Have you ever struggled to align your feelings on a topic with your beliefs/values on the same topic?
I have an issue in my life that is causing pretty massive emotional distress due to a conflict between how I feel about something and how I think about it.
I can imagine other scenarios in which this might happen—for instance, suppose a good friend lands a dream job while you’re unemployed. You might really wish to be happy for your friend, but feel too envious to be able to actually be happy.
Or for another example from my own life—I really, really hate public speaking. It’s important for my career and and I wish I could look at it as a great opportunity to get helpful feedback. But in reality, I feel overwhelmingly, irrationally terrified every time I have to do it.
Have you ever had anything like this in your life, where your feelings and goals or beliefs were in conflict? How did you resolve it? Or did you?
Important: I am not asking for advice about either of the situations I described. One is imaginary and does not even exist. They are examples to clarify the question.