What is the best way to determine what your worse qualities are and what is the best way to correct them or improve on them?

My brother told me all of them in a fight once. Sucked at the time, but I reflected and he was totally right. I’ve been conscious of them and have tried to improve since.

Ask. If they really care about you, then they’ll be honest. At least, that’s what I’ve always thought.
Or you can ask them to do so anonymously! That’s even better.
And I’ve always thought that you were nice. ^^

@troubleinharlem thanks for the compliment. but i have been shown in an objective manner that i am not that nice at times.

this is a kind of ongoing thing for me, i had already started to make big progress before i joined this site. i made quite a few changes before i came here.

i think its probably my age, i will soon be 27, and now see my self more like a 30 year old than a 20 year old. that probably has something to do with it.

kick em in the nuts.. then ask.

Why don’t you ask people to name 5 of your best qualities, and if you notice there are some qualities that are consistently missing then there’s your answer.

Listen in on other people’s conversations about you behind your back? Then be sure to behave as the opposite of however they see you?

You could ask your friends, family & co-workers to do a 360 degree asessment.

It is a tool generally used in the business world in which you ask people who work below, beside and above you in the hierarchy to answer questions about you anonymously. You could use it with friends & family instead. Generally these tests ask questions about your strengths & weaknesses and then synthesize the answers to show you where you’re getting alot of repeat answers – if several people answer the same weakness, then you know those are your problem areas.

You should find some free online services if you google 360 degree tests.

@LKidKyle1985 ahh yes, i like it. very nice logic.

Thanks, I was just thinking it would help to identify the ones that are missing if you give them a list of qualities to choose from, other wise it would be too vague for you to figure it out.

If you have a large enough sampling of people you’re also in contact with online, you could ask them to fill out Johari and Nohari windows for you.

If any of you think you know me well enough to contribute, my windows are here and here.

Get married. Your spouse enumerate your worst qualities several times daily.

@MacBean ill check that out thanks.

@ratboy she is not my spouse, but it is something like that that has triggered all this.

@ftp901 Nice suggestion… Welcome to Fluther!

Ask someone you trust for feedback. However, in general it’s very difficult to improve weaknesses significantly. It’s much easier to focus on your strengths and build upon them. In modern management that’s how it’s done nowadays.

offer a “real” piece of advice first.