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(NSFW) Why is male prostate stimulation stigmatized as an exclusively homosexual act?

Asked by anna_nonny_mouse (92 points ) 2 months ago

This is something I’ve always sort of questioned and not really understood. Maybe a lot of it has to do with American culture and other areas view it differently, but I honestly have no clue.

Why is it that if a man enjoys prostate stimulation it automagicially means that they must be homosexual or at the least, bisexual, even if they find no sexual attraction to the same sex.

The whole logic of it seems asinine to me honestly, it’s totally ok to grab your own dick to masturbate and still be straight, but if you explore other parts of your body, you’re somehow gay, even if it’s a woman that’s doing these acts to you.

Is this nothing more than just a case of people not being comfortable with their own sexuality?

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DrasticDreamer's avatar

Yes, it’s ignorance plain and simple. Unless you’re a pedophile or rapist, don’t worry about what other people think of your sexuality. It belongs to you, not them.

syz's avatar

Same reason homophobes think only gay men participate in anal sex.

Dan_Lyons's avatar

Are you worried people will think you are gay because you enjoy having your prostate stimulated Anonymouse?
Don’t worry about what others think of you. Go ahead and have yours stimulated. Please come back and tell me how it feels, I have never done this because I always thought only gays do that sort of thing. But I am interested in hearing from someone who has had it done.

anna_nonny_mouse's avatar

@Dan_Lyons I wouldn’t so much call it worried, more annoyed at having to “explain myself” or knowing that I’d be viewed differently by some if known by others. Frankly something I find annoying.

To answer your other question though, mind numbingly good. Like, better than any other orgasm you’ve ever had. That’s the other part about this whole thing that confuses me. Most men are missing out on something that can give them far faaaaar more pleasure than “conventional” means just because of a stigma.

Dan_Lyons's avatar

For many of us it hasn’t nothing to do with the stigma of homosexuality, @anna_nonny_mouse (not that there’s anything wrong with that).

It has more to do with simply being uncomfortable with using a porthole that all of our life has been for egress only and suddenly using it for ingress.

anna_nonny_mouse's avatar

@Dan_Lyons and up to puberty our dick is only used for urination but we have no problem making that conversion over to using it for pleasure.

Dan_Lyons's avatar

I take great pleasure in using my butt for egress only activities. I reiterate, it has more to do with simply being uncomfortable with using a porthole that all of our life has been for egress only and suddenly using it for ingress.

You are not going to change my mind by switching the subject.

Seek's avatar

There are ways of stimulating the prostate without switching to an “ingress” route.

Try a small bullet vibrator on the perineum (behind the jewels) whilst receiving other pleasure of your choice to the penis. The vibrations should easily reach the nerve endings of the prostate.

anna_nonny_mouse's avatar

@Dan_Lyons I’m not trying to change your mind…

@Seek while true, it’s not the same. Only the tip of the iceberg sort of speak.

Seek's avatar

Perhaps enough to pique an interest, though, no?

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

It is? I’ve never heard that. Never thought of it as an exclusively homosexual technique. It must be that the anal play aspect makes them uncomfortable. I suspect this is driven by young, male heterosexuals who are still a bit insecure with their sexuality. They just need more experience.

GloPro's avatar

@Seek It piqued the interest for an ex of mine so much he asked that I just put the little bullet straight in his arse. He loved it so much he left it in there until the batteries died and he shit it back out later. So funny.

JLeslie's avatar

I personally don’t know any men who think that, but I’m sure there are men who probably do. I haven’t talked to very many men about it though. I live in America.

anna_nonny_mouse's avatar

@Seek True.

@Espiritus_Corvus I think you may be right that it is more of a younger insecurity thing.

gailcalled's avatar

I too don’t think of it as “stigmatized as an exclusively homosexual act,” when I think about it at all.

My best buddies, a gay male couple, don’t like any kind of anal stimulation. Ditto for my other gay male besties. Ditto for the men I’ve had in my life.

GloPro's avatar

@gailcalled So your friends only have oral sex… Forever?

gailcalled's avatar

Or mutual masturbation. I don’t know about forever; certainly up until now.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

A woman can give a hand job, she cannot bugger a bloke. Another bloke can giver a hand job plus he has the dumbstick to do the buggering with.

GloPro's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central They didn’t invent strap-ons just for lesbians.

DominicX's avatar

One of my straight friends admitted to liking it and he was pretty much ridiculed by a couple other straight guys. “It’s just gay—there’s no way around it”, one of them said. I mean, it makes sense that because of male/male anal sex, that prostate stimulation has come to be associated with homosexuals, but to think that enjoying prostate stimulation, something that any man could potentially enjoy, automatically implies an attraction to men is ridiculous.

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