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What is one thing, that is possible to change, that you want to change, but your s/o doesn't want you to change?

Asked by Sophief (6681points) April 19th, 2010

We all have something about ourselves that we want to change. For me I would like to change the colour of my hair, but my boyfriend doesn’t want me to, so I won’t do (though can’t understand why he wouldn’t).

What would you like to change, that your s/o doesn’t want you to?

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JeffVader's avatar

Well, she’s not my significant other, but I’d like to lose about a stone in weight, she says I look good as is & that she prefers robust, manly men. I cant help but think that robust is a euphemism for chubby though.

Sophief's avatar

@JeffVader I wouldn’t say so, I would say it means broad and strong.

partyparty's avatar

I can’t think of anything at the moment that I would want to change.
If I wanted to change something then I would. I would just do it. He would never say he didn’t want me to do something.
My SO loves surprises…

JeffVader's avatar

@Dibley Yeh, thats what she says, but a lifetime of being told ur fat is hard to overcome…. Once she described her ‘perfect man’ to me. Tall, dark, handsome… but with class & sophistication, a James Bond type figure (Pierce Brosnan was JB at the time) I practically choked, how in hell do you compete with that….? Her friend later told me that thats how she sees me…. personally, I dont see it!

Sophief's avatar

@JeffVader That’s really sweet. That is how she sees you, that is really nice. Don’t care what other people think or say to you. It only matters what she thinks.

JeffVader's avatar

@Dibley Indeed…. what totally threw me was the tall bit, Im 5’10’’ & the shortest of 3 brothers, so I heard tall & just thought, that counts me out…. but I guess in comparison, I am :) I’m slowly coming to understand that….. for far too long in my life Ive allowed the opinions of people I dont care about to dominate my thinking, but no more!

Sophief's avatar

@JeffVader People certainly are very very cruel.

JeffVader's avatar

@Dibley They can be thats for sure….. & usually for self-serving reasons too.

downtide's avatar

I can’t think of anything I’d want to change that my S/O would not allow me to.

deni's avatar

I want to shave my head at some point. He does not want me to. At all. lol.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

There is no such thing. He would never tell me what to do or what not to do when it came to my body.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I would love a tattoo (or maybe two!) but my boyfriend hates them. For that reason and that reason alone I won’t get one.

partyparty's avatar

@Leanne1986 How about a temporary tattoo? You could change the design as and when you wanted (or wash it off if he hated it) LOL

Chongalicious's avatar

I need to do some situps. He prefers the squishiness >.< But I think it looks rediculous UGHH

Kismet's avatar

My boyfriend has never verbally said “don’t ever change this”, but when I mention going on a diet and losing weight he replies with “I think your body is perfect, but you do whatever.”
I also wanted to get braces because there is a small (but noticeable to me) gap between my two front teeth, which he did actually say he’d rather me not change.

Other than that, I think we’re good.

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