Do you think there is a proportion of looks to money, or youth to intelligence in relationships?

Can you elaborate?

I think I understand what you’re saying, but I want to make sure.

Rich people can afford expensive beauty products.
Youth has no direct correlation with intelligence.

As a personal aside, you don’t need to be so self deprecating. Give yourself a break!

I think some people settle in this way, yes. Look at Hugh Hefner, for goodness sake! However, I don’t think it’s universally true.

Yes 1.618, now go work on a formula that works for you. On a more serious note I have met a couple of females that liked older men. Not for their looks, experience or mindset, but because they reached a certain financial status. People sometimes fall in love with an idea and not the person.

Relationships can, and are, between any two people at any given time. There is no formula.

Some people form relationships based on criteria other than being attracted to and compatible with someone. Those people may, sometimes, fall into the categories you mentioned, but then you can only tell by appearances. For all you know, it could be true love.

Do you mean a formula like for every 100k he makes, she can be 5 years younger than him? No.

@Marina gave a great answer no wonder she has over 20,000 lurve!

No. Maybe for some people. Everyone has their own ideas about what they are looking for in relationships, even if they borrow some ideas from others. But even original ideas made up by each person, are still just ideas made up by someone. Relationships can be about much more than comparing each other to our ideas about what we think we want.

Well, different people value different things in those they make relationships with – I do think that if the person is not attractive to them physically, there better be something else to them attractive about that person or the relationship…for me age, gender, financial status never mattered…intelligence, passion, ambition did

Of course! Different people have different attractions. Different people are looking for different things in a partner. Older guys usually are attracted to younger women. Younger women usually don’t want to even look at an old guy, because it’s creepy that he is even interested. However, for a few young women, they just want security in terms of both money and expertise, and so they will be interested in an older guy.

Older women, especially those who are settled financially, often look for intelligence in a new partner. Sometimes they’ll go for youth, but I don’t think it is as often as older men do.

Younger guys usually like women around their age—maybe up to a decade older or starting at age 18, depending on how young the guy is. Younger women often think younger men are less mature, although they are hot. Intelligence is often an attractive feature in both men and women, as is net worth, and occasionally, creativity. Intelligence and net worth and youth and creativity are the mother lode, so-to-speak.

Unless you just want someone ordinary. In which case looks and average intelligence may suit you just fine, whatever age you are.

If you aren’t a good looker, then you’ve got to sell yourself on personality or intelligence or creativity, unless you find someone who is at the same general looks as you are. These things all change based on individuals and preferences.

However, all the stereotypes and prejudices aren’t there for no reason at all. They do apply, in general, but not in specific. Never write yourself off with anyone. You have no idea, before you get to know them, who they are interested in. Similarly, never write off someone else based on external features. Again, you have no idea. And people change over the course of a lifetime. The poor artist can become a wealthy business person. The ugly duckling can grow up to be a swan. The fat guy can lose weight and buff up. So current attributes are not necessarily a good predictor of future attributes.

In relationships, it’s safe to believe that all bets are off. If you’re interested in someone, let them know, and if they aren’t interested in you, don’t take it personally.

@bumwithablackberry I think you are basically barking up the right tree but remember there are over 6billion individuals on this planet and what works for one doesn’t work for all.

Having said that, power is attractive at the end of the day, wealth is power, and that attraction can overtake any surface attraction.

How else do you explain all the women that fancy Simon Cowell?

In the case of my wife and myself we are of similar age (me slightly older) and take home similar salaries (me slightly more) but I hate to admit it, I wouldn’t like it if she took home more than me, I don’t know why but for some reason it’s like I would be a failure in her eyes. It’s weird I know but that’s why men are from Mars etc.
How else do explain all the women that fancy Simon Cowell?

I used to be naive and think people wouldn’t settle for those things, thought it was mainly something put out by media but I’ve seen enough to know better. Money can buy youth, security and increase opportunities, it can buy a lot of things. I’m not familiar with the show you reference but I’m going to say yes to your overall post.