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(NSFW) Do some women not have a G-spot?

Asked by Neizvestnaya (22667points) July 17th, 2010

I don’t think I do and it kind of bugs me. My orgasms are great but I still wonder if there’s something I’m missing or not doing right. I’m not being pressured, I’m definitely not ill satisfied and no one’s brought it to my attention- this is just a me thing.

If you had a non-responsive G-spot partner would you think them odd, maybe something they’re not doing right as far as relaxing or being emotionally open, would you think there’s something you’re not doing right to them? Would you bring it up?

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jazmina88's avatar

It’s there…do some research…....spend more time exploring.

marinelife's avatar

If you are having great orgasms why worry about it?

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@jazmina88- are you sure? It’s not new territory and after so long the lack of response does have me curious.

@marinelife- I’m not worried but I’m really curious. What’s that saying… _“a little knowledge is a dangerous thing”?

AstroChuck's avatar

The G-spot is a myth. To those of you who refuse to believe this and still insist it is real I just want to remind you that the brain is the largest sex organ.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@AstroChuck- I’ve wondered about that. People say you can orgasms from strictly vaginal stim without any clitoral stim but how is beyond me.

dpworkin's avatar

It is merely an hypothesis, and if you have orgasms you have more than many other women.

filmfann's avatar

When the human body is formed, the G-spot on women develops into the Prostate on men.
So, either way, it kills men.
All women have it, but it may not have the sensativity you would hope for.

ragingloli's avatar

I prefer my P-spot, thank you.

perspicacious's avatar

My understanding is that it’s there in all women, but the level of sensitivity varies greatly.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

It’s definitely there, and I can always find it – but as long as you are satisfied, don’t worry about it.

It’s actually very, very rare for a woman to be able to orgasm with only vaginal stimulation. I’m guessing the people saying that women only need vaginal stimulation are men. So don’t be afraid to have him focus on your clitoris.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@AstroChuck No one is saying the brain isn’t the biggest sex organ. That doesn’t mean other erogenous zones don’t exist.

Keysha's avatar

@AstroChuck Your article says this: “The way they carried out the research involved identical twins. Identical twins share all their genes, while non-identical pairs share 50% of theirs. If one identical twin reported having a G-spot, this would make it far more likely that her sister would give the same answer. But no such pattern emerged, suggesting the G-spot is a matter of the woman’s subjective opinion. So it’s all in the mind and nothing physiological at all according to them. I get the reason for using twins, but the findings then fail to take into account different sexual technique, and unless both twins had the same sexual partner, how would they know if they were having the same type of sex?”

It depends a great deal on if a woman has had it stimulated, as to if they know they have one. So, your myth is, in fact, still up in the air. A comprehensive study needs to take all variables into consideration, not just ones that will slant the study the way they want it.

meagan's avatar

If it makes you feel any better, most men don’t know where it is, either.

gorillapaws's avatar

I have heard that it’s a myth as well (scientists have dissected cadavers and studied the nerves in the area without finding differences from other vaginal tissue for example) . From what I understand, what most women report as the G-spot is actually stimulating the root of the clitoris from behind. I’ve known several women who like that particular spot, but I have neither a vagina nor the medical background to explain the phenomena.

I certainly wouldn’t judge a woman if she was incapable of having a vaginal orgasm (if anything I might interpret it as a failure on my part). I think judging a woman for this would be a pretty shitty thing for a guy to do.

@Neizvestnaya have you experimented with various methods (vibrators, etc.) on your own to see if you could get yourself to have a vaginal orgasm? (If that question makes you feel uncomfortable, please accept my apologies and feel free to ignore it)

Haleth's avatar

“But no such pattern emerged, suggesting the G-spot is a matter of the woman’s subjective opinion.”

Even so, many women would probably agree that it’s a sensitive area or that stimulation there gives them pleasure. Most of our likes and dislikes about sex are very subjective.

@Neizvestnaya Maybe g-spot stimulation just doesn’t do it for you, which is absolutely no big deal. It’s only one of many erogenous zones. Not everybody likes having their ear nibbled- it’s the same idea. I used to work at an adult toy store, and we had a lot of books that dealt with sex topics like the g-spot in a technical way. Plus I had a chance to talk to a lot of the customers about their experiences as I was trying to solve their problems. It seems like the g-spot is a lot less sensitive than the clitoris. It responds mostly to pressure or rubbing than to light touch, and it can be hard to reach. You can reach it if you make a “come here” motion with two fingers or buy a toy that’s curved like this. Some people need clit stimulation at the same time.

But then again, out of all our customers, it seemed more like something they just wanted to experiment with, or a novelty. Out of everyone who can have a g-spot orgasm, not everybody likes it. It feels like pressure building up (you might feel like you really have to pee) then a sudden release. That’s definitely not pleasurable to everyone. You may have already had a g-spot ograsm but not realized what it was. This is all just conventional wisdom- it’s definitely not accepted as scientific fact. So really, if you don’t like this, it would be pretty normal.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@gorillapaws- Yeah, over the years there has been a bit of exploring around the nether regions but while I am blessed with being multi-orgasmic, the G-spot thing eludes me. I don’t have complaints at all, just curious sometimes when I read accounts from other women.

@filmfann- the prostate kills men, scary but true so you guys better play with it all you can for as long as you can!

ItsAHabit's avatar

Do some women really have a g-spot?

AstroChuck's avatar

@ItsAHabit- Yes. It’s located in their grey matter.

sleepdoc's avatar

@Neizvestnaya I hope this doens’t come off the wrong way, but if you are multiorgasmic, call it a day and forget the whole G-spot thing. You are way ahead of the game in that regard!

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Gadzooks! If you are having great trips to Mighty ‘O’ land who cares how you got there, enjoy the ride. ;-)

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@sleepdoc & @Hypocrisy_Central: I hear you, really but I can’t help but be curious. If I’m multi-orgasmic then I imagine my supposed g-spot might open up an epiphany, out of body experience or enable me to speak in tongues… maybe even reveal the week’s winning Lottery numbers. One can dream.

sleepdoc's avatar

@Neizvestnaya Hmmmm you may have a point there.

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