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(NSFW) Is it possible to get any transmitted disease from these acts?

Asked by jabag11 (670 points ) February 17th, 2012

My friend (a male) is going to see a prostitute for his birthday tonight and says he is only going to do the following:

1) Get a hand job from her
2) Give her hickeys on her chest
3) And “finger” her

He’s going to do this while wearing a condom he says. So is it possible to catch anything at all doing this? Please no guesses, only confident answers please because I worry for him. It’s a serious thing, and because he is set on doing this because he believes no disease can be transmitted with these sexual actions.

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marinelife's avatar

Have her wash her hands with a hand sanitizer before the hand job, but otherwise, he will be OK if he does not break the skin on her chest.

Oh, he should wash his hands with a hand sanitizer after fingering her too.

poisonedantidote's avatar

It is possible to get a few different things from those actions, however the chances are low. So low in fact that I think buying a lottery ticket before doing it will create a scenario were the person in question is more likely to get a big win than any kind of STD.

Here is a short summary of what could happen, but keep in mind that it is a massive stretch of imagination to get from these actions to an STD. Also keep in mind that while I have read up well on about 27 different STIs and STDs, I only had 4 hours sleep last night, I’m tired, and sources can’t always be trusted, so while you want only confident answers, I could still be wrong on something.

If she has any cuts on her hands and the condom fails it is possible to get HIV from a hand job. It is also possible in theory to get HIV from giving her hickeys on the chest if she has given birth recently and is breast feeding a kid and has some HIV infected breast milk on her chest. However this is all really unlikely.

Herpes can not spread to the hands from fingering her as the skin is too thick, however if there are any parts of the hand with broken skin, it could in theory spread to the hands. If the hands are then used to rub your eyes or other sensitive areas it could in theory spread there also. Again, the odds are too low to even calculate.

Yeast infections can be spread from having sex on very rare occasions, and hands can also suffer from yeast infections. With a giant stretch of imagination you could probably get a male yeast infection from fingering followed by masturbating the day after. However this is also highly unlikely.

From what I know, if you follow the advice given by @marinelife your friend should be ok.

Having said that, I would not be amazed if someone else corrected me by showing my scenarios are impossible or corrected me by showing that all kinds of other things are possible.

filmfann's avatar

It all depends on the Prostitute and your friend.
If either of them have open sores, they they can transmit disease.
If the hickey breaks the skin, they can transmit disease.

This really is a bad idea.

jabag11's avatar

@poisonedantidote so then wouldn’t just normal sex WITH a condom be ok as well as long as he doesn’t kiss the girl?

poisonedantidote's avatar

@jabag11 Sex with a condom is not ok.

If you have sex with a prostitute using a condom, the chances of your friend getting herpes gets much more realistic. If your friend gets feels uncomfortable for a moment, or has been drinking, and the penis is not totally hard, then the condom could slip off either fully or partially, and your friends junk could end up full of blisters and lumps. Herpes has no known cure.

By having sex your friend would also be allowing for possible genital warts, a much higher chance of HIV, and all other kinds of things. That condom would be the only thing protecting your friend from all kinds of disease.

But…

Lets forget talking about STDs and STIs for a moment, and lets look at something else. This is something I talk about from experience. A few months ago I had sex with a stranger on a beach out in Spain. I was drunk and just did it. It was protected sex, but I had been drinking and the condom slipped off either partly or fully, I could not remember as I was too drunk. It turns out I did not get HIV, I did not get herpes, I did not get any kind of STI or STD at all, but you know what I did get? 4 months of horrible paranoia infused with sleepless nights.

Just because you dont get HIV or an STD does not mean your friend will be free from HIV and STD phobia/paranoia. It takes 4 months of waiting to get tested for everything, and in the mean time you suffer psychologically.

Also, I have recently proposed marriage to my girlfriend. She wanted to know about my sexual history when we started having sex, and I had to tell her about everything. I never visited a prostitute, but I did have sex with a few random strangers in my life. To be honest I did not enjoy telling my fiance about those things, but I felt I had to. One of the questions she asked me was if I had ever been with a prostitute, and I must say I am very glad that I could answer no to her with a guilt free conscience. How much is a night with a prostitute worth? is it really worth having to tell the love of your life some day that “yea I paid for sex once/several times”. I don’t know about your friend, but if I loved someone I could not lie to them about something like that. Then what? lose someone you really care about all because of a cheap thrill. It is not a good idea.

I would advise your friend to find a way of boosting his confidence so he can get out there and find a nice honest girl that he can have a nice relationship with, rather than resorting to paying for sex. Risk of STD or no risk of STD, it is still a bad idea.

Bellatrix's avatar

Depending on the prostitute he visits, he is likely to have less chance of contracting up a disease than if he picked up a random girl in a pub. Sex workers who are in the job as a job (rather than to feed a drug habit) are likely to be checked regularly (not mandatory in Australia as far as I can see) and are very likely to be very concerned and informed about safe sex. It is in their best interest both as individuals and businesses.

I am no expert on the sex industry but a quick look at Wikipedia suggests in Australia brothels must have local council planning permission. Sex workers are also covered under our Fair Work Australia legislation

There is also a link to a site operated by the Scarlet Alliance Australian Sex Workers Alliance.

Do a little research in your country and get your friend to do the same in terms of who he visits.

trailsillustrated's avatar

No. He should have fun. Jeez

Eggie's avatar

He should have fun. He cannot get STD diseases from those acts.

AshLeigh's avatar

“STD diseases” Haha.
He will probably be okay. The chances of catching anything that way is highly unlikely.
He’s going to do it anyways, so it’s better than what he could be doing…

College_girl's avatar

Just a little note hickeys on the chest isn’t the best idea. In some cases they have caused cancer I believe. Obviously it’s going to be a slim chance but still, you might want to hold off on that.

marmoset's avatar

Hope he’s aware that marking her chest is something he will really have to negotiate for (and most likely pay a lot extra for assuming he finds someone willing to do it). Leaving marks that will last for days is a huge deal—if he’s really attached to that, he could try googling for pro subs instead (professional submissives).

AshLeigh's avatar

@jabag11… Even stupider idea. XD

syz's avatar

How about you just get him a video game instead?

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