If you could be granted one of these two wishes, which would it be?

I don’t believe there is that one special person out there, but the lots of those incredibly destructive and crushing mismatches.

Neither. If I hadn’t dated and even married the frogs I did, I wouldn’t be so sure that the man I’m with now is a prince. It’s like trying to avoid going through any pain, discomfort and unpleasantness in life. If you don’t experience the lows, you have nothing to measure the highs against. And those experiences with the mismatches help us understand ourselves and to learn and grow and to know what works for us and what does not.

Is this question limited to romantic relationship?

If so, then both wishes would be useless. I don’t marry anyone, ever.

I wish that was true..) I think anyone will do but I would like to use the first one.

Wouldn’t getting one mean you get the other too? If I know I’m gonna know my “soulmate” when I see them, and I see a boy and don’t get the tingly feeling that he’s my soulmate, then I know he’s not my soulmate.

Sorry. I over think things.

I already know the answers to those. What else you got?

Heh. I’m not sure I understand exactly how the second one’s supposed to work. It kinda depends on the person’s theory of what “meant to be with” is like.

The first one I relate to more. I remember having huge interest in people and having doubts. But I suppose it still depends on what this “meant to be with is” business is. Meant by whom? I’m highly suspicious of the agenda of whatever cosmic authority claims to know that.

In my own ideas about such things, I’d think of them more as:

* To know, immediately, correctly, and without doubt, a man/woman would be a really great match for you that would almost surely turn out well, when you see them.

* To know, immediately, correctly, and without doubt, a men/women would be a poor match for you or one that would almost surely turn out awfully, when you see them.

That makes more sense to me, and it’s a tough choice. The second one seems more practical to me, but either one would be great. I’d probably choose the first one anyway, and just try to hold out for a hit… although I might tend to start doubting whether it was really working until I got the hit.

What might have worked just as well, would be if someone had told me when I was younger some compelling stories about how much it sucks to find someone and then talk oneself out of going for it and then regretting not having gone for it. And also, how when you know someone seems to be a really bad idea to stay with, to get the heck away from them ASAP. I feel like that sort of advice could be almost as good, but then, hindsight is 20/20.

I’ll pass, thank you. I really couldn’t care less about “the rgiht one” for me.

The premise that there is a “right person” spoils this for me.

Well, I went with the first I can see problems if there were more than one person that fit the bill. You know you and Mary are meant for each other but next week you can tell that you and Sally are meant for each other. Does that mean that you and Mary no longer are or does it mean you have to convince Mary and Sally that the three of you are meant to be together?
What if Mary is not interested? They are both, according to your abilities, perfect for you. Which one do you choose? Or do you just rock along until the following week when you discover that Jane is your perfect match, at least for that week.

Seems like it would be easier to know when you are not a match and then only work with those who could be.