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LDRSHIP's avatar

What are some things that people generally believe are wrong or bad, but not actually are?

Asked by LDRSHIP (1087 points ) 2 months ago

Or because a lack of understanding.

From any topic or tag you can think of.

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Mimishu1995's avatar

Use of “racist” words.

Some people are considered “racist” just because they have a wide knowledge of vocabulary. Seems like people are just too easy to get offended by some words while the speakers don’t intend to be racist.

snowberry's avatar

On Fluther, that all/most Christians or Christianity in general, is “bad” or “wrong”.

rexacoracofalipitorius's avatar

Some people believe that sleeping in a room with a fan going will kill you. I’ve done it for years and I’m probably still alive.
Some people believe that eating <1hour before swimming will cause you to sink to the bottom and drown. This is not true. It doesn’t even cause cramps (nor does it prevent you getting them.)

Some people believe in a just and loving God, but it’s clear that if God existed then he could not be both just and loving. That is the most charitable interpretation I can offer.

GloPro's avatar

Taco Bell

kritiper's avatar

Birth control. Abortion. Population control. Humane killing of the sick and aged, with their approval.

AshLeigh's avatar

Marrying your cousin is just a taboo. There’s nothing genetically wrong with it. And it’s legal in a lot of states.

Coloma's avatar

You mean I could die, like really DIE, if I don’t turn my fan off at night?!!!!
What if I go swimming within one hour of a meal and then turn my fan on?
I’ll have some Taco Bell please, then a swim, then turn my fan on, and viola, I am so dead, unless, of course, that loving God saves me.

GloPro's avatar

See? Taco Bell is so good she chose it as her last meal.

How about Justin Beiber?

HAHAHAHA, just kidding.

Coloma's avatar

@GloPro I love Taco Bell!
Justin Beiber should be dropped in a vat of acid. lol

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

The belief that congenital clitoromegaly is proof of precocious sexuality in young girls and “nymphomania” in grown women is alive and well.

An interesting history on the medical evolution of this belief is found in Nymphomania: The Historical Construction of Female Sexuality, by Carol Groneman, 1994

This is really an astonishing, well documented research paper. The case studies are an incredible indictment against Victorian and early-to-mid twentieth century medicine.

Some interesting excerpts:

“A woman’s body would yield evidence of behavior to the trained eye of the physician that the woman herself might deny. In this way, gynaecology was able to lay claim to a unique role in the diagnosis and treatment of female disease. Although a study of six thousand French prostitutes, published in English in 1840, refuted the widely-held belief that sexual excess would mark the genitals in some obvious way, gynaecologists throughout the nineteenth century drew attention to the size of the clitoris and continued to diagnose hypertrophy of the clitoris among those women they labelled as nymphomaniacs (Meigs [1848] 1859,151; Parent-Duchatelet in Gilman 1985, 223).”

“Redness, soreness, or itching of the genitals was often noted, but in particular, an enlarged clitoris or labia was believed to be the pre-eminent indicator of female lasciviousness.17 A woman’s body would yield evidence of behavior to the trained eye of the physician that the woman herself might deny. In this way, gynaecology was able to lay claim to a unique role in the diagnosis and treatment of female disease. Although a study of six thousand French prostitutes, published in English in 1840, refuted the widely-held belief that sexual excess would mark the genitals in some obvious way, gynaecologists throughout the nineteenth century drew attention to the size of the clitoris and continued to diagnose hypertrophy of the clitoris among those women they labelled as nymphomaniacs (Meigs [1848] 1859,151; Parent-Duchatelet in Gilman 1985, 223).”

“The removal of the clitoris was justified because – according to Isaac Baker Brown, one of the major, and ultimately discredited, British proponents of the operation – it supposedly ‘removed the abnormal peripheral excitement of the pudic nerve,’ which otherwise would probably lead to insanity and death (1866, 70).

“The ideological assumptions of the period, however, imagined that female desire was passive and latent, connected to true love, marriage, and motherhood. A woman’s strong physical response to a doctor’s touching the clitoris or labia, or her vaginal contractions upon insertion of a speculum, were interpreted by some as the signs of excessive sexuality, indicative of a masturbator or a nymphomaniac.”

“Nymphomaniacs were driven to prostitution to satisfy their desires; prostitutes were often lesbians. 28 According to the New York gynaecologist Bernard Talmey, ‘It is known that Lesbianism is very prevalent among the prostitutes of Paris. ...One-fourth of all the prostitutes in Paris serve as tribadists for the rich women who patronise public houses’ ([1904] 1912, 150–51).”

“The Victorians believed that sexual restraint and adherence to highly differentiated gender roles were both evidence of and necessary for the continuation of the advanced level of civilization they had achieved. Lesbians, nymphomaniacs, and prostitutes – and by extension, suffragists, feminists, and the modern woman – were considered not only diseased, but dangerous as well (Lombroso and Ferrero 1897, 246; Thoinot 1911,469–70; Chauncey 1982–83).”

“In a case in 1894, Dr. A. J. Block decided that a thorough physical examination of a nine-year-old girl brought to him by her mother was needed to determine the degree of her perversion (diagnosed as masturbation tending toward nymphomania). He touched the vagina and labia minora and got no response. ‘As soon as I reached the clitoris,’ he reported, ‘the legs were thrown widely open, the face became pale, the breathing short and rapid, the body twitched from excitement, slight groans came from the patient’ (Block 1894, 3). Block stated emphatically that the child’s violent response proved that the clitoris alone was responsible for her ‘disease.’ He performed a clitoridectomy (Block 1894).”

“By the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, discussions about nymphomania reflected increasing concern over the “New Woman’s” greater independence and potential opportunity for sexual experience. Commentators feared the “proletarianization of sexuality” – that is, that middle and upper-class women who left the safe confines of home to work or attend school would become like working-class women, who were perceived as inordinately lustful and as sexual opportunists. 31

“Furthermore, some authors began to focus on the potential ..masculinization” of women who stepped outside the boundaries of family and home. Career women, feminists, educated women who did not marry – a growing number at the turn of the century – were taking on male roles and potentially acquiring the “masculine” trait of aggressive sexual behavior. This concern about women’s masculinization coincided with the development of new psychoanalytic theories that reasserted the essential passivity of female sexuality and underscored the notion that a mature, fulfilling sexual experience for a woman could only be achieved through vaginal orgasm in heterosexual intercourse (Freud [1905] 1962, 86–93). Eventually, those women who did not experience vaginal orgasm but maintained their sexual focus and excitement in the clitoris would be diagnosed by psychoanalysts as ‘frigid.’ ”

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So, they were either diagnosed as nymphomaniacs (insane), or frigid, (slightly less insane, but insane all the same). Man, they couldn’t win.

Interesting how doctors inserted suffragette-ism and feminism into their diagnoses, as proof of the progressive masculinization of the sexually aggressive female—all signs of incurable nymphomania. And their opinion that commoners were insinuating their “base” sexuality into the docile lives of the upper classes via rich ladies with large clitorises who visited prostitutes for clandestine “lesbic” laisons. This isn’t medicine, this is incredibly good pornography.

It’s beyond me how a man—no, fuck that—how so many men, a whole society of men, could be so victimized by a “sexually aggressive” spouse that he would order her to be sexually crippled, or locked up for the rest of her life. Life would be incredibly dreary without women with healthy sexual appetites. Some guys would never get laid, for sure.

ragingloli's avatar

nudity, sex, swearing, gay marriage, science, socialism, gun control, weed, satanism, atheism, reason, logic, compassion, empathy, tolerance, tentacle rape all the way through

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

That the cold will give you a cold.

fat is bad for you.

being a conservative white male with a good job.

PriceisRightx26's avatar

Depends on what you consider bad/wrong and in what manners. There are things that can be seen as morally wrong (common arguments are those aforementioned in this thread), but there are also things that some people think are just bad (stigmatized aspects, such as mental illness or diseases).

@ragingloli , while I have no idea what “tentacle rape all the way through” means and I agree with the rest of your comment, I’m especially thankful that you added “swearing” to that list. I genuinely cannot fathom why people reckon it is more offensive that you say “fuck” or “shit” rather than “ouch” or “crap.” There are sooo many other words that I consider worse than curse words, like “stupid” or “ugly.” OH, and that people use “fat” as a bad word. Stop that nonsense.

.:steps off soapbox:.

ragingloli's avatar

@PriceisRightx26
“All the way through” means that the tentacle in question enters your gastrointestinal tract at one end, and comes out of the other.

Coloma's avatar

The irrational and ignorant fear of wildlife. “OMG! I saw a Otter in my pond and I must kill it or trap it because it will eat all my pond life and it’s the “city” slickers, that vote in these conservation laws because they don’t know how DANGEROUS these animals are!”
Real life conversation with 2 former “city slickers” of only 2 years up here in the hills.”
Uh, no, conservation laws are based on, well, duh..conservation.

The CA. River Otter is protected as a native species because it was hunted and trapped to the verge of extinction in the last century for it’s pelt.

I didn’t even bother to get into it with these morons.

GloPro's avatar

@Coloma I read an article about a mother brown bear attacking a runner in Alaska yesterday. They shut down the area to people for a week to allow for the bear and her cubs to move on. That was nice.

Coloma's avatar

@GloPro Nice. One of my major passions, educating ignorant f—ks about wildlife. Bah!

Dan_Lyons's avatar

—@rexacoracofalipitorius if God existed then he could not be both just and loving.
If God exists he actually could be both just and loving.

ragingloli's avatar

He could also be neither just nor loving.

bolwerk's avatar

Bit piracy.

Stinley's avatar

Stereotyping. It’s not always bad to put things in categories. Just so long as you are realise that they don’t have to stay there.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Some of the things people want to believe are bad when they are not in actuality are:

• Going braless.
• Wearing of animal fur.
• Eating pig.
• Eating meat in general.
• Praying.
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• Monogamy.
• Wearing minis and Daisy Dukes make you hoochie.
• Tattoos (no matter how stupid or ugly)
• Wood burning fireplaces.
• Cats.
• Owning an exotic sports car worth more than $90,000.
• Swallowing (yeah, that swallowing)
• Anal sex.
• B&D.
• Heels over 4in high.
• Non-florescent light bulbs.

Coloma's avatar

I freaking hate the new light bulbs and have stock piled regular bulbs. Freaking Halogen lighting is hideous, autopsy room lighting. Gah!

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

The idea that “hell” and “damn” are swear words. That “crap” is acceptable, but “shit” is not. Same with the phrase “Jesus Christ”, which comes out of my mouth when someone startles me. Now, I am offended by the F—- word a lot more than these others.

Coloma's avatar

@Skaggfacemutt I have this bitchy elderly woman neighbor and she drives me nuts with her rude remarks about overweight people. I have heard her say on at least 5 occasions in recent months, talking about women walking in the neighborhood..” Well she’s a beefy one”, ” Look at that heifer”, ” That ones got a lot of padding”, and once she actually was telling me about an overweight women she saw on TV that was gasp a dancer!
I can’t believe how incredibly RUDE some people are!

I am on the verge of telling her, if I hear her snipey comments one more time, ( and this goes for everyone, she is a gossipy backstabbing old witch ) ” Well you know M. it’s a lot easier to lose weight than it is to fix a SHITTY personality! hahaha

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

^ Apparently not, or that woman would not have any ammo to use.

Coloma's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central Well…you get my jist.

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