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Disloyalty. What are your thoughts on the subject?

Asked by stardust (10552points) July 27th, 2010

Have you been disloyal to someone you care about int he past? Why?
If someone is continuously disloyal to all of those around them, how do they manage to keep friends/acquaintances?
It doesn’t have to pertain to people. It can be to a cause and such.

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IchtheosaurusRex's avatar

Sometimes you have to be disloyal in order to do the right thing. It can be a pretty tough decision to make.

I was disloyal to my parents, who were Republicans, when I voted for George McGovern in 1972. It was my first presidential election. McGovern’s opponent was Richard Nixon, a man who hated a lot of what I came to believe in – and, of course, a monumentally unscrupulous man. My father forgave me for it. He didn’t forgive Nixon.

Austinlad's avatar

My dad Polonius once told me…

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Farewell, my blessing season this in thee!

aprilsimnel's avatar

There’s a couple of rellies with whom I had toxic relationships, and for my own good and sanity, I cut them off. I didn’t do it abruptly or anything, either; I let them know the issues I was having with them and asked that we deal with them together. They declined, in the sense that I was told that I was full of crap and they attempted to continue to treat me as they always had. At some point, one has to put up one’s boundaries, so I ended things with them.

Since then, I get word occasionally through the grapevine that these people consider me a disloyal, selfish bitch for walking away. I think there’s a difference between true disloyalty, which I consider to be throwing people under a bus for your own ends, and doing what you have to do for yourself, or as @Austinlad‘s poem puts it, being to thine own self true.

marinelife's avatar

I think loyalty is fine up to a point. It is not disloyal if you walk away from someone who is treating you badly or who is engaging in criminal or immoral behavior.

Loyalty is earned.

Scooby's avatar

I don’t associate with disloyal people, I guess this is why I live alone……. :-/
Most people I know have let me at some point & I’m not one to forgive & forget, I just make mental notes :-/

stardust's avatar

@aprilsimnel I’d never describe what you had to do for yourself as disloyal. I think it’s rather brave. I’ve been in similar situations myself.
@marinelife Yes, loyalty is earned – thanks for the reminder.
@Austinlad Wonderful, thank you. If I needed to read anything today, it’s those 4 lines. :)

wundayatta's avatar

I have been unfaithful, but I do not consider myself disloyal. I have stood staunchly against the prevailing wisdom, yet I do not consider myself disloyal.

Just the opposite, in fact. Sometimes I think there is more loyalty in opposition than there is in support.

john65pennington's avatar

I feel that people that contstantlly swap one cellphone company for another, are being disloyal. loyalty counts and here is proof: been with T-Mobile for 11 years. one of their oldest, loyal customers. they give us free everything, even a free vacation. loyalty counts in the cellphone business.

kess's avatar

There is no special answer to fit all.

Take each as it comes,
do not hold any grudges at anyone,
cause you cannot change them and they will be themselves anyway.

You too will be yourself also .
So pay attention of who you are for that is all that matters anyway

Coloma's avatar

Disloyalty and integrity are intertwined, but…as always there are degrees of everything.
Finding a new cell phone provider is not the same as true disloyalty or betrayal.

BoBo1946's avatar

Ok, call 999–999-9999 and ask my ex-wife! she is an expert!

stardust's avatar

@BoBo1946 I called. She’s out, but I left a message giving her my two cents worth! ;)

BoBo1946's avatar

@stardust Loll…thank you my friend!

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