If you saw your crush with another girl, what would you do?

Eliminate the competition.

Do you know for sure that it was a romantic interest or are you just assuming that it was?

my friend does really like this guy

right now the rules are similar to those of an auction, so you can:

a) either outbid her or
b) pass and just go find someone else

Is the guy worth it?

I would probably be slightly disappointed, but smile and wave at them.

First, have you (or friend) let your feelings known to them?

If you have not told them how you feel, you have no reason to say what they do, or who with.

If you have, ask them about it. It could be innocent, maybe a friend, cousin etc.

Don’t be getting mad till you know the whole story.

Put up or shut up. =]

Note: I did not say “put out.” That’s very different.

I would ask him about it before making any assumptions. we all know what happens when you assume. ;-(

Maybe it’s a cousin you don’t know about, or a friend he just happened to meet up with that he hadn’t seen in a long time. If she really likes him, she should give him the benefit of the doubt before she’s been given a reason to accuse.

Make myself noticable and get him to like me more!!!!

I realize I’m a bit out of the loop, but doesn’t the term ‘Crush’ mean that she is attracted to him, but not officially his girlfriend? Does he even know of her interest?

It’s none of her business if he’s with another girl.

She needs to turn on the charm and try to get him interested in her, instead.

Personally, I don’t think that people can feel entitled to people they like. The person with the crush can be upset or irritated, but that’s his/her problem.

I agree with Divalicious

Well if there all gaga over each other it will only have to wait a week when its over so you can have him all to yourself and its not a John Tucker Must Die type of thing. But if their not close at all just squeeze on in between them but make sure he knows your feelings for him and try not to break someones heart over it. If their perfect together just leave them alone.

Am I required to take teen angst seriously? Honest, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, and so, none of the rest of this is real. (In case some gullible teen felt this was serious advice).

My dear, this is very serious situation, requiring the most dire of solutions. There’s nothing for it. You’ve got to take her out! But that’s not all. You’ve got to kidnap the crush and lock him away where no snivelly-brained skank can get her hands on him again!

Now, I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, ‘Daloon, I don’t merely want to take her out, I want her to SUFFER!’ Here’s where I must caution you. I understand the urge to rip her eyeballs out with your inch-long fingernails. I understand your urge to pierce her viscera with your spike heels. I understand how you want to take a belt-sander to her scalp. Believe me. I do understand. It’s just—it can’t happen that way.

Still, you are not without options. You may, for example, force her to tattoo a series of cute little pussycats from her forehead down to her bellybutton. Oh, all right. The tattoos can go lower!

There are actually a number of other options, but I really don’t have the space to go into them here. Let’s just say that your every revenge fantasy from toddlerdom until now (with the exception of those two years you were recovering from spider bites inflicted by Santa Claus in that mall).

So, my dear, this is what you must do. That boy… uh, man belongs to you, and noone else. He must be taught to understand this. Once he sees how seriously you take your responsibilities, you can be sure he will never stray again. He’ll know, that next time, should there be one, it could be his stomach beneath the spike heels!

Threesome!

BATTLE ROYALE.

Actually, if I were in this situation, I would go up and strike a conversation with the both of them, because you never know what the actual relationship between the girl and the crush is, as well as the fact that saying hi gives me yet another chance to talk to him and show how friendly, charming, sweet, and adorable I am. I would also not linger too long; you wouldn’t want him to think that you (well she, I suppose) have/has nothing else to do.

@daloon Have you ever considered a career in diplomacy or politics? You have a gift. Bravo. You are wise beyond your years (you could very well be 110 years old, but you are wiser than that).

(the story)

Her and I were at the mall sitting on a bench, then she sees her crush with another girl. We did see them kiss as they walked away and went into a movie theather.

Oh. Well that’s a big sign that your friend was too slow. Early bird gets the worm, and it seems this third girl took the initiative whereas your friend was either too slow or too shy to make a move.

If I had any advice for your friend, it would be to be bold, take chances. Go and ask her crush out sometime, point blank. If he says yes, good, start the mojo and play the game. If he says no, get over the crushheartbreak and find another guy who’ll say yes. Life’s too short to spend wondering about love instead of finding your own love. I wish I could go back in time and tell this to myself so I wouldn’t have wasted a lot of love effort.

@Hinata_88: No offense meant, but how old are you, your friend, and this crush? And how much interaction has she had with him? I know that when I was in middle school, I had crushes on older guys all the time who had NO idea I existed, and I would be devastated when I saw that they were paying attention to some other girl, even though I had no chance to begin with. Also, it’s “she and I.”

TitsMc Ghee its very bad to ask a girls age, but the guy she likes is 19

I think the keyword here is crush. If she wants him to be faithful to her, she needs to step it up and make a move. Otherwise she just needs to move on.

@Hinata_88: I am a girl, and when you’re younger, it’s definitely not as big a deal as asking a mature woman her age. Judging from your question, your vocabulary, your grammar, your judgment of the situation, and your response here, I’m going to assume that you are under the age of 16, in which case your friend shouldn’t be bothering with a 19 year old guy to begin with. Correct me if I’m wrong here.

@TitsMcGhee, I totally second that.

The way I feel is this:

If the two spoke before, interacted before, and started a little romantic relationship of their own, sure. Get a little offended.
But if it’s just a crush that doesn’t know she likes him, that doesn’t really know of her, or who already said he just wanted to be friends, then either tell him, or just let go.

I know it’s totally cliche but, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Step up make him notice you and if he likes you more he will make the decision.

im am 18 and my friend is 18 to

@Hinata_88: You are 18, and your friend is 18 too, and the both of you are still worrying about crushes at the mall? Yikes. My advice then would be to tell her to step it up and make some kind of contact. If he has a girlfriend now (especially if he was kissing her), then she shouldn’t be too aggressive, or there could be negative retaliation from the girlfriend, which would be a mess of trouble that I’m assuming she wouldn’t want to get into. The best bet, in the event that the other girl he was kissing is his girlfriend, would be to find someone else who is single, and preferably not hanging out at the mall.

yea…..wat TitsMcGhee said….....

What? Is 18 the new 15? (or, is it the other way around?) I mean, I know we all get younger as we get older, but isn’t this a little ridiculous?

@mrswho: Ta very much. I, to [sic], have often thought I should be in the diplomatic corps. I mean, enough with the diplomacy shit. Let’s get it on!

Wait, hasn’t that been our policy lately? Shoot first, and ask questions later? Maybe I need to revise my point of view!

Oh, and Mrswho, just so you know, I am the new 40. Give or take.

Wow, I too was under the impression that the friend was around 15. Tell her to find something productive to fill her time until Mr. Right comes along.

At 18, I was busy working a full time job and going to school. I didn’t have time for crushes. When I did like someone, I didn’t sit around dreaming about him, I did something about it.

Don`t wait around for him. Besides you could probably do better….. or maybe his is the best choice

@dragonflyfaith: Yeah, at 18 I was working and going to school too. If I met someone, great!, but I didn’t let that monopolize my time, especially hanging around the mall.

When I was 18, I moved out of my parents house, was working full time, and then moved out to Florida from Jersey. And for the rest of that year I was traveling to Cali, Oregon etc, while getting jobs along the way, and starting to do stuff for college. If you’re hanging out at the mall, getting bummed about “crushes”(who even uses that word anymore? I don’t think I have since 5th grade.), then apparently you have your priorities all sorts of screwed up. Come on now.

@chelseababyy: Whooooooaaaaa there. Back girl. Back girl. There’s a nice girl!

who died and made you mother?

@chelseababyy: I also don’t remember the last time I called someone my “crush” without it being in jest.

@TitsMcGhee… Speaking of that. I’d been meaning to tell you…

@daloon & @TitsMcGhee mmm I sowwy. I’m just in kind of a harsh mood tonight.

@chelseababyy: ‘S cool. What’s goin’ on? Anything you wanna talk about? We could ask a question…

@chelseababyy: No no, silly, no worries! I was agreeing with you!

@daloon, mmkay, good. And just kind of irritated at the boyfriend tonight. He makes stupid remarks that just pissed me off

@TitsMcGhee, LOL I TOTALLY READ WHAT YOU SAID WRONG. /fail.

@chelseababyy: I love you, regardless :)

@TitsMcGhee the feeling is mutual. :]

My first girlfriend broke up with me because she was moving to Maryland.
Now, I learned that she is 12…twelve and she has well, BJ (for the ones who know what I am talking about to keep it PG) and had SI (”).
So think carefully.

@90s_kid: JIGGA WHAT? WHAT? TWELVE?????? oh jebus, what the balls.

True story…

@90s_kid 12 whah?? Oh Lord no! that has to suck

She’s really ghetto….even in Maryland.

OMG!!!! She`s 12? How old r u?

Well, she is probably 13 now, because I am 14 and she was a year younger than me.

o im only 13 and that is just waaaaaayyyyy outta my range hold on let me add u to my fluther so i can send you a comment. BTW does her parents know?

HEY! Someone who is a teenager!! I am adding you to my Fluther also!!!
Her parents do not care, believe it or not!
Some people are like that, and I am glad they aren’t my parents.

@90s_kid WOAH. That’s insane. I heard that this one middle school nearby had to get a daycare for all the 6th-8th graders that had had kids. I think that that should be illegal. Someone should be going to jail. The parents ought to pay for that.

@90s_kid omg what kind of parents are they they need to quit trying to be her friend suck it up and be her parents okay!!!! Yea because teenagers understand stuff bout nowadays stuff!
Well if tha kids r that freaky and get preg they need to deal with their kids themselves. Having a day care is practically saying you can have kids well watch them for u. I`m in 6th grade n thats rediculous.

That makes me ill, honestly. My roommate and I are lamenting just this issue, because she’s looking at pictures of her friend’s sister, who is also 12, and the things she’s wearing, her makeup, the way she is posing and whatnot is RIDICULOUS. I don’t even know her and I want to grab her by the shoulders and shake her back into childhood… or take her on one of those episodes of Maury entitled “Help! My pre-teen daughter is into sex, drugs and alcohol – she’s out of control!”

Are those shenanigans legal? Why isn’t someone in trouble for this? Kids shouldn’t be doing that kind of stuff.

okay but thats pathetic i mean come on…...

Maybe this is the wrong time to say that she sends her friends porno?
yeah I didn’t say that
In my highschool, there is a “Parent-student Room” for the exact reasons @mrswho mentioned.

You all better take a second to watch this video. Especially the third verse.

@90s_kid When I was in HS, not too long ago, girls got in a hell of a lot of trouble for porn and stuff. They were like, freshmen.

My sister is 12, she TRIES to wear makeup, but she def does not wear slutty stuff or pose lame, I’d FUCKING KICK HER ASS.

i love that song runaway love man
i feel bad for girls that have to go through that.

@chelseababyy: That’s what I told my roommate! And we had a girl in my high school awhile ago who got in massive trouble for sending naked pictures of herself to boys in the school USING THE SCHOOL EMAIL SYSTEM. Gah, people are so fucking dumb.

Like Vanessa Anne Hudgens.
I thought that was funny.
Now, let’s get Cak and Chyna over here to tell me that it wasn’t…

@TitsMcGhee im sayin tell me bout it
@90s kid i see u have not become good friends wit Cak n Chyna but if u get to know them like i did u will c that they are really cool

Not so much Cak, but Chyna definitely has something against me, hands down.
God I hope they don’t see this thread

well chyna 1of my fluther friends but u dont have 2 like her just because someone else does. But there both awsome and cool.

@LouisianaGirl: Just a friendly tip, and I really do mean friendly; be careful about using “txtspk” on fluther – the mods and the members aren’t really fans. Using shorteners like “u” and “c” and especially “2” and such take away from the intelligence and integrity of your answers, which are great, content-wise. I hope you don’t take offense, I just wanted to give you a heads up. Otherwise, welcome to the community! It’s great to have you here :)

@TitsMcGhee no offense taken and thank you i will add you 2 my fluther

@TitsMcGhee Seriously, who does that? The school I went to, and I’m not even kidding, checks like MySpaces for like pics with alcohol or anything like that, and they would CONTACT parents. When it comes to nude pics, I don’t get it. School email? Wtf? And honestly, I mean I get why people do it, but freshmen in high school? Really? Do people have self respect?
My sister is adorable. I love the hell out of her, but if I EVER see her starting to act whore-ish. She’s done. I’m just looking out.

@chelseababyy: I was SO careful in high school, and even in college now, about having pictures taken of me while engaged in any behavior that isn’t acceptable, even with anything like that in the background.

@TitsMcGhee Funny thing is I completely completely TRUST my boyfriend now, and I still haven’t ever sent him anything like that, and we’ve been together a little over a year. He’s way mature, would never do anything to hurt me or exploit me or anything, and STILL I haven’t done anything like that. Totally see where you’re coming from.

If I saw my crush with another girl, I’d ask them both out!

i would move on and find a guy worthy of my full, adoring attemtion

I would just give a weak smile and go looking for someone else. I would try to find someone that likes me for who I am.