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Breanna93's avatar

Ok, so I want to see this movie and I found out one of my friends is going to see it with 2 of my other friends tomorrow. Would it be rude to inconspicuously invite myself? If so, how would I do that?

Asked by Breanna93 (43points) January 15th, 2009
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peyton_farquhar's avatar

why don’t you mention to her that you were going to go see the movie yourself and suggest that you all go together? I don’t see why that would be rude or cause any akwardness.

asmonet's avatar

It is always rude to invite yourself anywhere.

tennesseejac's avatar

If they are friends I dont think its rude to invite yourself.

sharpwriter's avatar

“Hey, do you mind if I come to that movie with you guys?”

That way, ball’s in their court; and there’s little chance they’ll say “no.”

tennesseejac's avatar

I think they are the rude ones if they dont welcome your company to the movie when they know you want to go

Nimis's avatar

Depends on how close you guys are.

Something to the effect of this could work:
Are you going to the [insert time here] showing at the [insert theatre here]?
If so, we should totally meet up.

asmonet's avatar

Asking if you may join a mutual friends outing is not the same as inviting yourself.

“Hey! I heard you guy’s were seeing _____ mind if I tag along? I’ve been dying to see it!”

Is not in my opinion the same as assuming you’re going and making it known to the rest or making it difficult for them to say no. Which is what I consider inviting yourself.

Generally, if someone wants you somewhere, you’ll be told about it.

Nimis's avatar

Even among mutual friends, there are different splinter group dynamics.
The key, as Asmonet already mentioned, is to ask in such a way
that it’s easy for them to decline without any hurt feelings.

Cardinal's avatar

I think it’s OK, just ask, got room for another…..........I have been wanting to see that movie.

Nimis's avatar

Damn it. I always feel guilty editing an answer
that someone already GA’d. Sorry about that.

To paraphrase the previous response:
If you can’t do it casually, don’t do it because it will be awkward.

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

Does your friend know you know? How about calling, and saying “do you want to got to a movie this weekend? I hear___’s really good, and thought you might want to come see it with me.” Friend will either say they’re busy, that they are going to see it with other mutual friend, or invite you to go.

asmonet's avatar

@Nimis: It’s cool. It was just me, lurving you all over Fluther as usual. :)

asmonet's avatar

@AlfredaPrufrock: I feel like with that approach is if you know they’re going and they are unaware you open yourself up to being hurt by a white lie on their part and further insecurities.

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

Either way, you’re vulnerable.

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