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Are women insecure around women they find beautiful?

Asked by Kokoro (1424points) October 2nd, 2011

I have a friend who said, “I don’t even look at her because she’s the only person that makes me feel insecure about myself. She’s so CUTE.” or “Gosh, she’s so beautiful and so vain.”

I thought about this and wondered, is this normal? Should we avoid people we envy to not harbor these emotions or is it purely insecurity that we need to overcome?

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chyna's avatar

I would hope this is the exception rather than the rule. I don’t feel insecure around beautiful women.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

No. I’d be at a loss for friends if that was the case because several of my oldest and dearest friends are gorgeous women. Sometimes I feel a bit toady when out with them but not insecure.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

Not insecure no, I just don’t usually tend to like many women, unless of course they too are the kind of women who also don’t care for women… Then we are the best of friends and beauty or not, never is an issue doesn’t matter really… why should it?

JLeslie's avatar

I’m not.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Yes, I often feel insecure around beautiful women.I don’t avoid them, though. That seems really extreme.

janbb's avatar

Some are, some aren’t. Some of the time I might feel insecure, but mostly I just enjoy their beauty for what it is.

lillycoyote's avatar

I have to be honest and say yes, I sometimes do, but it doesn’t make me avoid or resent beautiful women. I know that my feelings of insecurity are about me, not the other person. But I also sometimes feel insecure around people who smarter, better informed and more successful, accomplished and talented than me too. I try not to let get to me or let interfere with my relationships with other people. I’m not particularly happy or proud that other people make me feel insecure sometimes, but it is entirely my issue.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

It seems that when we feel insecure about someone, it’s about how they can obtain something we cannot, due to their beauty. Thus, it’s not always about how we feel we look in comparison but what we think they can get like a man or a job or confidence. All of these things can be gotten by ourselves as well except that we must realize that time is wasted on comparisons. Perceived differences in beauty are due to societal standards that all people don’t agree upon. What’s beautiful to you might not be beautiful to another, especially to another who will be your one and only, for example.

digitalimpression's avatar

Ugly. Pretty. Meh. I’m too old to be shallow.

Facade's avatar

It’s hard not to be insecure around women you think are beautiful when you aren’t happy with the way you look.

AshLeigh's avatar

My sister, Morgan, is so beautiful around her I can’t help but feel ugly.
My sister, Erikah, is so skinny, standing next to her I feel fat.
So I guess that’d be a yes…

GabrielsLamb's avatar

@AshLeigh So does that mean by a natural process of elimination that you make them feel less brilliant? *Smiles

tranquilsea's avatar

No one really makes me feel insecure.

octopussy's avatar

Not insecure just a bit envious with the extra attention they get from males, lol!

Ayesha's avatar

Yes a little. But I try my best to get the feeling out.

Pele's avatar

I love being around other beautiful woman.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I often find myself comparing myself to women I consider beautiful and I hate it. I am not insecure about my looks for the most part but I do sometimes wish I was as beautiful as some of the women I see during my day. I don’t avoid anyone because of it though.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Because they do not have the visual fire power to keep up and stand out just as much as the woman they deem attractive and beautiful.

extremely_introverted's avatar

Well I wish I have bigger boobs because I feel like a duck. I have big butt w/ thick thighs but I lack in the boobs department. Sometimes I dream that I have my friend’s boobs because I feel like I would look perfect lol. I’m sorry for being such a feeling sexy kind of girl with my words but I just think that I would be contented with my body if I have bigger boobs. My friend has big boobs but with smallish bum so we often joke to each other that if we can just trade body, I mean just the “excess” it would be more than perfect. Telling someone whatever it is that I’m envious about help me feel better.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

^ Well I wish I have bigger boobs because I feel like a duck.
They are not everything, some men find a smaller woman who can pass the pencil test to be more desirable than those with big saggy water balloon boobs.

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