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Do you think you have a good personality and why?

Asked by chelle21689 (5450 points ) April 23rd, 2012

Also, do you think quiet/shy people can have good personalities even though they don’t take the spotlight quite often? I envy those that take the spotlight when talking and aren’t shy. I have tried to be that way and I felt like it wasn’t me and I felt very uncomfotable doing that.

When you first meet me I’m am kinda quiet. If someone is around me often and I’m comfortable that begins to fade. I can be goofy and completely silly but I can’t be this way unless it’s around my family and boyfriend. I also read many interesting articles of different topics and know many facts which I think is useful for conversation. I am just more reserved and I feel lazy to make conversation sometimes =\. There’s days I feel like a loner and hate people and then there are days when I’m optimistic. I probably get it from my mom because she is always pessimistic.

Aside from that, I love learning and doing new things. I’m open to almost anything and I think I have a good heart.

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Blackberry's avatar

Yes, because I know what my intentions are, and they’re not malicious. Yes, quiet and shy people can have good personalities. It doesn’t even make sense that only loud extroverts can have good personalities.

mowens's avatar

I’m a self proclaimed genius, so naturally I have a wonderful personality.

thorninmud's avatar

I have a lousy personality for a DJ.
I have a fantastic personality for a violin maker.

Coloma's avatar

Yes, I do. I am honest, open, friendly, humorous, enthusiastic, playful and gregarious. I am not afraid to speak about any subject, no matter how controversial and am, in general, an open book. I have often been complemented for being “real” and have been told that nobody ever needs to guess where they stand with me. I strive for authenticity and enjoy many types of personalities, people.

tom_g's avatar

I only have problems with my personality when it is clear that they go against my current interests. For example, when I get lonely I might be frustrated that my personality is what could easily be described as introverted and/or snotty. When I am feeling overwhelmed and anxious, the part of my personality that ruminates is not helpful. When I’m feeling depressed, the darker side of my personality is an unwelcome friend.

But when I am comfortable with myself, well….I’m comfortable with my personality (whatever that means).

chelle21689's avatar

I feel like I have good personality traits as well as bad. The bad being me wanting to not socialize sometimes and wanting to be alone…also worrying too much.

Keep_on_running's avatar

When you first meet me I’m am kinda quiet. If someone is around me often and I’m comfortable that begins to fade. I can be goofy and completely silly but I can’t be this way unless it’s around my family and boyfriend. I also read many interesting articles of different topics and know many facts which I think is useful for conversation. I am just more reserved and I feel lazy to make conversation sometimes =\. There’s days I feel like a loner and hate people and then there are days when I’m optimistic. I probably get it from my mom because she is always pessimistic.
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Yep, that’s pretty much me in a nutshell. Minus the boyfriend, and replace mom with dad.

cookieman's avatar

I have no idea.

I feel this is one of those areas where it’s not for me to judge. I think the people in my life are better equipped to answer that.

Same goes for “are you a good friend?” or “are you good looking?”

john65pennington's avatar

I am a people person and I have never met a stranger. I keep a smile on my face abot 95% of the time and it seems to make people attracted to me.

Coloma's avatar

I agree with @john65pennington and, I think we need to be careful about labeling.
I am an extrovert but I am not loud, I AM, open, and not all introverts are “quiet.” They just may require more defrag time from socializing. As an extrovert I can say I don’t like loud people either, but I do enjoy friendly, open, playful people that are quick to engage and can catch the ball and toss it back at me. :-)

Sunny2's avatar

Good or bad, I like my personality, but not everyone does. I’m funny to some people; not so, to others. I tend to listen more than I talk. I’m hard working, responsible and reliable and don’t have a lot of patience with those who aren’t. but I just avoid them. I find great joy and humor in little things. I’d better like my personality. I’ve been developing it for a long time.

Coloma's avatar

@Sunny2 Having a good sense of humor is huge, same here. :-)

wundayatta's avatar

My personality is good… if you want to try to help people.

My personality is good… if you think you know better than others what they should do.

My personality is good…. if you want to annoy people.

But no. I would never tell you I have a good personality. Nor would I tell you I have a bad personality. I leave it to you to figure that shit out on your own.

But rest assured that I am always trying to be the best person I can be… according to my own preferences about what is good.

ragingloli's avatar

Selbstverständlich!

flutherother's avatar

I am sure mine is, it’s just that not everyone agrees with me.

blueiiznh's avatar

For those who want more information about categories of personality, see The Big Five Personality Traits . The Big Five factors are openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism (common acronyms are OCEAN, NEOAC, or CANOE).

For a few quick self reviews:
Personality Lab
The Big Five Test

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I don’t really know how to answer that. I think that, yes, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. Then again, I’m not interested in tea parties.

ucme's avatar

Yes I do, I like me a lot.
Why? Coz i’m a happy go lucky fucker with my feet planted firmly on the ground.

Blondesjon's avatar

Yes I do.

i know this because my mother told me so.

wundayatta's avatar

Hey @Blondesjon. I saw your personality on the street the other night in a bad part of town approaching strange men.

Just thought you’d want to know.

When I say “saw” I did not meant I personally saw, and when I say “strange” I mean dressed up in unusual costumes.

Blondesjon's avatar

No biggie. I only had problems with one creepy dude who had his ass tattooed like a globe.

He didn’t seem to understand that no means no.

deni's avatar

When I let it show, yes. I can be nervous and I care about what people think of me a little more than I should. But I’m working on it. But yeah, I do like my personality. I’m hilarious, light hearted, easy going, positive but not annoyingly optimistic about everything, down to earth, honest, and interesting. Woop there it is

abysmalbeauty's avatar

I like my personality. I can be very shy at times and am naturally a guarded person but I am an optimist, I try to do good for others and help people see the bigger picture, both sides of the coin you might say. I also excel at speaking in public when that is required and am good at forcing myself to be outgoing if I have to be (like at work). I am honest, dependable, fair (i think) and a loving person- what more is needed? People generally get along with me and I with them so it all works out in the end.

augustlan's avatar

I guess so… not really sure, honestly. I’m extremely introverted, but I’m also a people person. Just for short lengths of time.

Bellatrix's avatar

Mostly yes. I am very outgoing and quite confident and I love to meet people and hear their stories. I care about people greatly and if I notice someone is being left out of a conversation, I try to bring them in. I try to be inclusive. There are undoubtedly times when I am distracted and concentrating on something else when I don’t do this so well.

I don’t think having a ‘good’ personality is dictated by how loud or quiet a person is. There are plenty of loud people who do not have good personalities. Some can be boorish, arrogant and egocentric. Equally some extrovert people can be considerate, kind and inclusive.
Similarly, quiet people can be fascinating, care about and are interested in the people around them and are fun to be with. Other quiet people are not so pleasant. We are all individuals, you just have to give some people a little more time to show their personalities.

Coloma's avatar

@Bellatrix Agreed and well said.
I’m an inclusive type also, I’ll chat up the wallflowers and notice those that seem to be left out. I think I am very good at making people feel comfortable and at ease and am highly approachable.

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