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How do you get people to see things from your point of view?

Asked by Mom2BDec2010 (2666points) September 7th, 2010

Me and my fiance always get in stupid arguments because he is totally hardheaded. How can I get him to see things from my point of view so he can understand more?

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Seaofclouds's avatar

He would have to be open to seeing things from your point of view for you to be able to explain it to him. If he’s not willing to try to see things from your point of view, you won’t be able to change that. Perhaps trying to explain it from his point of view would help.

shpadoinkle_sue's avatar

Ah, I learned to do this the right way a few years ago. You state your point of view while incorporating theirs into your arguement. “Your idea is good, but I want to do this that way. Thank you for that” Etc.

JLeslie's avatar

When you talk to him try to use sentences that talk about how you feel, and how you see things. Don’t use sentences that accuse him of being wrong or hardheaded. Show respect for his opinions, and recognize it is possible for two people to have opposing views and both be right.

Ben_Dover's avatar

Gentle persuasion.

Trillian's avatar

Seek first to understand. (Covey, S.)

Jeruba's avatar

Allow for the possibility that the rightness is not distributed 100% and 0%. Look for some middle ground. Perhaps you look a bit hard-headed and unyielding to him, too.

Deja_vu's avatar

I’m drunk and I totally get you :)

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

Aside from violence (which won’t really work, they’ll just play along)? Nothing. You can’t make anyone do anything. If we could make others see our point of view, there’d be a lot less violence and hatred and non-peace in general.

ucme's avatar

Battering them into submission both verbally & otherwise is, I find, extremely effective :¬D

zen_'s avatar

I twist their arm and make them say Captain.

Austinlad's avatar

It often takes two heads to be hardheaded.

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