Why do some people expect others not to become emotionally attached when they have had sex?

Well, my first reaction is that not everyone believes sex should be left for a husband and wife.

@poofandmook I know that…...

For some it’s just an act, I guess.
I know for me, I can’t w/o some form of feelings for the other party.

That would be your answer then. If not everyone takes it so seriously, then for those people, doing it without emotions just for recreation is completely normal.

Because for many people, the purpose of sex is not to become emotionally close nor to have a baby, it’s to have fun with these pleasureful bits!

Why don’t dogs expect other dogs to become emotionally attached when they have sex?

People have a right to believe whatever they like.
Taking your question as an example… why do some people believe that sex can be without emotional attachment…
Why do some people believe that all sex should be within the bounds of wedlock?
Why do some people have trouble reconciling their belief system with that of others?
Why do some people believe something other than what i believe?
Why doesn’t everyone agree with me?

Slippery slope…

Some people expect others not to get emotionally attached because they themselves don’t get emotionally attached.

@Sol that’s a stupid question, and you know it.

Dogs can’t get married, so are they supposed to have sex?

Dogs are not humans. Comparing them here does not make sense. If you continue to do so, I shall assume you are someone who does not make sense.

@dynamicduo you assume all flutherites make sense?

Why should sex be exclusive to a religious institution?

@Sol You’re very irritating.

@Dr_C I most certainly don’t, but I like to give the benefit of the doubt to newbies. This will probably change soon.

@Sol – why do you keep asking pointless side questions instead of answering the one asked?

The other person expects only it if the first person doesn’t say anything with regard to their beliefs, desires or intentions. One can only expect an outcome based on the information at hand. If all the information is out there, however, and the other person still expects a certain outcome, then that person is either rude or deluded.

@dynamicduo mad lurve… i always enjoy your responses!

@aprilsimnel makes sense to me. Do you think people can agree to not have feelings after?

@Facade: I think people can believe they won’t have feelings, but since that sort of thing can’t be controlled… a true, honest promise to not get involved isn’t possible.

@poofandmook ok

@poofandmook – That’s what I’ve come to believe for myself as well, after trial and error. Lots of error. But such may not be true for everyone. I know people who conducted their romantic lives more conservatively and something changed for them where they were able to separate emotional attachments from taking care of horniness.

Well, I don’t have casual sex, so there are feeling involved.

But we are just another type of animal, so not everyone takes that approach. I personally know several people who have sex the same way they sneeze – it’s just another biological urge. It doesn’t make them any less human, just shallow.

Just ask a prostitute.

Why do some people read your question and then answer as if they didn’t read the entire part, including your opinion in parenthesis? Grrrr

Some people want to experience sexual bonding but aren’t sure or feel they aren’t capable of deeper feelings, love or fidelity, for example. Maybe they don’t believe in giving sex any great importance or power over themselves. Then there are always the people who are having casual sex because they’ve got something steady on the side but are addicted to the thrill of new sex encounters and they want it all.

@VzzBzz Yea, I thought I covered all the bases.

I see what you’re saying. I guess it’s a preference thing.

You can become emotionally attached, but not be in a relationship. I had emotional attachments to the men I’ve slept with. Even just “fuckbuddies”, we still would share parts of our lives with each other. I considered them friends.
I think when you establish a physical relationship, you have to be upfront on what you want. You shouldn’t say “no emotions involved” because that is impossible when it comes to sex. It’s in our nature to become possesive of the people we are sleeping with (in my opinion/experience.) But, not to a strong degree.

@casheroo I agree.

@casheroo: As someone’s who’s experimented with a “fuckbuddy”, I agree it’s near impossible to have no emotions involved; I was all, “wait… you can only be my casual fuckbuddy” and that right there let me know personally it wasn’t for me. Some people have to try these things for themselves to know what works best in sync with their personal character and where they want to go with life. Others who know right off, kudos.

It should be clear to both (or all) parties involved what the extent of the relationship will be from the very beginning. Sexual, friends with benefits, romantic partners, exclusive, open, etc. Sometimes it’s not that clear, or one person misinterprets the situation. Also, sometimes it can be clear as day, but through the passion, one’s mind can change.

@Sol
Why should sex be exclusive to a religious institution?
I don’t know why should it? Are you saying what I think….sex in church…wow and I thought the train was risque.:P

@SeventhSense: I think he thought that Facade was saying it was a religious thing because she said she thought it should be between a married couple. Personally, I’ve always wanted to have sex in a church. Just kidding, don’t want to offend anyone.

I think it would be very hard to remove myself emotionally from sex. Maybe with a lot of practice, I could. Sex is not just about the physical, it is about the emotional, however little emotion there is.

@KatawaGrey
thanks for explaining that ~_~

@SeventhSense: Hey, there is no need to be like that. I was simply trying to point out that maybe her saying that had nothing to do with religion at all. Maybe that wasn’t clear and I am sorry about that, but you don’t have to be rude about it.

I have had sex recreationally and as an expression of love and affection in a serious relationship. In my experience, sex like words or any other action are all open for interpretation from the people involved. Some people are incapable of associating sex with love or involvement because of abuse or emotional trauma. This is not a question that can be answered with a general response. But I think it’s shallow to think that all sex should be limited to married couples, to think that dogs have anything to do with this topic (metaphorically or other), or that anything that involves two people is ever going to be viewed the same or equally in any regard by both parties involved.

@KatawaGrey
Now I’m intrigued. She was obviously saying that sex did not need to be confined to marriage by a religion. I was simply pointing out the pun in her statement

It just comes down to a lack of empathy on the part of one partner, and perhaps unrealistic expectations of the other partner. Some people actually experience sex as simply a physical act between two willing people. To me, they are only experiencing a pale shadow of the sexual experience, but that’s just my opinion.

personally, i dont believe sex is strictly between a husband and a wife. i’ve noticed, from talking to my guy friends, that it is a physical release for alot of men. however this is usually when its just a hook up…or a “friends with benefits” situation. Sex is much more emotional and makes you much more connected with your partner when you truly care about each other and have a strong relationship prior to the sex.

Some poeple just want sex, they want no strings attatched, some are one night stands. I think it’s wrong to test emotions this way