Yet another personal advice question?
Ok as previously posted I have reached the next stage in my autoimmune condition. Decompensated liver failure. I have also posted that I am estranged from my father, my wishes, and that my sister is not. He was also a pastor and with technology, physical distance is not always enough.
So you see where this going my sister, best of intentions and with the stipulation that he keep things private, told him about my health problems a week ago.
He immediately posted on his FB that I needed prayer and posted a few details also saying that his one wish was for me to tell him I loved him before I died… or he might have left out the last bit it sounds too over the top for me.
She came to me tearful thinking I would cut her off for violating my trust. I of course didn’t and we talked it all out. She said she told him she cut him off, I told her it wasn’t necessary, I should not be the reason to base that decision off of. End of problem. Right, not so fast.
We have some fb contacts overlap and I have been getting additional requests. With his old congregation a few extended family members, as well as people here in town. I have been recieving comments and general curiosity and sympathy pity and censure, in person too.
With people that I have long since ceased having any real form of contact with.
I have become increasingly paranoid. Even thinking that now he is looking for another person to keep him informed of my status or get “reports on me” and to apply pressure to “heal” the relationship.
I would not like to be that jaded or to have to cut off contact with these people or believe that they are genuine and we could possibly rebond.
But I know how manipulative my father is as well as human nature. And I don’t trust this spike in interest or games. But it has also occurred to me that he could come back up here if he doesn’t have a method to reach me, since it would seem she was sharing some level of info with him, possibly on my sister too depending on how that goes.
I just feel spun, and there are limits to what I can deal with rationally. It is my assumption that for the most part it will die down people will lose interest in the latest freak show and move on. Except for the potential busybodies.
Other then retreat, hermitize, close down accounts or block people. Which has been what I am doing this weekend. What are less extreme methods?
Is there a way to cast this in a positive light?
Thanks in advance for hearing and offering advice on my melodramatic poppycock.
Feeling as if I am pushed into solititude to feel safe is counterproductive to my welfare.
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