeezing them and making a honking sound doesn’t work?
oops.

laureth's avatar

Yeah. That would be a game-changer. :D

augustlan's avatar

I love it when the timing is right, but I do get annoyed when it’s just random.

girlofscience's avatar

What?! I love it… and not just because my boyfriend likes it. I specifically enjoy my boyfriend touching my breasts. Sometimes, if we’re just laying together, watching TV, I’ll even request, “Give my boobs touchies!”

Bri_L's avatar

Lurve to girlofsciencce for use of the phrase “touchies”

MissAnthrope's avatar

It’s kind of weird.. before my last girlfriend, I could take or leave breast stimulation. I’m not sure if they didn’t do it right or I wasn’t as emotionally attached or maybe not as sexually attracted. My last girlfriend really opened my eyes to how amazingly enjoyable it can be. She won some major awards with me in the bedroom.. I miss her. :(

I will say that it’s annoying when they’re grabbed randomly and I’m not prepared for it. There are also times of the month when they’re too sensitive.

jessturtle23's avatar

I like it very much.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

I definitely enjoy it. I think it’s really nice that he likes it, but that’s not why I sometimes take one or both of his hands and put them where I want him to touch me.

wildflower's avatar

Should’ve added to my previous post:
For the average grabbing/squeezing: Lads, get your own stress-balls! And the honking noises…...seriously?? That’s meant to be a turn-on…..how?

stevenb's avatar

Im not a fan of the honking either. I enjoy the warmth softness, and beauty of my wifes breasts. I enjoy any touching and make it a point to make sure she enjoys it too. I am guessing the women I hear talking about how bad it is must just get the honking.

What about the nipples though? I hear some women hate them touched, while others enjoy pinching, pulling etc. Is that just a personal taste as well? It escapes me where the fun is in having your nipples pulled on, but I guess it could be an excitement thing. Any words on nipple tweakage?

SuperMouse's avatar

For me it depends on the time of month and the type of touch for the nipples. There are some times (i.e. menstruation) where they are very sensitive and as long as the touch is gentle and loving, I really enjoy it. Most other times however I have nipples of steel, probably as a result of nursing three kids, so it doesn’t affect me much one way or the other.

generalspecific's avatar

Nipple pulling/pinching/sucking never really did it for me. It could very well be that I just haven’t had anyone do it right, but I’m not sure.

augustlan's avatar

I like it.

marinelife's avatar

I like having my breasts touched and my nipples too. As most everyone else has said, it depends on whether it is done with skill and a desire to please and arouse.

If a guy wants to really have his way with me, though, I go nuts if I am kissed on the skin between the neck and shoulder.

stevenb's avatar

@ marina, you just hit my Fav spot. I Love to kiss and nibble on collar bone and neck areas. Maybe as much as breasts. Love them necks! I always have found collar bones sexy for some reason. I find that a lot of the women I find sexy have great collar bones too. I just started noticing that a few years back. I love the whole neck though. Right below and behind the ears too. I love to nuzzle my wifey. She smells like love.

augustlan's avatar

lurve to you for “smells like love”!

stevenb's avatar

Why thank you augustlan! I did luck out and marry an amazing woman. I love her more the longer I know her.

MissAnthrope's avatar

The nipple thing really depends on a few factors. One, the time of the month. Two, how it’s done. Three, how excited I am. My basic answer is that I enjoy nipple stimulation.. you can pinch, pull, whatever.

@Marina – Oh yeah.. that is absolutely the spot for me, too.

hearkat's avatar

It depends on the time of the month for me. If they are tender, I’d rather they were left alone.

And while I was nursing my newborn son, I couldn’t think of my breasts as sexual, so they were off-limits. I wondered if my perception would ever change, and it has… I do enjoy it, although they aren’t as sensitive as they were prior to breastfeeding.

But no pinching or pulling at any time!! Youch!

stevenb's avatar

So I wonder why in movies the women always like having that done(pulling, pinching, biting)? Is is because somebody out there thinks that is what men want? Why is it so prevalent in naughty type movie/stories/pictures?

hearkat's avatar

Tolerance and desensitization of the participants and the viewer are what I attribute the progression of what is considered “stimulating”. Consider even the mainstream… Lucy and Ricky couldn’t sleep in the same bed! Nowadays I’ll be watching a football game in the afternoon with my child, and they’ll show previews of tonight’s programming of a guy and 2 girls in the shower together. What was considered obscene or pornographic 25 years ago is now acceptable in PG-13 films!

MissAnthrope's avatar

@stevenb – I’m reading a very fascinating book called Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity. He talks about how porn is partriarchal and male-centered, basically it’s what men want to see. Not necessarily what should be reproduced in real life.

I always tell guys looking for sex tips to completely ignore everything they have seen in porn. That stuff should not be reproduced in real life unless it’s truly something the woman wants. Also, I have noticed a hell of a lot of really bad techniques!

La_chica_gomela's avatar

AlenaD, where can one find porn that’s what men and women want to see? Or just porn that’s not patriarchcal and male-centered?

I’ve looked at pornforwomen.com or something like that, I’m sure if you google it, the right url will come up (i’m at work right now), but it was just pictures of naked men that aren’t my boyfriend – ick! not a turn-on!

fireside's avatar

Don’t learn from porn???
Now what am I going to do with that mailman costume?
Or the referee costume, or the gardener costume, or the….

La_chica_gomela's avatar

fireside, lol. or the sexy secretary? the french maid? the lifeguard?...

fireside's avatar

@ chica – shhh, i only wear my french maid costume for those special ladies

Bri_L's avatar

So my Bill Clinton costume is still ok?

stevenb's avatar

Dont forget the pizza delivery guy costume! If highschool guys figure out that porn isn’t gospel who will deliver the worlds pizza?

Nimis's avatar

Ste: That totally makes me think of the Zack and Miri trailer.

MissAnthrope's avatar

@La_chica_gomela – It’s out there, but you have to search for it, since the vast majority of porn is male hetero-centric. I know when I used to get their catalog, Good Vibrations has a selection of porn for and by various people, including ones that were geared towards women. I was always kind of intrigued; they seemed to have an interesting selection.

Abby Winters is a female director you could try checking out. I think she does primarily real-life lesbian couples, but I did see one that was a straight couple and I thought it was pretty good.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

interesting, thanks!

girlofscience's avatar

@La_chica_gomela: I look at porn mostly of women. Some of the sites I like are:

metbabes (most girls are actually attractive and not grossly porn-ish)
sapphicdorm (lesbian scenes of the same type of girls)

If you like those, I can send you some more.

Even though these are of women, they seem for women as well. They are beautiful, but realistic, women, and they’re the kind of pretty that we want to be, rather than the kind of bimbos guyporn portrays. Many women (even though they’re romantically attracted to men) are much more aroused by women’s bodies. Since porn is all about visual stimulation, these types of websites are great.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

nice, girl of science!! awesome!

generalspecific's avatar

@girlofscience: that’s awesome, thanks. I’m definitely one of the type of girls you mentioned. Always worried me before.. but I got used to it. I dig guys, no doubt. but naked guys? ew.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

generalspecific, i think a lot of girls are like us. :) i know very few females who drool over pictures of random naked men.

stevenb's avatar

I think most women prefer semi naked men. Am I right? Leave a little to the imagination? That is what my wifes friends say anway. Women, though, are just plain beautiful. Clothed, naked, semi-naked, covered in sweat, mud, jello. Doesn’t matter. Just plain beautiful.

fireside's avatar

mmmm…women….

augustlan's avatar

@GoS: Nice sites. Though, it did concern me to see so many “teen” references.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Yeah, I found that a little odd. But it’s always one thing or another with porn sites…

augustlan's avatar

Damn porn sites…

stevenb's avatar

Why do they always have what looks like twelve year olds on them? I don’t get that, but I guess that’s a good thing.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

i don’t get it either, sevenb. those girls turn me off, too.

wundayatta's avatar

These don’t look like porn girls?!? I don’t get that. They all look like unbelievable fantasy bodies to me. Then again, to all you beautiful Fluther women, maybe they look normal?

On another subject, ask women whether they’d prefer to look at a naked woman or a naked man, and a huge majority of them would say a woman. In the conception that women’s bodies are the most beautiful, I think both men and women are agreed. I’m sure if we thought about it, we could explain it.

Finally, most women I know would say they find porn to be ridiculous. Is that not the case here? Do you use it for the same purposes than men use it?

augustlan's avatar

@daloon: What other purpose would we use it for? Alone and with a partner, just like you!

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Daloon I think that what GoS was trying to say about them not looking like “porn girls” is that they don’t have obvious boob jobs, they don’t have on a bunch of dark eye make-up, they don’t look trashy, basically.

You don’t find most porn to be ridiculous?

Oh, and to answer your other question, “Ahem, I use porn to practice my painting, you know, the nude figure; because I’m very artistic and refined.” ...oh wait, no i don’t ;)

girlofscience's avatar

@daloon: La_chica_gomela got my meaning correct.

And yes, we women use porn for the same purposes men use it. Of course we find most of it to be ridiculous (just like I’m sure guys do as well), but that doesn’t mean it’s not…helpful…

Of all of the females with whom I have discussed porn, I only know one who doesn’t use it.

wundayatta's avatar

I guess I don’t find it ridiculous. However, I don’t see it as film. If I was judging from a narrative point of view, it would be utterly boring and ridiculous. It would never see the light of day.

But porn is not about normal narratives. For many, perhaps most men, it’s about masturbating. As such, I find it, as GoS said, “helpful.” Sometimes couples seem to use it to… um…. get in the mood. I don’t know about this, since I don’t seem to have a problem getting in the mood.

Bri_L's avatar

as a man, I would rather see a natural woman turned on than a fake porno one any day of the week.

fireside's avatar

I’ve only ever watched a porn with a woman once while we were in the mood. And that is only because we had a hotel room and had already been in the mood for a while, so it was a playful diversion.

Though, I don’t remember watching more than a few minutes of it before we were in the mood again. But it did play in the background and provide us with a couple of helpful suggestions, I suppose.

Nimis's avatar

Helpful suggestions. Ha!

stevenb's avatar

What suprised me was that so many of those girls were beautiful. Why are they doing porn though? I always thought of it as a step above prostitute. Maybe I’m wrong, or has society shifted so much that people will do it because it’s fun and they get paid? I wonder if they get paid good money, or just minimum wage. Sorry if I worded that poorly. Can’t. Think. Around. Purdy. Gurls.

girlofscience's avatar

@stevenb: Well, it’s a much more “artistic” form of “porn” on these websites. It’s not as degrading as like, “WATCH THIS SKANK GET DOUBLETEAMED AND LICK THE CUM OFF THIS GUY’S DICK AFTER HE SHOOTS IN HER ASS!”

I don’t know if this makes a different, but most of these girls are not American. Many are from like… Yugoslavia. (Or so their descriptions say. I’m not sure if that’s just fake info and supposed to be some kind of “exotic” turn on.)

I know a ton of girls who have done this type of “porn” and most do it because they enjoy it. And they get paid much more than minimum wage. (Approx. $200/hr.)

La_chica_gomela's avatar

—Girlofscience, to clarify, in the second two paragraphs, are you referring to [a] the girls on the websites you posted before or [b] your example from the first paragraph? I feel like it’s option A, but I want to make sure.—

girlofscience's avatar

@La_chica_gomela: Great question; I was not clear.

Yes, Option A.

stevenb's avatar

They sure look like they came from a good, healthy lifestyle then. Perfect skin, beautiful hair, healthy bodies. If so, good for them.

Bri_L's avatar

amazing what photoshop can do

Nimis's avatar

Beautiful people have issues* too.
Yes, it’s a stereotype that everyone in this industry has issues.
But let’s keep it broad and say that includes financial ones as well.

girlofscience's avatar

Halfway down, this thread went totally off topic. Why did the moderators not complain?

augustlan's avatar

Because they are (mostly) MEN! ; )

La_chica_gomela's avatar

(men or not) they were mesmerized by the “purty gurls”! :)

fireside's avatar

Was there a topic?

Someone post more pictures of lovely naked women, minus the teenagers please.

stevenb's avatar

I kind of enjoy seeing where a question will go. I always learn something new about the people on here that way, plus they might answer a question I didn’t know I wanted to ask. It’s like life, a journey with unexpected turns.

jca's avatar

touch them, suck them, play with them, clang them together like church bells. when i’m with someone, i want it all…... and right and left need equal treatment.

stevenb's avatar

ga jca. When involved in foreplay, and sex, sometimes it’s all good. My wife and I have a few things she indulges me in that make me giddy, and blush at the same time. She is one awesome woman, and I’m one lucky man.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

jca – definitely, right and left can’t be uneven! it just wouldn’t be right!

stevenb's avatar

I’m an equal opportunity boobie lover. No favoritism here for left or right.
I do prefer to be in the middle though

augustlan's avatar

Even-steven!

Zaku's avatar

Ya, I was looking at the new activity list, and thinking, “49 new answers about whether women like their lovers to touch their breasts? I thought that was pretty solidly answered already.”

krose1223's avatar

I’m most definitely pro boob touching.

stevenb's avatar

I was wondering if I could get away with wearing one of those “boobie” shirts for the support of breast cancer awareness, or if I’d get smacked. and not in a good way

La_chica_gomela's avatar

stevenb, the ones that say, “I like boobies!” or something along those lines? you can get probably away with it..only if it’s very pink (women don’t smack guys they think are gay) KIDDING! KIDDING!!! plz don’t jump all over me everyone!

stevenb's avatar

They sell them here in brown. ;)

AtillaOfTheFlesh's avatar

mmmmmmmmm

PANCAKES!

onesecondregrets's avatar

I love me some booby touchage, grope-age, playage as long as it isn’t too extreme.

Bri_L's avatar

Welcome to fluther. There are tons of boobs here!

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

Yeah it’s usually nice. Just be aware that at certain times during the month some women’s breast get very tender and being rough with them will cause some discomfort for her.

_zen_'s avatar

How did I miss this thread. I’m going to read it again slowly.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

As long as the guy is not being too rough, I really love it. After I learned this about myself, I decided to make it really easy for guys I get sexually active with. I tell them how much I love it and show them what to do with their hands through my body language so that I can get the most enjoyment possible out of it. I love it when they can’t seem to keep their hands off them, especially when they appear to be enjoying themselves. I guess mine are little attention seekers like that. Heck, I like playing with them myself in front of a mirror when I’m in private. Maybe I’m just weird. I’m only somewhat sexually active with one guy now and I’ll tell him they miss him sometimes. He’s not really a s/o, but oh well. :)

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