Has anybody had weird experiences after someone close to you dies?

First I want to say that I am sorry for your loss. I am in the mental health field and I can tell you that many many people ad described similar “dream-states” to me. It is not unusual for a person’s mind to be more open during sleep, allowing you to process grief more easily. Some believe that the dream you described is an attempt for the loved ones who have passed to communicate to you that they are safe and comfortable and in a better place. Others believe that it is your own mind telling you that it is time to heal. No matter what you believe, it certainly seems like this was a comforting experience for you (as opposed to a scary one), so there is no reason to worry. Different people grieve differently, so there is no set limit on how long you are ‘allowed’ or ‘supposed’ to grieve. You are definately not alone in this.

I will share something that happened with my daughter. she was three yrs old when her father died. he took his own life due to severe bipolar that wasn’t responding to meds and he had a psychotic reaction to zoloft. she was at school while it happened. the first few weeks she didn’t sleep well, had nightmares, would wake crying and crying for her daddy. exactly two weeks afterwards my daughter fell asleep on her grandma’s couch really early that night and slept through the night. lets just say she isn’t a morning person and could be rather grumpy and mean in the morning. her grandparents and I (we were staying with them) were talking and eating breakfast when she walked into the room and smiled and said good morning. we all stopped and looked at her because she was smiling. she said, “I had good sleep mommy” i said wonderful and pulled her onto my lap. then she just looked at all of us and said i slept with my daddy and his angel. after that she didn’t have another nightmare and slept through the night.

@madsmom1030 Oh wow….I have tears in my eyes.
@lfino I am so sorry about your parents. It’s such a lonely, scary feeling. I’m glad you had the dream though, for whatever reason. I hope you end up with a feeling of relief and hope, even though waking up and realizing it was only a dream is kind of devastating in itself.

My “dream” was in 1994 when my brother had died in a fatal car accident when he was 17. It was so sudden and shocking and I didn’t cope well with his passing. We were very close. He was my best friend. I myself wanted to die knowing I would never see him again. I found myself not being able to sleep, thinking about how there was no goodbye, just wanting to hold his hand and see his face once more. I fell into a deep sleep about 2 weeks after his death. I remember getting up because something drew me to the front door. It was cold and I remember the feeling of actually grabbing the cold door knob, going out on the porche and crying for my brother. I heard him call my name. I thought I was crazy. I looked up and there he was. He looked so pure and clean, different but the same. He reached his hand out to me and he said “here is my hand you needed to touch, I came to you to say goodbye. I am ok, but now I have to go comfort other people in their dreams.” He left into a light that I can’t describe. To this day, I don’t believe it was a dream. I think it was my brothers way of helping me through his death and I felt better after this experience.

@Roughdraft76 Wow…chills. Thank you for that.

After my grandmother died my mother woke up in the middle of the night and my grandmother was sitting at the foot of the bed and my grandmother spoke to my mother and said that everything was alright and that she was fine and at peace. This also happened to her with a different relative.

I remember when I was a kid, hearing my mom & aunt talking about something very similar. It involved my aunt waking in the night & her father (my Grampa, deceased) sitting on the foot of her bed. I’m sorry I don’t remember more detail. :-(

When my grandfather died, the clock in their house stopped working. I don’t know how soon after, but I remember the next time I went there, which was pretty soon after, it wasn’t moving anymore, and we all talked about how odd that was.

@deni That is odd….I have a couple of clocks in my house that don’t work, and a while after my son moved out I noticed that they were all set to 4:20!

@Val123 HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

@deni Glad you got it! LOL!

what a clever boy you have there lol

Srsly! He’s smart as a tack, and has the most wonderful dry humor!

When my wife passed, I had the “weird experience” of wanting to join her. Still do.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land, I’m so sorry.
@lilfoxi, I have found a book called, “Special Dream” by Luellen Hoffman, that shows how common those kind of dreams that I had are.

I haven’t had one personally, but I witnessed something I’ll never ever forget. In 1960 my dad got remarried to a woman who had a daughter from a previous marriage who was two years younger than I. She and I became very close as the years went by. Then, one afternoon while we were both still in high school and, of course, while Mom and Dad were still at work, my step-sister and I were sitting in the living room sharing a joint and had been laughing and talking for quite a while when suddenly her face turned pale. She looked me straight in the eye and in a shaky and sobbing voice said “Grandpa is dead!” At that moment, the phone rang shattering the silence. It was her aunt calling to tell her that her grandpa had just suffered a fatal heart attack. Up until that particular moment, I didn’t believe in either ESP or clairvoyance.

@Rufus_T_Firefly Wow!

yes and I wrote a book about it called Special Dream.

Only one of death and one not.
When my son was 2 he woke up crying at about 3 in the morning. When asked what happened he said there was an old woman in his room and she was sad because she said she had to go away but she wanted to see him to say goodbye. The next morning we found out his great grandmother had passed away in her sleep.
Another time, I was probably about 3 or 4 and my mother said my dad had gone in to have his tonsils removed. No one knew there was a complication because my dad started to hemorrhage and he was put on critical for a while. My mom had just gotten word from my aunt but I wasn’t in the room at the time. My mom said I burst into the room and ran towards her to tell her that dad was going to be fine. (I didn’t know about the surgery either)
When she asked me how did I know, she said I just looked at her and said, with a smile, he told me not to worry, he will be coming home.
She later asked my dad if he said anything to that effect to me and he said no. Neither of them told me about him going away because he was suppose to be home later that evening and figured I wouldn’t understand.

Right after my friend AND mom died I had this glorious scent of dried rose petals come into my office, linger, then leave. No one believes me and that’s ok.
About a year after my first husband’s grandmother died, we were sleeping in the bed where she used to sleep at his mom’s house. (this goes WAY back). Suddenly a very strong scent of old fashioned bath powder came into the space above us, woke us BOTH up, then left . Next morning is when his mom told us that Her mother used to sleep in that bed.

@Roughdraft76 ?? Did you touch or take his hand when he asked you to? This was a remarkable experience. Thank you.