Why did my ex boyfriend say he wants to be best friends but completely ignores me?

Go around his, get the guitar, kick him in the balls and leave.

It could mean that he was afraid of hurting you and still is. It could also be that he thought he would be okay with being your friend still, but found it too difficult because of everything that went on in your relationship. I could be way off, but yeah. It’s hard being friends with ex’s, especially if there’s still feelings involved and/or you’re afraid of hurting the other person. Anyway, why doesn’t your friend just go to his house and pick it up?

He broke the guitar and doesn’t want to admit it. If he ignores it for long enough, the problem will solve itself.

My ex said the same thing. Turns out she realized she simply just didn’t want to be friends anymore. Even though we were no longer dating she felt any sort of relationship with me was to much to deal with. Hope it’s not the same case with you but it’s a possibility.

Try being a little more strict in getting the guitar back.

Go with your friend to pick up the guitar when you know for sure he will be home. Then write him off. He lied. He does not want to be friends and he is not a nice guy or he would have given the guitar back immediately. Hopefully he hasn’t broken it or sold it by now.

If anyone commenting has trouble giving me advice, if it helps, I have another question under topic ‘breakup’

the summary of the question is ‘what should i do after my first break up? how do i deal with it…” it explains mostly about what happened during the relationship

feel free to give me any advice, i greatly appreciate it!

I would go to his place and get the guitar. If he doesn’t answer or isn’t home then find a time when you are 100% sure he is in, then call the cops and bring them along. It will make the whole thing run a lot smoother. And its a less physical kick in the nuts really

It sounds like he really wanted to break it off comepletely, but couldn’t bring himself to do it for some reason. The guitar issue is really your friends problem. The relationship between you and him is over on all levels, you should accept that and move on.

It means he was cheating on you long before he broke up with you.

yeah, as much as it hurts sometimes….I should move on. But when I realized earlier that I should move on I sent him a text saying it would be easier if you brought it sooner then later and I also said please bring it back because then we could move on with our lives. i believe it’s my responsibility to make sure she gets her guitar back because she was so nice as to lend it to him because he was my boyfriend.

cheating!? O_O

:( I don’t think so…we both had the same morals
When he is with some one he might not be the perfect boyfriend and did not treat me well but I don’t think he could do that to some one.
Neither can i ever cheat on some one, I would not be able to live with myself.
but I hope I’m right about that part :( other wise I’d rather give up on relationships all together when you can build such a strong bond with some one and say ‘I love you’ but in the end it was all a lie…. that’s just a bit sick and cruel

I was kidding about cheating, but the truth is, one can never really know another. It’s clear you’re having a hard time dealing with the break up. The only advice I can offer are two cliches:

1. Time heals all.
2. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.

So, move on and enjoy the journey… Best wishes.

you’re right though…. no one ever really knows, which is unfortunate, and just keeping myself occupied should take up my time until he’s gone from my mind

Is his living with his parents? If so, if all else fails, call his mother.

You are only hurting ypur self by sticking around!!! Ignore him for a couple of months, go out have fun, and he will start to wonder whats going on and start calling you!! but you should really not be in his life! Theirs always some one better out there!

Sounds like he wants you there in case this new relationship or whatever does not work out… then you’ll come in as 2nd place…..

I’d suggest that you get anything of yours that he has and run, not walk ..away from this sorry sob…. NOW !

Maybe he gave the guitar as a gift to his new girlfriend or hocked it or broke it or sold it. Tell him your friend still has the reciept of the guitar and she said if he doesn’t return it soon she is going to report it as he stole it. And you will testify to it.

I’m sorry but it is because He Is Not Fucking You Anymore And He Is A Dick.

You seem like you were nice enough with the break up and honored his wishes….but if anyone would ever kidnap my guitar I would kidnap their balls, run them through a meat tenderizer and feed them to my turtle!! Very uncool for him to not return that ax!!