How can one get a strong/stronger willpower?

The best example I can give is when I packed in smoking eight years ago. No patches or gum, not any artificial aids were used, just sheer willpower. I think it’s just simple bloody minded determination to win through. I have that in spades, which is nice.

Some say “willpower”, I prefer to call it “stubborn”.

I simply decide for myself what is a good or bad idea, and stick with it.

Kind of explains how I managed to be a Fundie Christian for 11 years. I was too stubborn to admit to myself that I was wrong.

In the same way, I stubbornly stick to my belief that there needs to be a designated driver, and if no one else is willing to play along, I’ll have to save my martinis for next time. (I currently have about 8,756,000 “next times” piling up)

Exercise it. Really.

Meditation helps a lot. You learn to step back from desires and urges, just observing them as they come and go, without automatically reacting to them. They start to feel less like you. That sounds kind of strange, but there’s a big difference between “I’m hungry” and “there is hunger”. “I’m hungry” has a very compelling urgency to it, because it’s tied in with your sense of well-being. “There is hunger” disentangles the physical sensations from one’s sense of identity. You can observe it without feeling threatened by it. You no longer feel that you’ll be miserable if you don’t act on the impulse.

I’ve used hunger as an example, but all of our cravings work this same way. Meditation makes you pay careful attention to the craving process, starting in little ways. You see what your mind does with an itch, for example. As you’re sitting there still, that itch suddenly becomes your world, and scratching it seems like the most important thing in that world. The urge is to get relief by reacting to the itch and scratching. Sometimes, that’s the best thing to do. But not always. Often not, in fact. The question is, can you not react when you understand that that is the wisest course? Understanding the process and learning how not to infuse the feelings with a sense of self is key.

oh god…. is this for who I think it is !!!

he’s in bed doing you know what with the love of his life:P
I’m so mean

@sophiesword Oh my God!!!
Kutti chup kar!!
There how’s that for mean!

uff kya masla hai :P its the truth

No it isn’t!! Tumhey kya pta???

Jungee is doing it with his.

I mean its a Sunday, his kids are probably in bed and its a holiday tomorrow…. she probably wore some sexy lingerie!!! and that definitely drove him wild :P

Talk about being a good friend!
She’s fat remember??

so I don’t care I really don’t. I mean after our conversation I did a little thinking and so what

Fat and sexy lingerie?? There’s a combination!

Is it just me, or did we get completely derailed here?

yea well that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her.
Besides I’ve realized its more fun annoying you then it is consoling you.

@Seek_Kolinahr no no carry on we were just talking about something else

Sure he loves fat girls wearing sexy lingerie. Awesome.

I’m gonna say the same for Jungee baby!

oye sunno yaar lets move this to the inbox people will get confused
check your inbox !!!

This is more fun :) But okay.

What @thorninmud said (meditation). “That sounds kind of strange, but there’s a big difference between “I’m hungry” and “there is hunger”.”