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How do you break ties with someone in your life?

Asked by Master (1358points) December 12th, 2009

Sometimes there are friendships where you perceive its motives are not true. Specially when you can see a cunning person behind a nice face. I don’t feel pleasure to be around them and I’d like to leave this relationships in the past. Ideas?

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PrairieWind's avatar

No,but had to move for work

alquest's avatar

Yes i would like to break the ties with some of the people ,beause they have let me down in my life.

Likeradar's avatar

Yes. It’s really not that difficult (except emotionally, maybe)... just quit answering/returning their calls and re-arrange your schedule a bit to avoid them if you need to. Who do you want to break ties with?

AnnieB's avatar

Yes. But, I have children with him.

MountainMomma's avatar

Yes and I have tried to stand by it.

Carbonproduct's avatar

No. You’d have to “have” some before you could “break” anything.

Jude's avatar

I had to with an ex. She was toxic for me and at the time my self-esteem was low, so, I put up with it. I finally grew some cajones and got my shit together. I moved on and stopped on communication with her.

HighShaman's avatar

Yes; I wanted to and I DID…

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

Er….. tell them to piss off? It usually works after a few attempts.

A gentler way is to accidentally forget appointments with them, talk to other people preferentially when they are around etc. Whatever you do, it can be messy if they are clingy.

Zacky's avatar

People tell me to just do it as soon as possible before its impossible to do.

Iclamae's avatar

I’ve had to do this a lot recently. It depends on the situation and how badly you want to break ties with them. If you’re angry enough, you can tell them in person that you don’t want anything to do with them anymore and why. If you are non-confrontational or have a less offensive friend, not answering their calls and slowly interacting with them less and less will work.

But I personally think the direct approach is better. Gets everything off your chest and makes the situation clear to them.

strange1's avatar

er.. a pair of scissors?

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