Should a girl make the first move?

If a girl wants to make the first move, then a girl should, indeed, make the first move. :)

why not?

YES. I am a girl. I always make the first move. Otherwise nothing would happen. My friends are afraid to make the first move, so they have no romance in their lives. Boys are often too scared to too, so go for it!

there’s this one girl right now.. i’d love to talk to her but i just haven’t been able to get around to it. if she would just call me, she’d win sooooo many points. save me from my workweek from hell.

but there’s always a balance i’m sure.

It’s fun to watch guy’s jaws drop and eyes pop when, after we’ve been flirting playful for a bit, I hand them one of my cards and tell them to get in contact with me.

I have a feeling this doesn’t happen often, because the messages that I get later always say how refreshing it is that I did that.

It’s creepy to ask for a person’s number that you just met and seems a little lame to say “here’s my e-mail address/facebook”. Just take control of the situation and hand him an incredibly well designed card while looking him in the eyes and saying “I’d love to continue this later, if you’re interested” or something similar.

It also gives him a chance to google your name and get a sense of who you are before he decides on contacting you.

Googling me comes up with a couple of atheist groups that I’m involved with and some other things that I would want a guy to know about before we plan a date. It’s a simple way of giving him the option of doing the research and making his decision on contacting me or not based on it.

(Also, the general consensus seems to be that there is nothing sexier than a woman who is professional, classy, knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid to get it.)

Here’s the wrong way to do it (which I did): cute guy regularly came into the pizza place I worked one summer. We’d chat, and one day he finally paid with his card so I could get his name. I then facebook friended him. Wrong.

The right way to do it: simply propose you and a guy hang out, ask for his number, when you’re with him get a little close (he’ll make more space if he’s not into you), be the one to hold his hand first, bump knees, etc. It’ll be easy to tell if it’s not mutual, and guys who move too fast can be undesirable, but girls who move fast are just bold.

Whoever works up the courage first should make the first move – gender shouldn’t really come into it.

I’ve always been much bolder with it, but i do it jokingly.. like mid convo “so where we gonna make out tonight?” things like that and of course I always smile and make it very non-threatening and non-aggressive.

WARNING: at this point though I can already tell if the girl is into me or not – so its safe zone for me.

i think its as simple as what @FireMadeFlesh said.

personally, i tend to make the first move, but only after i’m sure that the guy feels the same way about me. and i can usually tell pretty easily one way or the other, so it never feels too risky, really.

New day new age go for it

I asked my first boyfriend out making the first move, no one died, the world didn’t implode so I say go for it.

I did….

Wow @these_responses. I’ve never had a female make a move on me. I’ve always been the first & it’s cost me a lot since I used to be really shy, but a female making the first move on me would be shockingly awesome in my opinion.

To be honest, I want to thank God that girls can make the first move.

oh the girls that make the first move… best in the world :D

Heck yeah, if that’s what she’s feeling. Bras weren’t burned for nothin’.

OMG, this one time at Band Camp…

I wish I had been approached by women so I’m all for it.

Maybe they’re all asking the same limited set of guys?

Sure, why not?

It’s fine. Once you’ve made that first move, be sure to let him make the second one. Be friendly, straightforward, etc. Just don’t chase.

@daloon interesting concept. I would think I’d be part of the category though since I’m so easily approachable or least I believe to be, but I do only have these two eyes to see through. ;)

As long as its towards the bed room. No point in beating around the bush, when all you want to do is beat around the bush~ ;-p

@Pazza amen! haha.

Yes I think if they have the confidence then why not…if you want something in life you’ve got to go for it…as long as nobody gets hurt.

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! A girl always wants you to make the first move…it is the respectable thing to do

@jessicamarie
A man who makes the first move does not have respect on his mind ;-p

First question a man asks himself when he sees a woman:
Would she gerrit, or wouldn’t she?.....

Its a genetic reflex, sorry.

Or maybe its a genetic flaw.
But then again, maybe its evolution.

Women should definitely make the first move. I’m totally comfortable with it!

This sound like a question I posted, I see nothing wrong at all with a female making the first move. I’ve done it before and it led to two relationships of mine.

@RebeccaSJ heeyyyyy… are you hitting on me? ;P