How do ask the girl of my dreams to be my girlfriend?

How old are you and her?

be yourself… get to know her and flirt with her…

“Let’s make babies.”

say it like that. Don’t ask questions, just state your goals.

LOL JK

Seriously though, you should get to know her a bit more. When you do know her, you can ask her it casually and it will be quite enjoyable

Ask her out for coffee or a coke during the day. Keep it simple and see how it goes. You can tell fairly quickly whether she likes you as well.

i would listen to jay z’s ” 99 problems ” and then ask my self is the girl of my dreams or dream.

Flip the script. How would a girl get you to like her? It goes both ways.

No offense, but you rarely meet the “girl of your dreams” as a freshman in high school. Spoken by a sophomore in high school.

Like some of the other responses, just be yourself. Show her that you are a good listener, that you care about her thoughts and feelings and show her that you are a nice guy. The rest will come naturally. You don’t have anything to loose so just talk to her :) don’t come on too strong though, ladies usually don’t like that.

Try and get to know what makes her happy, what she cares about, what annoys her, what she needs. That’s how you become a friend. That will get her to see what kind of guy you are. Take it from there. Dreaming gets you no where near as far as actions.

Be her friend first. Like just say hey or hi or howdy or whatever. And compliment her on something like her shoes or her shirt. Dont be a chickin do as I say! And then ask her what types of movies shes into and that will give you a little to know about her movie type so if you ask her to a movie then you will know if she wants to see it or not. Oh and I forgot to tell you after a day or so ask her to a movie that will give you a chance to look up some movies of her type that are in theaters. Go as a group date so she wont feel uncomfortable alone with you but ask her to invite a friend too so she wont be surrounded by boys which can also kinda make her feel uncomfortable! And dont include the word DATE when you are asking her to the movies.. Just say this: Me and my friend are going to see _______ at the movies and you can join us if you want. You can also bring a friend of yours if you want.” Then to make it even better you can give her a piece of paper with the address to the movies and the time its gonna be like a lilttle invitation. Ok you may think this sounds cheesy but I am a girl so I would know if I would like that or not. Girls think alike but we just all have different personalities. Ok anyway after the movie dont invite her on another group thing because then she will know you are in to her and then she would be kind of weirded because girls dont like it when the boy moves way to fast for her she likes it when they are friends first then about a month later he asks her.. Ok after the group thing you should probably wait about a 2 weeks or so before you ask her out again but you dont want to invite her on another group thing thats for sure. And after that you should invite her to dinner. No place to classy because then she will know you have a major crush on her. Sometimes girls like that but sometimes they think its really creepy so you dont wanna take a chance.. And after dinner ask her ’‘if she is looking for a boyfriend right now’’. Dont say anything like are you single or will you be my girlfriend cuz thats cheesy i mean really really cheesy like cheddar!!! But anyway if she says shes not say your sorry immediatly or she wont give you another chance. Just say you were asking. And then take her home and about 2 days later call her and say your sorry about what happened once more and she will feel really good about that. And when you see her again flash smiles at her. Not where your cheesing but just a little smile. But not that little either because that will make her think your mad at her for not wanting you. And not soo big that you look stupid but you know what I mean. Oh but on the other hand if she says maybe.. why? When you ask her if shes looking for a boyfriend just say ’‘well if you were would you CONSIDER letting me be him?’’ But dont just all of a sudden say well cuz I want to be our boyfriend or something. And she will you know answer. And if she says yes. then also say ’‘would you consider letting me be him’’. She will probly say yes and I guess you got yourself a girlfriend dude! And dont be a chickin once again! All right piece out and tell if it works out! or just tell me if you like my idea! Please! Or you could just tell me how much you hated it but yeah! Ok piece out for real now! Piece out!

There you go, guy ^ , there’s the logistics from someone who is actually in high school.

Be cool, ask her to hang out with you and you friends first, to see how she behaves a bit more, and then sit next to her at the movies or at the cafe afterward and chat a bit. Be kind. Pay attention to her (like you do with your friends).

And stop thinking about yourself all the time, and how you feel, because that doesn’t leave an opening for her to see you, with all your ish in the way. There’s nothing to be afraid of by just talking to her and being open (like you are with your friends!). Were you scared of meeting your friends when you first met them? Don’t put her on a pedestal becuase she’s a pretty girl. She goes to the bathroom and picks her nose when no one is looking – just like you.

Try to get to know who she is as a person (like you do for your friends) and you’ll be OK.

Peace out.

Sorry to say it, but for the most part girls like self-confidence: the exact thing you’re not demonstrating.

All this bit about being scared and shy and… whatever… that’s your worst enemy.

However, you can’t just will it away. If you’re scared and shy, you’re scared and shy, yes? It is what it is.

The people on this thread who say “be yourself” are correct: but how do you do that? That’s what self-confidence is—it’s someone just being themselves. But that is a lot trickier than it sounds, especially when you’re an adolescent.

This is something that usually takes someone about 20 years to get worked out well, you’re not going to solve it this week. But some basic pointers might be helpful:

- Someone who is “being themselves” doesn’t have much attention on themselves. They are engaged with life directly. They’re not looking in the mirror all the time to see how they look, nor are they constantly self-correcting and second-guessing their actions.

- You don’t have to fix all those self-doubting thoughts and concerns about yourself. You can actually just walk around them and keep on going. They’re only a barrier if you take them seriously. It’s sort of like how the Boogeyman is only a problem if you believe in him.

- Regarding girls (or women) in general: it’s important to realize that each one is an individual. You have to pay attention to details: how is she wearing her hair? What exactly does she like or not like? What specifically do you appreciate about her? Women respond to appreciation, if it’s sincere and appropriate. The good news about this part is that it’s a skill you can practice on anybody: pay attention to people. The cashier in the store—what is their name? What’s distinctive or different about them? Connecting with others is about seeing their uniqueness, and that means you have to drop your preconceptions and judgments about them.

- Learn to just be. This is another thing you can practice: sit or stand perfectly still in a crowd, let the people walk around you and think whatever they’re going to think. Look at one spot on the floor ( a mall is a good place for this exercise), and just notice everything going on internally and externally. Observe details. Notice your breath going in and out. Notice the fact that your thoughts are screaming at you “move, dammit! They’re going to think you’re weird!”. Just let those thoughts come and go and stay put. You do not have to react to every thought and feeling you have: that’s what you can learn from this kind of practice.

Someone who can just stand there still and let it all swirl around, without being compelled to “fix” anything or react…. is demonstrating stability. It’s like you’re a huge empty container with all this stuff going on, but you don’t have to be jerked around by any of the stuff.

So when you can just be and start to relax, you’ll be able to do that around girls as well. Then instead of being a churning reactive puppet bouncing off of your doubts and fears, you’ll be present and available to interact and respond with her.

first you have to go to sleep…

“You are the girl of my dreams! Be my girlfriend!” might yield unexpected results*.

*desired results not guaranteed

Talk to her before you say she’s the girl of your dreams. She might end up liking you… and you may end up hating her.

This may seem much easier said than done, but you should walk right up to her and ask her directly, “Would you be my girlfriend?”

The worst that could happen, is that she would say “no”.

Now, if you never got up the nerve to ask her directly like this, then the worst that could happen would be, that she wanted to be your girlfriend, and the fear of direct communication ultimately kept both of you apart.

I think that fate, would be much worse than rejection.

Good luck!!!