Does my coworker like me more than a friend?

It sounds like he does. Do you like him? If so, go to the event with him and see how it goes.

None of these movements is allowable in my office.

I assume you’re okay with this behavior, because that same list could easily sound like sexual harassment.

Also, you said “they” at the beginning. Is that just a typo?

It sounds like stuff that could just be friendly or it could be more. You say this person (or “they?”) is the same with everyone? I guess you either have to ask or you have to wait and see.

It sounds like they do. If you like them, why not hang out and see where it goes? But one caveat, office romances can cause messes in the workplace.

Your descriptions of repeated touching – hugging, kissing, and stroking your arm – made my own flesh crawl. That sort of behavior isn’t appropriate within the workplace. This is a colleague who doesn’t have a romantic relationship with you; from what you’ve told us, you and he don’t even have a friendship beyond work. Even if the person tends to be overly warm and affectionate with all your co-workers, there’s something troubling about the situation as described.

It’s fine if a colleague says “Hi” frequently and invites you to do things outside of work; such overtures don’t cross any boundaries, and you have the power to decline invitations. All that touching, however, is different.

I agree with the poster above, who calls that sexual harassment. That’s what it is. Tell the guy to take a hike, or report him the Powers That Be in your workplace. Completely inappropriate behavior for the work place.

Wow! It SURE looks that way!
But take advice from someone who has experience with co-workers and romance: DO NOT get romantically involved with a co-worker! KEEP IT CASUAL!!! Be friends, but KEEP IT THAT WAY!!!

Or, she could try friends with benefits. Always keep the options open.

Friends with benefits are not “friends.” ESPECIALLY in the workplace!!! Don’t allow the issue to be clouded!

It sounds like sexual harassment to me too. I’d be so stomping on toes and breaking fingers.

It sounds like he wants to have sex with you, which doesn’t necessarily reflect any stronger feelings than that.

Yup. Agree with @Dutchess_III. This is as clear a case of sexual harassment I have ever heard. You tell him to knock it off and you report him to HR.

If that happened in the military and anybody found out, your coworker would be gone, gone

Just one question to the OP. Do you welcome his advances or not? We don’t have an indication of your feelings in the matter.

I have a feeling she is very young, and rather flattered, thinking that he really “likes” her. But that’s a good question @janbb.