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Have you ever worked third shift?

Asked by tedibear (17865points) July 13th, 2009

If so, how did it affect your marriage/relationship?

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Phobia's avatar

I work the third shift now, twelve hours a night. My last girlfriend pretty much left me because of this, she said I didn’t have enough time for her. Luckily, it wasn’t a serious relationship, so it was a pretty easy breakup.

I couldn’t imagine have a serious relationship, but my co-workers seem to do just fine with theirs. Both are married and (as far as I can tell) are happy at home.

whatthefluther's avatar

As to how it might affect a relationship, it would depend on whether the other person also works and their hours, as well as both parties willingness and ability to adjust their schedules to coincide with their partners. I worked some graveyard many years ago and it was not conducive to a relationship with a day shift worker, but my stint was not long term and we got through it OK. See ya…...wtf (my initials)

SirBailey's avatar

Oh yeah, I have. Many times. But it was never meant to be permanent so we just wait it out. Then, too, there was more money working third shift so both of us profited.

marinelife's avatar

I have worked them all at one time or another. I found third shift easier than second shift to merge with someone on day shift. Basically, the graveyard person stays up and has breakfast with the day shift person. Then you sleep and plan to get up roughly when the other person gets home. You have the evening together.

That said, it is hard on the body and hard on relationships.

Darwin's avatar

I worked third shift shortly after I got out of college. As long as I did I had no relationships.

However, my brother and his wife are both night owls, so they have no problem with third shift.

ubersiren's avatar

I did for a little over a year. My relationship was just budding then, so I guess it didn’t make such a huge impact. We only saw each other twice a week or so. As it got more serious, though, the schedule did become more of a problem. We just didn’t have time for each other as much as we wanted. Finally, I moved on to other things (for lots of reasons) and now I’m married to the dude.

Kiev749's avatar

hard strain. its hard to start a new one while working 3rd.

tedibear's avatar

My thought process is that if I worked 11PM to 7AM, and he continues to work 6AM to 5PM, the only thing we’re not doing is sleeping together. We’ve never eaten breakfast together during the week, and the only thing he would have to do that he doesn’t already is to make his own lunch. I would sleep when I got home, do whatever I needed to around the house, make dinner and then when he goes to bed at 8:30 or 9:00, I could grab an hour nap.

The thing that could be a problem is that he says it bugs him a little to be home by himself at night. I have that issue too sometimes, so I can see where it could be tough on him.

We’ve not talked about it yet, but we will. :)

galileogirl's avatar

@tedibear39 It’s actually legal to have sex between 5pm and 11pm.

Both of my parents worked rotating shifts (on different schedules) and managed to have 6 children so obviously when there’s a will, there’s a way.

YARNLADY's avatar

My Dad used to work third shift when I was growing up, and I remember we had to have ‘quiet time’ when we got home from school. It was great for us kids, because it meant Mom wanted us out of the house. We went to the mall and the library, and for long walks in the country side behind our house, since we were in the last house in the development.

My son works that shift now, and his wife likes it a lot, since she is an ‘up all night’ person.

filmfann's avatar

I was working from 6pm to 7am every day for 3 or 4 months. Everyday means Saturday and Sunday too. I was coming home exhausted, and my wife was quite frustraited with me.
I came home one morning, and my Wife (who is deaf), told me she would take the kids out shopping with her, so I could have a quiet house to sleep in. I was out about 3 hours when they returned. The kids (about 1 and 2 years old) had whistles, and they came in blowing them for me, and jumping on the bed. My Wife couldn’t hear the whistle sound, and just thought they made the kids happy to blow on.

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