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You guys help with dreams, right?

Asked by Phobia (1470points) June 10th, 2009

I’ve had a very disturbing, recurring dream. I’ve looked around on some of the dream websites, but I don’t think the symbols give a clear enough meaning for this one.

I woke up, in the dream, on my dads couch. I looked around and saw my dad and step-mom sitting at the dining room table crying. When I asked what was wrong, my dad simply pointed at the front door. I walked over, unlocked the door and opened it. On the front porch was some sort of stake, like a pungi stick. About midways down the stick, pierced through the belly, was a baby burnt to a crisp. It usually ends there, I guess from shock or something.

I’ve had this dream a few times and it scares the living hell out of me everytime I open that door. Usually there’s only one baby, but once there were two. Any ideas on this nightmare?

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drClaw's avatar

Any trauma recently or in the past? Even something as simple as a car accident can cause bad dreams.

Phobia's avatar

Nope, no trauma. No injuries, no sudden changes, no lost loved ones. Nothing out of the ordinary I could really place with this.

whatthefluther's avatar

That is extremely disturbing. I can’t help, but I hope someone can. Good luck.
PS: You chose the username “phobia.”. Sharing your fears may help explain your dream.

tyrantxseries's avatar

just a couple of questions

Are the baby’s alive or dead?
Are they face up or face down?
If face up do you see their eyes?

Phobia's avatar

Phobia is just a name I’ve used since I started online gaming. It was meant for my enemies to know fear, you know?
I don’t actually have any phobias. The few things that scare me are the normal things, like having a gun pointed at you.

Edit: They are dead, facing down, eyes closed.

autumn43's avatar

Since you say you have had this dream a few times, have you ever asked your Dad and Stepmom about it?

shadling21's avatar

I echo @whatthefluther: I’m clueless about this stuff, but I hope you can find some help with this dream.

Judi's avatar

You don’t have to answer this, but have you ever had an abortion? It sounds like a dream a person would have trying to deal with that.

Phobia's avatar

I’m a guy, and haven’t been in a true relationship in a long time.

tyrantxseries's avatar

To see or dream that you are on a couch, represents rest, relaxation, laziness or boredom. It may also mean you need to clear you mind and thoughts.

To see someone else crying in your dream, may be a projection of your own feelings onto someone else. If you do not cry in your waking life, then seeing someone else cry may be a little easier to deal with then seeing yourself cry.

“burnt baby” may suggests that you need to take time off for yourself and relax. Consider also how you may be feeling “burned out” or “burned up”.

tyrantxseries's avatar

Opening something, such as a door or box, can represent:

* Curiosity
* A desire for understanding or information
* A search for something such as an object, person, opportunity, etc.
* Beginning something new, or a curiosity or desire to do so
* Clarity or a willingness to hear the truth or to be honest with yourself
* Receiving, or a desire to receive something

tyrantxseries's avatar

baby being pierced
* Compromising your integrity or your own personal boundaries (where your skin represents your personal boundaries)
* The idea of tending to sacrifice your integrity or health for the sake of appearances or frivolity
* The idea of compensating for feeling not good enough, not self-expressive enough, or wanting to feel different or better than others, etc.

Judi's avatar

Maybe it has something to do with sorrow of your childhood being gone, dieing, innocence lost.

Phobia's avatar

Thanks tyrant. I just wish my dream could have been something a little more….I don’t know….subtle?

I asked a few online buddies right after I posted this, one said “A feeling of losing innocence” (like Judi said), “or doing something you’ve come to seriously regret.” I know I would be disappointed in myself if my actions hurt them. Maybe it shows a fear of failure, which connects back to the “not feeling good enough” part.

tyrantxseries's avatar

could be, only you can correctly depict what your dreams mean
lol I wish my dreams were that subtle

augustlan's avatar

That is one seriously disturbing dream! Sorry you are having the experience repeatedly. @tyrantxseries seems to have done all the symbolism research, but you’re wondering about the root cause. Are you going through any kind of transitions at the moment? Moving out, starting high school, a new job?

Phobia's avatar

None that I can think of. I just got promoted today, but this dream started about a month ago. I’ve been living here for about two years now. Everything is pretty much the same as its been for a while now.

toomuchcoffee911's avatar

@augustlan starting highschool will give me dreams like that?!

Jack79's avatar

Maybe it shows a fear of failure, which connects back to the “not feeling good enough” part.

I’d say this is closer to my hunch about this dream. Obviously I don’t know you, so I can only speculate as to what this dream could mean. In my experience (this is purely empirical and not based on something I read or discussed) there are 3 types of dreams:

1) straightforward “story” dreams, often of things past (you dream about the day you just had).
2) more “psychedelic” dreams, with complicated symbolism and psychological implications (like the one you describe). Most nightmares, but also some cool weird dreams, belong to this category.
3) prophetic dreams, very rare but the most interesting of all.

My hunch is that you subconsciously want to ask your parents a question. There’s something that’s been bugging you and you never asked. Perhaps it has to do with your biological mother? And you’re afraid of what the answer (opening that door) will be. It doesn’t have to do with any recent developments, which is exactly why it’s re-occuring. It’s just something that built up, possibly even a dream you’ve been watching for years and didn’t remember until a month ago.

In any case, I think it shows a fear of a possible bad result (such as the failure you describe) to an action you might take (possibly a question you may ask).

Kayak8's avatar

What always helps me with dream interpretation is someone asking me questions as though I were an alien. If I say, I opened the door in the dream then they would respond with “what is a door?” In this way, MY meaning for the images becomes more clear. It can take a while, but I have learned a lot about my own dreams (and how my sleeping brain processes) by doing this exercise.

For me, it isn’t important what a book about dreams tells me a snake means. I need to identify what a snake means to me.

wundayatta's avatar

Have you ever had a dream (in the sense of something you want to do in the future) that you had been nurturing for a long time, and then you decided it just wasn’t possible? Have you mourned that dream you once had? Did you give up that dream in a sudden, somewhat shocking way?

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