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Facade's avatar

How do you feel about people who say "I told you so"?

Asked by Facade (22902points) October 4th, 2009

Do you feel people are in the right to say “I told you so” if it is warranted?
Should people never say “I told you so”?
How do you react when people tell you “I told you so”?
Does it matter if it’s said in private or in public?

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J0E's avatar

If they really did tell me so, I don’t care.

AstroChuck's avatar

I usually just call them a big poopy-head and run away crying.

DominicX's avatar

The only reason why people don’t like is because it’s embarrassing when someone points out you were wrong about something. But so what? Being wrong isn’t the worst thing in the world.

I personally don’t care if someone says it. Like @J0E said, if they really did tell me so, then so be it. Usually I hear it used in a less serious way “toldja” or “I knew we should’ve…” something like that. “I told you so” itself I don’t hear too often.

whatthefluther's avatar

I can handle the extremely rare “I told you so”, better if not from a parent. See ya….Gary/wtf

Grisaille's avatar

I don’t think anyone has ever said that to me.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

It’s not a problem. All my friends have been warned they get a fat lip if they ever say that to me.

SMAKKK! I told you so too!

Grisaille's avatar

@Facade Haha, I’m being serious. I can’t think of any occasion.

It’s rather rude, regardless. I’d probably slap them in the face with a glove and challenge them to a duel, or something.

Facade's avatar

@Grisaille That’s because you’re always right :)

whatthefluther's avatar

@Grisaille…..always the gentleman! Do all New Yorkers wear gloves, or have them readily available? What’s your choice of weapon….never mind, I believe it would be the challengee’s choice. Care to dispute that? Let me be the first to tell you told you so! Wait….you guys do things different on that other coast. Forget it….I’m headed outside to fuck off in the sweet Southern California sunshine. Peace. See ya…..Gary/wtf

MacBean's avatar

Dickheads. If you told the person so, there’s a good chance they haven’t forgotten and already feel like an idiot. No need to rub it in.

Supacase's avatar

I don’t really care; I have no problem admitting when I am wrong or have made a mistake. It makes them look immature, which isn’t my problem.

wundayatta's avatar

I think it depends on how they say it. If it is a kind of rueful thing, because it would have saved you a lot of trouble if you had listened, then I think it’s not so bad, especially if the person really wishes they didn’t have to say it. If it’s a gloating thing, that’s pretty rude. I don’t like people like that.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I think they’re being an ass, on purpose and therefore will get what they deserve, from me

Facade's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir That scared me a little bit lol

hearkat's avatar

I am more often in the position of trying to not say it to someone who had asked me for advice. I usually try to see all sides of a situation, and will tell the person what I’d probably do if I were in their shoes, but that I respect their decision.

For example, I recently asked a friend whom I’ve known a short time to join me for a concert. She is a musician, and she seemed genuinely excited at the invitation. This made me happy because when I bought the tickets, I didn’t know whom I’d invite, but I was hoping to find someone who would really appreciate it.

A week before the concert, she met a guy, and they hit it off fabulously. They spent every evening together for 4 days, and then he asked her to join him for a family barbecue on the day of the concert…

She called asking my advice. I told her that I thought it was very soon to be meeting the family, and that it seemed like there were some signs of potential obsessiveness on his part. If he truly were ‘the one’, he’d understand that she already had plans, and there’d be plenty of opportunities to meet his family. I also told her that if she chose not to go to the concert, I would not hold it against her.

She chose to go with him, and I never heard from her until she reappeared on Facebook about a month later, indicating that she was single and that she needed to block his number.

I was genuinely sad for her disappointment, so I said that under the circumstances, I was sorry to have to say I told you so; and that she could give me a call if she wanted to talk.

MacBean's avatar

…I said that under the circumstances, I was sorry to have to say I told you so; and that she could give me a call if she wanted to talk.

You didn’t HAVE to say you told her so. You could’ve just said she could give you a call if she wanted to talk.

shego's avatar

I think it just depends on the situation. I mean I was told ” I told you so” all the time. Yeah, it made me feel like an idiot, and a dumb ass, but I’m sure I deserved it. I personally try to stray from saying it myself, but on occasion, I do.

rooeytoo's avatar

If someone has adamantly argued and debated a point and it turns out they were wrong and I was right, sometimes I can’t help myself and I will whisper it, nah nah nah, I was right and you were wrong!

But I do really strive to be a bigger person than that, well most of the time anyhow.

hearkat's avatar

@MacBean: Yes; but I was frustrated because she completely agreed with everything that I said, yet she still blew me off anyway. Although I told her that I respected her decision, a part of me was still pissed-off that she cancelled long-standing plans with a friend for a guy she had only just met. There’s the unwritten rule that friends should come first (e.g. as the kids these days say: “bros before ‘hos” or “chicks before dicks” I don’t know if there are any same sex couple sayings that are similar). So I was actually practicing a bit of restraint, rather than being completely childish and throwing a fit when she first presented the dilemma to me, or refusing to talk to her when she did choose unwisely. It is also the nature of our friendship to be lighthearted and kid around; so in the context of it all, I do not regret saying it. (but now I’m wondering just how did I phrase it?)

mattbrowne's avatar

I almost never use the phrase “I told you so”. It’s counterproductive. But if someone keeps his or her interest in getting advice I would repeat my advice or offer new advice.

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