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How young is too young to have a tubalization?

Asked by sflwr09 (6points) June 6th, 2009

I am 23 with 2 children and am seriously thinking of tying my tubes. Would I regret it later when im 35 and want more children?

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DarkScribe's avatar

How can anyone possibly know? None of us can read or predict the future. I had a vasectomy more than twenty years ago, but they are reversible. In my case I am not sure that I would need to, my last daughter was born a year after what was supposedly a successful vasectomy. If you have doubts, maybe you should wait.

bythebay's avatar

Assuming you mean a tubal ligation; here are some articles that might help you in making your decision. At your young age, imho, other less drastic birth control options might be a better choice. Only you can answer your own question.

The Procedure

Possible Side Effects

Information on Reversal Surgery

dynamicduo's avatar

No one but you can know. Do you want more kids now? Are you opposed to adoption?

Tubal ligations are much harder to reverse than vasectomies, so note that.

casheroo's avatar

If you don’t want more children, and are positive you never will…see a doctor. You have to go through counselling and what not since you are so young.
I personally am a fan of vasectomy’s. I wouldn’t get a tubal unless I was getting a c-section and they were in there already. A vasectomy is less invasive and less expensive.

seekingwolf's avatar

I have no idea if you’ll regret it when you’re older, but I will tell you that many doctors would not perform a tubal on a women your age. You’re very young. Most women don’t get tubals until they are older.

My mom was 47 when she considered getting a tubal…but she made my dad get a vasectomy instead, which is a smaller procedure and less invasive.

Perhaps you can also try the birth control pill? I’m on Yaz right now and I love it…haven’t had any side effects. According to studies, the pill, when started at a young age, can reduce your risks of having cancer in your breasts, ovaries, cervix and uterus.

Judi's avatar

I will tell you my story. I was 23, separated from my husband, on welfare and had 3 kids. The doctor said, “you’re pretty young, are you sure about this?”
I said, “I know I had my kids young, but when I’m 4o I will still be young enough to do all the things I should have been doing at this time of my life. (Travel, finish school, party, etc..) I get back with my hubby and at 28 he died.
When I re-married, I found the most amazing guy in the world. He had never planned on having kids (actually had a vasectomy in his first marriage) so my tubal was not a problem for him.
I did, however find myself wishing we could have had a child together. It was not the end of the world by any means, but I was always so sad that he was an only son and had no children.
I have traveled, and had a blast since my kids have grown. (Haven’t finished school yet though.)
Just a few things to consider.

walterallenhaxton's avatar

@Judi Is it reversible like vasectomies are. Maybe you are looking at this from the wrong perspective?

Judi's avatar

When I had mine They cauterized the tubes in 3 places. Not very reversable.

walterallenhaxton's avatar

@Judi Maybe in the future some woman might demand enough and give enough commitment from/to a man to have him take care of the proble and avoid irreversible surgery.
I don’t like cutting up a persons body when the future is certain to be uncertain. If some disaster happened and a woman lost all of her kids who can know what she would want to do.

syz's avatar

I asked my OB-GYN for a tubal ligation for 10 years and he kept telling me I was “too young”. Then I had an ectopic rupture and nearly died (in spite of two forms of birth control) and he finally agreed to perform one. I’d be surprised if you’ll find a doctor who will perform the procedure at your age.

Judi's avatar

@syz , I think you would be surprised.

casheroo's avatar

I know in my state, if you’re young, you have to see a psychiatrist and they assess you as being mature enough to make the decision. My ex did that at 23.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Have you thought about getting an IUD? It’s safer, less invasive, less expensive, more than 99% effective, and the best part, it will last up to 12 years, or you can have it taken out any time, in case you change your mind.

walterallenhaxton's avatar

I am dropping out of this question. I don’t have enough to contribute.

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